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Feeling sad and defeated

Wednesday, July 03, 2013

This is my first blog post ever and I'm typing this because I have no one to talk to about my weight issue.

I've actually been trying to lose weight longer than I have been logging my food and exercise into sparkpeople, but it has been a struggle. I must have a horribly slow metabolism, because it seems like no matter how hard I try I just can't lose more than a few pounds. Then I get discouraged and give up.

I had surgery a few weeks ago, so I haven't been too active, but tomorrow when I have my checkup I will ask the doctor if it's ok to start going to the gym because I REALLY REALLY need that to help boost my metabolism.

Every day I'm ending the day with less calories than what I should be eating and I'm just not losing weight quickly like I use to =( I am deliberately going under my calorie limit because of the fact that I currently am not exercising. It's been 3 weeks since my surgery, and the swelling has gone down......so I'm pretty sure that it will ok to start going to the gym again. With that said, I still feel disappointed because you'd think that if a person is eating such a small amount of calories they would still be losing weight anyway, with or without exercise. I have always heard that dieting is 80% diet, 20% exercise.........maybe that's not true. I don't know.

I don't understand it. Last fall I lost about 10 pounds and I wasn't even trying! lol I was in school and spent most of the time sitting around studying and snacking on whatever I wanted, but I lost weight! Now I'm nearly starving myself and I can't lose more than a few pounds and then it's like the scale just gets stuck. UGH. Doesn't make any sense. So now I have become obsessed with losing weight, lol.

And then there's the "low fat vs. low carb approach". I'm still torn between the 2, but I guess I favor the low carb lifestyle. Grains are not good for everyone and I don't believe fat is bad for us if we are not consuming large amounts of grains. But conventional diet wisdom tells me to eat whole grains and avoid fat like it's the plague. When I eat this way I just don't feel good. I feel crappy and tired and sluggish. When I did the low carb/paleo diet a few summers ago I felt so different. I felt mentally clear.......energetic.....focu
sed.....and happy. I also lost 20 pounds.

Why do I always gain the weight back though? Because I can't eat like my family eats. They can eat whatever they want and stay thin. So they think that I can go out to eat and go out for ice cream and bake brownies and homemade cookies and indulge just like they do, but I can't. But I want to make them happy, so I do those things.....then the weight slowly creeps back on. =(

I usually don't feel sorry for myself and complain about things.......I never bug anyone about how sad I'm feeling or b*tch about my problems, but I'll admit that today I'm feeling extremely defeated and sorry for myself and had to get it out =( emoticon
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    Thank you guys for the encouraging comments. I'm going to try really hard to stay focused and not give up this time, even if I don't see results as quickly as I'd like. I'll check out the slow carb group too........I've always been a fan of lower carb diets.
    2561 days ago
    Keep focused for success.
    2561 days ago
  • CANDIK48
    So sorry to hear your troubles. But there is hope! Keeping your calories too low actually makes your body hold onto everything it can. It will actually cannibalize muscle (we need those to keep our metabolism up!) and store as much fat as possible cause it thinks you're in a famine. It's a survival thing. I haven't tried the paleo, but I am on the 4 Hour Body Slow Carb plan. It works for me better than any other plan I've ever tried. I eat proteins and non starchy veggies and legumes 6 days a week and then enjoy a day off for calorie cycling. The off diet day keeps the body in the fat burning mode and keeps it from adjusting to the other 6 days of diet eating. I feel better, I'm never hungry and the one day a week off keeps me sane. There is a group here dedicated to low carb/slow carb plans. You should come check us out! It's called "slow carb dieters". emoticon
    2561 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/3/2013 2:13:21 AM
  • ALICIA214
    This a great site for you to get all kinds of support..encouragement...and friends...
    all you have to do is reach out. Now ...about you eating less calories than you need is
    your problem it has the opposite effect .. your body goes into starvation mode and
    stores fat so you need to plan to eat more, lots of fruit and veggies, fibre and protein.
    and don;t forget your eight glasses of water per day.
    If you look at the different teams you should find some that you would like to join and
    before you know it you will make some friends and have some fun to..you may even find some members in your area..
    Hope this helps.. emoticon emoticon
    2561 days ago
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