Thinking instead of sleeping...
Saturday, April 06, 2013
So what is wrong you ask? I have a friend going through a tough time. She wants to get a divorce and is taking steps toward that end. I am the only friend that knows. I told her I could keep this secret for her. I am really having a hard time with it! She doesn't talk to a lot of her friends, because she is basically lying to them. The problem is...some of her friends are my friends and I still want to talk to them. So now I am lying to them!
I understand that her husband is clueless and on his best behavior. I have told her of my experience with divorce. It is no walk in the park. I have played the devil's advocate. I told her of all the things that can happen. How hard divorce is and it is a blessing she has no children. I tried to approach it logically. I can't anymore. It is affecting me to much.
How do I tell her I can no longer keep this a secret from all our mutual friends? I promised I could keep it a secret. I don't want to break my promise! I don't want to feel like a traitor! I also don't want to continue helping her lie to my friends. Maybe I am taking this too personal. I tend to do this sometimes. It really isn't about me, but it is affecting my mood. I was very depressed yesterday. It took some tears and a little sleep to help me see that it is this whole situation that is causing me to be depressed!
What would you do? Help!!
sleepless in Montana!!