I know the answer to this blog's question, but I would love some comments on how to handle the situation other than what I have already done.
As most of you know, I run a small bingo (30-35 people) and most of them are seniors, although they now go from 19 to 97. We have men and women, skinny, fat, short and tall.
It will be nine years since I've run it and within that time we've had a lot of people go the the nursing homes or die. Only once in all these years did I ever have to kick anyone out and that was a couple that was in their 80's. Okay, Okay, wait a minute--I'm not a nasty ole broad. The man of this couple was a sweetheart and although in his 80's, his wife made him work. He'd take a bus for about 20 minutes so he could be a school guard. He did this twice a day. My problem was with the "lady". She had a mouth like a truck driver! Everything was give me my f-in money or don't touch my f-in cards. I was in awe, but my little seniors disliked that kind of language. So I told them they could not come back--I did give them a warning first and things didn't get better the next week, so they were gone. I felt line an as*, kicking two little old people out. But life went on.
On to my current problem. We have a senior center in the area and an older gentleman sat down next to these two women. The one he sat net to was just a little lady, the MIL of the other lady. The gentleman says, Phew, what stinks? MIL did not answer. He then asked her if she could smell that odor. She shook her head "yes". Then the other lady spoke up and said "it's me, I'm fat (about 450#) and I stink". The gentleman said nothing and moved.
Well, lucky me, Ms. Stinky, moved into my building and started to come to bingo. Now there's stink and there's STINK!!! And a "STINKER" she is! She has probably played with me for about 6 years then moved to Florida (Oh, happy day!) When she was with me for those 6 years, I repeatedly told her she has to clean herself up. In one ear and out the other. I bought her soap, a brush, a long handle thingie that you use after going to potty so you can reach everything, deodorant, baby powder, perfume and even some of my clothes that were big, but it never embarrassed her, or even shamed her a little. It was like she had no idea what to do with them. Again, I told her in plain English that she stunk and I told her husband. The following week she wasn't as bad, but you still didn't want to sit by her. I had one lady run to the bathroom one of the evenings because the smell made her sick. Don't you think that somehow this would sink in? I would be absolutely mortified if someone told me that I stunk!!
A few of us women got together and after bingo one night, made her "Queen for a day" and again gave her all kind of goodies to help her be able to shower or sponge bathe and reach all places necessary. And I even got her a cute nightie. We want her to feel like a woman and take care of herself. Again, to no avail. Well, she moved a year ago to Florida and we were all very happy that we were able to breathe again. She was there a year and came back again right before Christmas.
My first Bingo of 2013, 1/9, she comes into the hall and immediately starts a fight and is stinking to high heaven. I laugh about it now, but I felt like a referee, because I'm pounding the table and ringing my cow bell until she shut up. My nephew got me a little cow bell to ring when it's time to start bingo or if they just get too noisy. They listen well, it's like they are afraid of the bell. lol So, I talked to her the next day and told her she was not welcome any more, then after giving it some thought, I told her if she can learn to act like a lady and smell like a lady, her and her husband would be allowed back in after a few weeks. I told her if she can't clean herself, she has a husband to help and if not, they're are services that will come to the house a few times a week. Her husband said that he was going to set up something for someone to come in once a month. Once a Month!! Believe me, as smelly as* like hers needs a lot more attention than once a month!
So, my dear spark friends, I would like to hear from you on what else I could do to get her to change and if you were her husband, would you help or not?? Have any of you encountered this kind of problem and what did you do about it?
Thank you much! Noel