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What is my peaceful "perfect" weight goal and WHY??

Monday, April 01, 2013

I have always been an analytical person and when I started down this road I set my sites on a weight that would put me smack in the middle of my healthy BMI range. Then my dearest SparkFriend Jonnie (JAZZEJR) suggested I go for a weight that will put me about 2-3 lbs past my goal so that I could have a buffer that would fit my life style. So that is what I aimed for. Crazy as it sounds when I reached that new goal I kept losing so now I sit about 4 lbs below Jonnie's suggested goal and I have been within 1 lb of that weight up or down for over a year. It is very close to the weight I was at before I became pregnant with my first child and with my new obsession for brisk walking it is an easy weight for me to stay at.

I still track my weight weekly although my true goal is to always fit my new skinny jeans. I'm sure something will make my weight go up again whether it's a cruise (we have a 15 day one planned this year to celebrate our 40th anniversary) or just that my current fitness goals don't cut it anymore but I'll fight my way back to those jeans because I remember how awesome I felt to buy them and still feel to wear them wear them.

I find myself now completely obsessed with fitness and healthier lower calorie eating. I can't stand a day when I don't do something just to be active, even if its just a walk around the block.

I am truly dismayed though that now that I'm in maintenance mode I find myself evaluating peoples appearances. This is something I very rarely did before I started losing weight this time and I hate myself for doing it. My beloved sister and my beloved mother were both obese and my best friends from both high school and college are also obese and I know how lovely they are on the inside. I still wonder though how some people seem not to care.

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    My daughter has worked so hard to improve her health through consistant excercise, but I have noticed that she, like you, is more critical of others who have weight issues. It's like learning to drive or swim....once you've mastered it you can't understand why others haven't done so as well. It's also like those "born again Christians", who believe that EVERYONE should share their beliefs. Some people are content taking taxis, wearing life jackets, or praising Buddha.

    Your lifestyle example will inspire others. My daughter's did. She finally succeeded in dragging emoticon me to join the Y, where I am now struggling to do crunches, lunges, and weight lifting.
    2872 days ago
    I suspect they do care. Maybe they lack the sense of sel-worth you have. Or think it is better not to try than to fail. But they almost certainly care somewhat.
    2938 days ago
    There are worse things to be obsessed with than fitness! I also tend to judge overweight people that don't seem to care. I just need to remember that I don't know what they might be going through...
    2940 days ago
    So wonderful that you share what you are doing to maintain your weight. It's good to know what works!

    Oh that cruise may put a little dent in that straight line success run, with all the salt they put in all the food. But water weight will be lost first thing once you're back. Enjoy yourself--sample the delights of the cities you visit. It's worth a bit more exercise once you return. AND you can begin each morning of your cruise with a walk around the top deck or a fitness class--they're fun!

    I like to think I just "notice" the health choices of other people more. Just like as an English teacher, I notice an ungrammatical structure--can't help it--but I don't judge the person for it. That's all it is; after all the concentration on your own appearance to get to your goal, you can't help but be more keenly aware of others'. Don't you think? emoticon
    2941 days ago
  • LE7_1234
    It's interesting how our attitudes change, isn't it?

    These days, I'm more likely to look at someone obese and wonder about their pain. Or notice a friend putting on weight, and wonder what's going on in their life, and if there's something I could/should do to help...

    May your skinny jeans always fit!
    2941 days ago
    Sounds like you've had a change in attitude. I sometimes judge people too, and I'm a long ways away from my goal weight. I have the "if I can do it, so can you" attitude towards people that complain about being overweight but don't seem to do much to change it.

    Funny how our perspective changes!
    2941 days ago
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