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Patience: An Important Part of the Journey

Saturday, March 16, 2013

My inner toddler whines all the time: "IT'S NOT FAIR! I WORK OUT SO HARD AND EAT WELL AND BARELY LOSE A POUND! I want to lose weight now!!!!"

Here's my inner toddler's attitude:

Today I was blessed with this meditation in my email. It's exactly what I needed to hear this morning, and I thought I would share it.

And as for me, my 58-year-old inner toddler now has the motivation to get up and do it all again today!


I've started to realize that waiting is an art, that waiting achieves things. Waiting can be very, very powerful. Time is a valuable thing. If you can wait two years, you can sometimes achieve something that you could not achieve today, however hard you worked, however much money you threw up in the air, however many times you banged your head against the wall. . .
--The Courage to Change by Dennis Wholey

The people who are most successful at living and loving are those who can learn to wait successfully. Not many people enjoy waiting or learning patience. Yet, waiting can be a powerful tool that will help us accomplish much good.

We cannot always have what we want when we want it. For different reasons, what we want to do, have, be, or accomplish is not available to us now. .

But we can trust that all is on schedule. Waiting time is not wasted time. Something is being worked out - in us, in someone else, in the Universe.

We don't have to put our life on hold while we wait. We can direct our attention elsewhere; we can practice acceptance and gratitude in the interim; we can trust that we do have a life to live while we are waiting - then we go about living it.

Deal with your frustration and impatience, but learn how to wait. The old saying, "You can't always get what you want" isn't entirely true. Often, in life, we can get what we want - especially the desires of our heart - if we can learn to wait.

Today, I am willing to learn the art of patience. If I am feeling powerless because I am waiting for something to happen and I am not in control of timing, I will focus on the power available to me by learning to wait."

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  • no profile photo CD4357551
    Very well said. I think this is a point we all miss on occasion. We have learned to want it all RIGHT NOW!

    Well it's easy to have all the food we want right now but the weight - well that does take time!

    Thanks for the reminder and the great quotes!


    2771 days ago
  • GOIN4GR8
    Great blog--exactly what I need--more PATIENCE!

    Thank you for your comments on my page today about SparkCoach. I appreciate your point of view, and I'm going to consider it.
    2773 days ago
    Great blog! So pertinent to me right now! I tend to spurt with large bursts of effort and expect instant solutions. These thoughts are right on target!

    I kept reading advice to set small measurable goals, and finally I did. I didn't put them on my page at first because--you know--I didn't want to be accountable. Finally I did. I have found them so effective in soothing my inner toddler. There is never very long that rascal has to wait for the next milestone. And when I say "milestone," I just mean the next few pounds' goal date which I made a wild guess at! But it has helped me wait with less agitation.
    2773 days ago
    very good blog!
    2773 days ago
  • SUGAR0814
    Thanks for sharing. Patience is a hard one for me! I'm working on it!! Great blog! emoticon
    2773 days ago
    Waiting, waiting, waiting...

    I am actually a very patient person-
    you have to be to be a teacher of the little ones.

    2774 days ago
    OMG - waiting... that was the topic I was mulling over in my head all week.
    I am sooo bad at that. I want it and I want it now. Gets me in trouble every time.
    Had some time to reflect on that this week, but need to constantly remind myself that instant gratification is not the way to get what you want and be successful in the long run.
    Seems like I'm not the only one struggling with that.
    2774 days ago
    Those "tantrum throwing inner toddlers" have the loudest voices!

    The only way I know to get patience is to go through situations that test it - proving whether or not I have it in that situation. It's not usually a pleasant test, either.

    Hang in there! You're practicing maintenance before you take your next step down.
    2774 days ago
    I can sooooo relate to this!

    I want stuff YESTERDAY once I realize I want it at all! LOL

    These days I try to see things that require patience as opportunities to practice doing it more gracefully. Sometimes I'm more successful with that attitude than others...

    2774 days ago
    It is frustrating when we want something and it doesn't come right away.
    Waiting can be tough.
    Have a terrific week end.
    2774 days ago
  • NANCY-
    What a beautiful blog (which of course comes from a beautiful person.) If you don't mind sharing I'd be interest in the source of that email.

    BTW I raised my sons to be gentlemen. there are quite a few up here in the North. :)
    2774 days ago
    Good advice..................I need to practice patience also.
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  • 922012
    That's it though - while you're mastering the art of patience - you're learning so much more than just that. You're being grateful, getting up with a whole new day stretching out in front of you, focusing on what you can do and can control instead of wasting time worrying about what you can't.

    My inner toddler was whiny this morning too. The scale went the other way from yesterday. Did I really eat enough nutrition to gain a pound? No. Will I sulk about what the scale reflected? No. Because I realize tomorrow it will reflect something else. I know I'm tracking all my nutrition, drinking my 64 ounces + of water, and exercising. I am changing whether it is reflected or not.

    Heh, must be the patience talking instead of my inner toddler, eh?

    2774 days ago
  • JIBBIE49
    Keep going.
    2774 days ago
    Nice blog. I love your quote. It is so hard to be patient, especially when you are trying to lose weight. Yet as you wisely point out, there is nothing else to do, but be patient, get up and do the same thing again today. Those pounds will come off!

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    2774 days ago
    I totally agree with you!
    2774 days ago
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