Can't get over or under it.
Saturday, October 20, 2012
My sister-in-law who lives out of town paid a rather quick unplanned visit and stayed over for several nights. She was here to see her alcoholic father who had fractured his neck in a drunken fall. Also my husband's father and he has had the brunt of taking care of him during this yet another crisis. Her life has not gone the way she planned it her daughter has bipolar disorder coupled with severe alcoholism and her husband is also a severe alcoholic. They no longer can afford to live in their home so she has moved to a very small basement suite with a hot plate. Really, she has moved away from her husband and daughter because she can't stand to watch them destroy themselves. I have a lot of empathy for her and the last time she left her husband she stayed with us for two weeks. I believe she has now seen a therapist for some help with dealing with this.
Knowing all this, I still can't get past a comment she made to me. She has quite an acid tongue and completely out of context she said, "You are average you know!" My husband responded saying, "I think Wendy is extraordinary!" I said, "Sometimes average is good, things go well and there's no drama!" Then we left it at that. However, I don't seem to be able to have closure. Part of me wants to let it go because she has enough problems. The other part of me wants to tell her off for being mean. Nobody likes to think of themselves as an average Joe or Jill. Something inside us all wants to feel special and important in some way. I am mad at myself because it is renting space in my mind. Why can't I just shelve this careless remark? It was meant to wound and I like a fool let it and keep letting it wound me more.