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SG BLOG 1: What Got Me Here

Friday, January 10, 2014

There are so many reasons that I am at the weight I am. My weight has fluctuated over the years. I have always been "heavy" in the legs, but I was pretty healthy and fit after my first two kids were born. (120-130 lbs) Not thin, not fat.

My then youngest son had some health issues, so life seemed to get manageable once he was in preschool and I had some free time to myself- a few hours a few mornings a week. I loved my free time and exercised a lot, and I had just gotten very fit and thin...and quickly got pregnant with my daughter emoticon

It was really between her birth ten years ago and now that I have struggled. We moved, and although only 3 miles away, I left a very comfortable community where I knew everyone and was now trying to fit into a new area where everyone already had their friends (so Junior high, I know!) Then, my mom had a car accident that I spent years helping her recover from- which didn't help me in the making friends area of my life. My parents went from being independent to much more dependent and in failing health. I love that I can be with them and help them, but it has consumed much of the past ten years. I was blessed with baby #4 at 41 years old, and that has been the biggest blessing and the biggest challenge all wrapped into one. As baby #4 was being cute and giggly, baby #1 started struggling in school, we found a significant learning disability, and that led him to suffer from mild depression. Getting to understanding all that was a journey that took a few years and had more than a few potholes in the road. I feel that depression has been a huge issue for me, too, as I see him dealing with his and I understand depression more.

I am where I am because life became a whirlwind and was busy and hectic...and now, as things slow down and the kids grow up a little bit and I have more free time than I have had in years, I have the time to honestly look at the damage I have done. I have not cared enough, really and truly care enough, to say good bye to bad habits for good. I give in to emotional eating because it is easy, feels good for a sec, and is often easier than saying NO to myself. I have always felt pretty good about my insides and so although my weight bothered me, I didn't have it in me to do the work required to change it.

Losing weight is not hard. It just isn't. It is hard work, for sure, but given time and dedication, it can be done. No matter how slow you go, weight can be lost! There are many things in life you can't do no matter how hard your try. But, I have not let myself make and KEEP the progress I have strived for. It is the BELIEVING part that I struggle with. I need to believe that I am stronger than my challenges and I need to stand up and face them rather than crumbling into a jar of peanut butter and hiding. I know why I am here and I really feel like knowing it and realizing that I have let these past years get the best of me makes me mad. I could have had more balance and joy, even when times were tough. I just do not want to go forward with regret for another day. I want to live with purpose and intention and a strong belief that I am capable of living the life I am meant to live!
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  • MJ7DM33
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    2606 days ago
    emoticon Very hard being a mother! But you are realizing you need me time and where there is a will there is a way!
    2607 days ago
    So many of us struggle with putting everyone first, you can do this! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2607 days ago
    I know you struggle with the up and down and taking time for yourself. You are a wonderful dedicated mother and wife and it seems to eat all of your time...and like me you are last "on the list" for needs and wants.

    Thank you for sharing, we can do this with each others support.
    2607 days ago
    It is what it is. You can only do at any given time what you're able to do right then.

    I always wish I had had FlyLady before my kids were born - we might have played a lot more! Or not?
    2607 days ago
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