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From binge to breakthrough

Saturday, May 10, 2014

Good morning SparkFriends,

I binged yesterday! Yeah! emoticon
I know it sounds paradoxical but even if it bothered me yesterday evening while I was consciously overeating, I knew I was about to experience a breakthrough. And I did!

I need to say it was a very successful binge emoticon :
- it numbed my feelings (I felt scared of going back to ballet after such a long break - more than 2 months...)

- it kept me awake (thanks to the sugar in the strawberry jam I only went to bed at 3am - so of course I would feel too tired to go to ballet in the morning! Yeah! What a great idea!)

- it was also a success considering that, beforehand, I would not feel any discomfort at all when binge-eating. Now I sure can! Oh dear...

- it helped me see beyond my short-term feelings (feeling ridiculous in my ballet class) to the long-term ones. Indeed, even if I love my ballet teachers and my fellow ballerinas, I've always known that going to a 3-hour long class on Saturday mornings was not for me (apart from going to work, the doctor's or occasional races, I can't stand having regular appointments - they feel like prison to me).
Solution: I'm going to give the remaining lessons on my card to my friend who first introduced me to the class. No more stress! A happy friend!

- it connected me to my family ('Where's the bread?' 'How come there's no more butter?' 'I want some strawberry jam!')... ok, like a cat scratching the furniture to get attention but that's the best I could do at the time. Today, I've come up with several solutions! Yeah! emoticon

If you've read my previous blogs you know I've been working on adding more fun into my life, so that fun would replace food as my go-to activity. It's been working but I've begun to realize that it was not enough. For those of you who listen to the Inside Out Weight Loss podcasts you may recognize the self-correcting strategy Renée Stephens calls 'first line of defence' - renewing activities we can do on our own.

I used to have a simple poster with a picture corresponding to each favourite activity that helps me regain my balance. Now I've decided to incorporate them into my daily schedule as rituals. So I made up a new form. And to adopt new healthy habits, I'm going to play the Pleasure Point Game, trying to collect as many points as possible by having fun all day long. I'll simply tick each activity on my form once I've done it and then I'll add up all the points on a grid. Obviously, DS10 likes that idea a lot and that makes me proud and happy!

Yesterday evening I understood it was time to move on to the 'second line of defence', the one that involves somebody else. So I'm drawing up lists of the things I like to do with each member of my family. For instance, I like riding buses with DS10, I like dancing with DS3 while I like watching TV series with Hubby (have you seen the British series Sherlock with Benedict Cumberbatch? I love it!).

However, I also wanted something that would connect all the members of my family. And the boys gave me big pointers to that! I've found it! Driving back and forth to my late father-in-law's flat, Hubby ended up listening to a radio called 'Rires et chansons' which plays music and comic sketches. We had fun listening to Gad Elmaleh for example! If you're not familiar with him, here's an extract from one of his show:
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watch?v=dJu7tjZZRtI


And my son now watches popular videos on the net like Cyprien or Norman. www.youtube.com/
watch?v=3pKRgp9ChrE


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watch?v=fQO2Opzvyeg


They make us laugh! I hope you'll share the laughter!

Now I get it! I finally understand what Renée Stephens has been saying about laughter being a great healer! It's also a connector! So, guess what: I'm now drawing up a list (yep, another favourite of mine - writing lists) of things that make my family laugh.

What about you? What makes you laugh?

Thanks for reading! Have a great day!

Nan
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  • BREW99
    It sounded strange at first but I can understand where you are coming from with acknowledging that you were doing something wrong. That is a breakthrough that hopefully will lead to future success.
    2215 days ago
  • CM_GARDNER78
    Yay!!! Who would have thought a binge would lead to a breakthrough?! As usual, your reaction is wonderful, and gives many great ideas on what can be done in these kinds of situations!! Great GREAT example!!! :-)
    2475 days ago
  • JUDYAMK
    Good evening Nan, when did you start ballet ? I always wanted to and also tap . I went to classes in my forties, we even had a show at the high school on stage. i loved it. I could not as a child, but all the things I wanted to try as a child I do as an adult.I wanted to take piano as a child my husband bought me a beautiful piano, I took private lessons for a while. So happy to hear you like ballet.
    You have eyes the color of the sky they are beautiful, my Nanny had beautiful blue eyes also.Have a blessed Sunday. Do you all in your country have Memorial Day? We have it on Monday parades and going to the cemeteries with flags & flowers. We will all go to a big lake and have a picnic with Aunts, Uncles & Cousins. I plan on having extra food to eat at this picnic. I always do at family gatherings .Take care Nan
    Judy
    2475 days ago
  • MIRRORBALLMOON
    Sherlock is the best show! :) I love your attitude - sounds like a successful binge indeed. I so relate to your comment about being able to feel physical discomfort when over eating - that's relatively new for me too!
    2480 days ago
  • OHMEMEME
    Sound advice from yourself! I call this an "aha" and an NSV! Best wishes...and Keep Sparking! emoticon
    2488 days ago
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    I love your perspective and whimsical reaction! Bravo!!
    2490 days ago
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  • FIREFLY4407
    Great blog - good for you identifying the trigger for the binge and addressing it immediately. Sometimes things we think should be helping (like your class) are actually hurting, and it is so important to really know what is right for YOU and make adjustment accordingly. Your plan sounds great and I'm sure you and your family will have lots of FUN!!
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