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Eliminated Alcohol.. Damn it's lonely

Saturday, January 26, 2013

So I decided to eliminate alcohol completely from my life. There are a lot of reasons I came to this decision.

#1 is the fact that I grew up with an alcoholic mother and now have a sister who has serious substance abuse issues.
#2 Lately when drinking it feels a void in my soul... which scares the crap out of me. (Is this how alcoholics feel?)
#3 Health reasons... sick of being hung over. I really feel like it's damaging to my body.
#4 Alcohol interferes with my school work

Now this is all fine and good, but I never expected how lonely it would be. No more late night bar crawl... no more parties. Not meeting new people without the bonus of being buzzed to cure moderate shyness.

: ( Happy and yet lonely.

Sincerely, Emily
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  • ADZY86
    I think you've made a fantastic decision. Better to nip it in the bud before it becomes an actual problem. Well done you for taking control and making the decision for yourself. emoticon
    3101 days ago
  • DJ9ERS
    Good for you... best wishes to you now and always.

    The clarity in your reasoning is true. Have a great day. You can do it!

    3101 days ago
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    I know it seems bad now, but with time you will see that it was a good decision for all the reasons you listed, AND you don't have to be so lonely!! :-) Good job on figuring this out at a young age! (((HUGS)))
    3102 days ago
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    3102 days ago
    emoticon emoticon emoticon Kudos to you for figuring this out so young! I didn't make the realization until my mid-50s that it was time to just STOP. My reasons were it made me stupid, and caused me to overeat on junk, but what was the truly deciding factor was that it separated me from Spirit; I lost my connection to the Goddess when I drank. She was a lot more important to me than the fleeting pleasure or the illusion of well-being.

    I didn't start losing weight immediately, but I did get sober before I dropped 75 pounds and went from obese to a healthy weight. Your physical and spiritual health is far more important than the rest of it. Yes, you can look for new friends in more positive environments, *and* you can learn to appreciate solitude and the joys of becoming your own best friend and biggest champion! Celebrate your freedom!

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    3102 days ago
    So glad you're self aware. I just got there myself, I could have written your post, replacing mom with dad. I keep getting invites to go out and have drinks and I feel embarrassed to tell my friends that the reason I'm saying no is because I think I have an addictive personality. And I'm shy so alcohol helped in social situations and I'm not sure how I'll be sober. Lonely indeed, but if you ever want to talk, send me a message ok.
    3102 days ago
  • no profile photo CD12981526
    No room for alcohol in my life either. Too many calories and gives me a headache and I don't like it much anyway!

    You'll find new friends. How about joining a gym or a sports club of some sort?

    3102 days ago
  • no profile photo CD5563494
    Hugs to you! I am sure you will find a whole bunch of new friends you can enjoy your time with! You are such a wise young woman and I am cheering you on too!! Congrats to you!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3102 days ago
    there is a website called meetup that has lists of organizations and clubs. it can be adjusted to your interests and location. there are social groups and events for the non-drinker. i know how difficult it is to give up drinking. i had to when my doctor started me on a medication that interacts badly with alcohol.
    3102 days ago
    You can be social without drinking. I'm a wino, and could definitely lose control if I didn't keep the focus on that little monster. I, too, have felt the loneliness and eventually you'll get out there and not feel like you're missing anything. Chin up!
    3103 days ago
    Wow! What amazing insight you have and good for you for making this change. You will learn other ways to meet people and cope with your shyness. You are also establishing a new legacy by not following in the foot steps of other families members alcoholism. I am cheering you on!
    3103 days ago
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