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Rough Patch

Saturday, October 26, 2013

My fiance, Lulu, and I have hit a rough patch the past couple months. A couple of minor fights and one huge one that nearly cost us our relationship. But the past couple weeks we have been trying to work it out. So tonight we are going out to on a date. I love her and want to stay with her forever. I can't wait till tonight. I better get going, only have 2 hours to get ready!

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    Good luck to you! My fiance and I have been together for nearly 8 years now. Something happened in our lives recently that has forced us to be separated, and he will be gone for the next 7.5 years.

    It is super frustrating, but one thing we've learned is that all of the fights we used to have in the past were completely meaningless. Heck, we can't even remember what most of them were about. Just remember that there is a bigger picture. I know the day-to-day can sometimes get to everyone, but at the end of the day you should strive to never go to bed angry at the person you love. I don't know what your fights are about, but trust me when I say that if someone were to separate you guys against your will right now, you would feel that all of those fights don't even matter. It helps to put things in perspective.

    I also have a friend whose husband was a deputy sheriff here in our area. He was killed in a motorcycle accident back in may. They had only been married for maybe 3 years, and were trying to have kids at the time of his death. When I think of her, I really realize that none of the small, petty stuff matters. Sure, maybe I used to get mad that he'd go out at night sometimes and stay out until after 3 in the morning, but that means nothing when I think about the fact that life could really take him from me at any time. Then him staying out late would certainly not seem important.

    Again, perspective is key. So is truly listening and understanding. You guys can do it! Enjoy your date!
    2557 days ago
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    You are doing the right thing by trying to work through it. I am no relationship expert but my mum told me when I got married that the secret was to talk and listen and she has been married for forever!! (I am not sure how long but she is 70 now and they married young)

    Have a wonderful night tonight and save any deep discussions for another time though

    2558 days ago
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