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My Uncle Killed Himself Today

Friday, September 27, 2013

My moms brother killed himself Today(thursday)
the one that had cancer and I guess he couldn't handle the pain anymore.
I'm very angry right now.
And very stressed.
And my grandma lost another child. I don't know how to comfort her. IDK what to do.

I'm just so angry at how selfish he was.
I wanna cry because I'm just so angry that I'm stuck comforting my grandma because she lost another child. this one because he was so selfish :(
It hurts
please pray for my grandma because idk how to comfort her and all this makes me angry
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  • AMR6665
    2577 days ago
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  • 3016DEBRA
    emoticon How horrible for your family...{{{{HUGS}}}} & Prayers to all of you

    2578 days ago
    Prayers and hugs. emoticon
    2579 days ago
    I too am very sorry for your loss. I feel for your family, but sometimes, I think that when the pain is so great, people that want to end their lives....that is all they see and feel and somehow they don't realize how hard it is for the families they leave behind. I will be praying for your family.

    Barbara emoticon
    2579 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/29/2013 9:59:19 AM
  • KAT7457
    Sorry for the loss of your uncle all you can do is be there for your grandma hug her listen to her talk emoticon emoticon
    Prayers to you and family
    2580 days ago
    I'm so sorry your family has to deal with the loss of an family member. There are alot of wise words in the comments given~have lost a brother and watching my parents grieve was very hard, not to mention my own emotional breakdown losing a sibling. Not long after my cousin took his life~and that too was very hard to deal with. I haven't had a family member pass from Cancer, but my boyfriend's father fought it along with Hep C from a botched blood transfusion.

    Dr. Phil would say "I can't say I know how you feel, because I don't" but I do sympathize with you and your family. Anger is one of the steps of grieving, and it won't be the last time a flash of anger comes, alot of crying and hopefully some laughter.
    2580 days ago
    I'm sorry for the loss of your uncle and for your family's loss. Suicide is a hard thing to understand. Just be there for your grandma.
    2580 days ago
  • no profile photo CD13099273
    I am so sorry for all of your loss - Go ahead and cry - get it all out - crying is good for all us ! Hugs Karen
    2580 days ago
    So emoticon for your loss! You are in my thoughts and prayers! emoticon
    2580 days ago
  • TERRY0217
    I'm so sorry for your loss..and for your grandmother's loss..Try to forgive your uncle. .he must have been in so much pain and wasn't thinking clearly...lift him up to our merciful Lord..I pray for peace and consolidation for your family..
    2580 days ago
    All you can do is love your Grandmother! Yes, she has lost another child, but it is not up to us to judge anyone and the choices they make. Cancer is a horrible disease and takes one's hope away. He probably wanted to die on his terms and not where the disease may have taken him. So sorry for your loss and the grief that has descended upon your family. May God Bless and keep all of you. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. emoticon emoticon
    2580 days ago
    I'm so sorry for your loss and for your grandmother's as well. It's difficult to lose a loved one but when it's suicide that just creates a new set of emotions to deal with as well as the grief of his passing. I'm sure he was not in his right mind when he did that. He just didn't see any hope for a different life and probably was experiencing a lot of pain with his illness. We never know what a person is thinking about when they decide to end their life in that manner. Hug your grandmother and let her know that you love her and care about her. You can't change what has happened but you can love her through her grieving process. I am praying for you and your family!

    2580 days ago
    oh honey, I am so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to you and your family. Such a tragedy. Suicide is such an extreme and permanent answer to life's problems... I don't think your uncle was thinking at all. He must have felt very desperate to do this. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Love & emoticon Karen
    2580 days ago
    Just being there for her with be a comfort emoticon
    2581 days ago
    prayers to you and your grandma. emoticon
    2581 days ago
    emoticon so sorry to read this very sad news. I hope family comfort brings you all peace and support emoticon
    2581 days ago
    Praying for you, your family and your uncle. His transition to his next life is not going to be smooth and he will need prayers for healing his spirit in addition to prayers for you and your grandma to cope. Hugs and love to help you get through.
    2581 days ago
    I'm so sorry for your loss. We'll keep you in our prayers.
    2581 days ago
    I am sorry for your loss. My prayers and thoughts go out to you and your grandma. emoticon
    2581 days ago
    So very sorry...will be praying for you and your Grandmother, only God can comfort her in a way that she needs. emoticon
    2581 days ago
  • JUDITH316
    I am so sorry to hear of your family's loss with the recent sudden loss of your Uncle, this is so sad and such a tragedy for the whole family, Please accept my sincere condolences. Praying for God's peace, comfort and healing for you and your family... emoticon emoticon
    2581 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/27/2013 4:36:11 PM
  • FROSTY99
    I am so sorry for your loss. It is so hard to lose a loved one to suicide and truly there is not much one can say-yes they are selfish, but we have no idea what they are suffering. I lost my mother and a grandson-I had to forgive both of them for it and you will find in time you will forgive him (at least I hope so). I could not even admit what my mother did for years.
    Praying for your grandma, you and the rest of your family.
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    2581 days ago
    I'm so sorry for your loss. You're poor uncle must have been in a lot of pain. Anger is normal for now. I hope you, your Grandmother and the rest of his friends and family find peace soon. I don't think suicide is selfish at all. Again so sorry for your loss.
    2581 days ago
    Prayers are there for both of you, I know how it feels to be angry at the person that killed their selves. My brother did it by in 1988 & at times I'm still mad at him for not being stronger. But you can't spend your time being angry, it only makes it worse for everyone. Just let your grandmother know you are there for her at any time & tell her how much you love her. She will have to find her own way to cope, you can't do it for her.
    2581 days ago
  • TIGER_LILY_613
    I'm so sorry for your loss, and how much stress it is causing you. So very sorry.
    I have prayed for you, and I continue to hope that things will get better for you.
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    2581 days ago
    So sorry for you loss. Just be there for tour Grandmother. emoticon
    2581 days ago
    I am so sorry to hear of the tragic loss of your uncle. I agree with others, just being there for your grandma will be a comfort to her.

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    2581 days ago
  • no profile photo CD8180433
    Sorry for your loss. Anger is part of the grieving process and it is normal for you to be angry. I hope someday you will forgive him though. Peace for your family. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2581 days ago
  • COOP9002
    Prayers for you and your family as you deal with such tragic news.
    2581 days ago
  • MARYBETH4884
    Prayers and hugs for both of you!!
    2581 days ago
    Praying for you and your family...... emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2581 days ago
    I am so sorry for the pain this has caused the family, and so sorry for your loss.
    Praises for you in being there for your grandmother during this difficult time.
    Big prayers of support and comfort to you and yours.

    2581 days ago
  • LADYJ6942
    How terrible. Hugs, so sorry for your lose. Hugs and prayers
    2581 days ago
  • no profile photo CD12400696
    I am so sorry for your loss emoticon
    2581 days ago
    What a horrible family tragedy. the pain and agony go deep deep deep into all of your hearts and souls. even your uncle -
    i have always been told that suicide is a 'coward's way out' but i realize with age and similar experiences - that it is not so cut and dry.
    an astounding diagnosis of cancer can shock that person so profoundly that they loose all hope and perspective.
    i am positive it clouded all reason and good judgment with your uncle.
    two years ago - i lost a very dear person - it was two days before his 23rd birthday. he was good looking , he had a beautiful girlfriend, a great job and just got his electrician license - of which he was very proud. but three weeks before his departing - he lost the most important woman in his life - HIS GRANDMOTHER - and i think it put him into such a dark place of despair he could not bear to be with out her and left this place.
    what he did was wrong - his mom and dad will never be the same - never be consoled at his loss.
    so my dear friend - try to replace the anger in time - with a softer place for your uncle - and it is good that you are here to help your Gran - give her all the love you can - leave no energy for the anger..
    i will pray for all of you.
    2581 days ago
  • KAZZIE531
    I am so so sorry for the loss of your Uncle. The best thing you can do for your Grandma is to hug her, listen to her cries...just be there for her. Sometimes just being in their presence helps them. Don't let her be alone.
    2581 days ago
  • no profile photo CD13640190
    emoticon hug you grandma and let her hug you back emoticon cry for her, for her son, your uncle and for yourself. Sometimes there are just no words. Cry out to God with groaning. He is the only one who can truly understand everything that everyone was and are going to go through. You don't have to know what to do because He does!
    Jesus, when you ascended into heaven to sit at the right hand of the Father you sent us a Comforter in the Holy Spirit, thank you for sending him to us. Your grace and mercy are sufficient for us. Wrap Your arms tightly around ISAVEDME80 and her family as they grieve. In Jesus mighty name I pray. Amen ( and so it will be)
    With love, Sunflowergammy
    2581 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/27/2013 10:47:02 AM
  • PGHP31CK
    I am so very sorry to hear about your uncle. I am praying for you, your grandmom, and your whole family.

    It's ok to be angry. Know that you all are being lifted up to the Lord.

    May our Lord Jesus give you His comfort, strength & peace as you move today, and the days ahead.
    2581 days ago
  • no profile photo CD14188335
    I likewise am so sorry as well. I had a friend commit suicide as well. some family members. Prayers going up for you.
    2581 days ago
    My prayers are with you and your family. Suicide is a very difficult thing to go through. Know that you do not have to be alone going through this, also that it is best if you find someone to talk to. emoticon emoticon
    2581 days ago
    Sending prayers your way ... remember to seek out help from the community you live in to help you deal with this issue and find support for your grandmother as well. You are not alone. God Bless.
    2581 days ago
    you and your family are in my prayers. so very sorry for your loss. emoticon
    2581 days ago
    I am so, so sorry for your loss...
    2581 days ago
    Prayers sent Heaven's way. Such a tragic event. emoticon
    2582 days ago
    Praying for you and your family, especially for your uncle, who couldn't endure the pain any longer...how awful for everyone!
    2582 days ago
    I'm so sorry. My prayers are with you and your family.
    2582 days ago
  • no profile photo CD12499805
    Oh my gosh! I am SO sorry! emoticon I feel your pain because I have had people commit suicide in my life too and leave a trail of broken hearts, and a mess. I will surely pray for you, my friend. I know the pain well. God bless you and your sweet grandmother. A BIG hug from Florida. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2582 days ago
    Sending prayers to u and your family soooo sorry for your loss heartbreaking .. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2582 days ago
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