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looking back and moving forward....pt 4

Thursday, December 04, 2014

Healthier choices—or—it really is all about ME….

My goals for the 2014 were: do more for me (I’m always doing for others and neglecting myself), taking risks, accepting change and reaching out.

I’ve joked about my being 54 and waiting for DH to turn 50 before having HIS midlife crisis, but in around about kind of way it’s true. He’s not much for changing things… so I did – and it wasn’t easy for me either.

I’m generally a prude when it comes to my attire and the grandkids grew up with Gramma wearing 2nd hand flower print dresses or jeans and a sweater or sweatshirt. I had a very simple bob that I’d have cut maybe once a year and didn’t wear makeup that YOU knew about. People who love me have been giving me advice, gentle nudges and gift cards for years…. This year I used them. I basically threw caution to the wind and let myself have a make-over. I had no idea what I was going to end up looking like. I blindly let people decide on my hair, make-up, and clothing. I said nothing but let them do their thing. I was amazed at the results. It’s nothing drastic or cheap looking, but I was definitely moved outside of my little box, and found out there really is something out there which I can purchase new and still feel appropriately dressed for the office. And, I no longer run around in the sweater or sweatshirt (see pt 2 regarding improved circulation). On top of that, I don’t look half bad for an old lady =)

DH and I are generally homebodies. Outside of office, family, a neighbor and some church acquaintances, we don’t socialize much. I’m getting old enough to know that DH and I will not be around forever. He’s not very mobile, doesn’t eat well (on his own, but with me he's a bit better) and is in generally poor health -- yet skinny as a rail – go figure! I have to be realistic – it’s not inevitable, but highly possible that he’s going first. I need to have a social outlet and not end up a sad, pathetic recluse.

I reached out this year (not an easy thing for me since I had trust issues). I organized/joined walking groups, I organized/joined SPARK teams, I’ve taken people from the office to lunch/dinner, I’ve made more effort to reach out to family/friends/church acquaintances, and I’ve even talked to a stranger a time or two. I’ve had a few let downs, but I’ve learned to manage them and move on. I’ve even made a few new friends and strengthened a few old relationships.

I learned to say “NO” to the bad attitudes and bad habits in my life.

I took a rather stressful and negative environment, in which I work, and made it a more positive one… focusing on the “if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all” philosophy, I don’t have many office conversations anymore. I walk away from the whiners if I try to turn the conversation and they won’t change it. I have a more positive environment around me with inspirations, music, etc. (more on that in pt5). Some people are picking it up and going with it –others, I’ve learned, just like to be miserable… I don’t have to go with them.

I say No to mindless munching and office offers. There have been times when everyone one was munching on something that in the past I would give in and eat --- not now, I've got lots of yummy, healthy and filling options to choose from. Sometimes people are envious of how much I eat and still be able to lose -- it really is a matter of what you put into it. Whole, unprocessed foods (not religiously but for most of my choices) has done wonders for me.

I make healthier choices when we eat out. I tend to not eat if I can't get the nutritional information on an item. Trust me … looking at the information is important. I’ve learned a thing or two about things that look very healthy but are far from it.

The other day DH and I were so busy he offered to get burgers -- I said "NOPE, I got a steak, potato and salad with my name on it at home, but you can if you really want to!" (and I meant it because we've done it before).... he opted for healthier at home too. =)

I feel happy, healthy and empowered by the choices I’ve made this year.

I will make the healthier choice MY choice.
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    Great attitude. The people I work with have bad attitudes toward work too. I go into work and say I love my job and they look at me like I am crazy. Actually they tell me I'm crazy. lol
    But we need to keep up the positive attitudes.
    1897 days ago
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    What a wonderful attitude and great things you are learning! I'm right there with you, trying to figure it all out. emoticon
    1899 days ago
  • LJK091354
    Great Blog! I too probably could have written part of this blog! I need to work on parts of it and I will. I love your healthier choices and the fact that your husband sometimes does the healthy choice.

    Merry Christmas!

    1899 days ago
    Sounds like you have a plan and making good use of it....GOOD FOR YOU!!
    Like SPEEDY. i could have written "some" of this blog myself......I am not a social butterfly and feel in my comfort zone when with people i have known for some time....I am a work in progress also....aren't we all as far as that goes??
    1899 days ago
  • SPEEDY143
    I could have written this Erin... Why...why...WHY do we wait soooooooooo long to love ourselves, take our needs seriously, say "no" and mean it?? My DH has got on-board as well and is really enjoying the ride... sometimes I think I've created an exercise monster emoticon but I too want this one to be around for a long time. Lost my high school sweetheart after 7 years of marriage at age 27... motorcycle accident. I'm so glad you are happy AND healthier emoticon We have far fewer years ahead of us than we have behind so why not enjoy every moment emoticon emoticon
    1900 days ago
  • ALIALI2013
    Way to go, congratulations. I loved reading this, and am so proud of you. Keep up the great work!!
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  • BLUEJAY1969
    What an amazing journey you have been on! I am so proud of you and the fact that you keep stepping outside of your comfort zone!
    1900 days ago
    Sounds like you have been on a wonderful journey, Erin, and made many positive changes in your life. Bravo for putting your health - physical, mental, and spiritual, first!

    It seems like the mid-50's is when we finally have the time and mind to reflect on our lives, and adjust our course to create the kind of future we want to live. You and hopefully DH too, have a lot of living to do and I am happy for you that you have set in motion a healthier and happier path that will serve you well!

    1900 days ago
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    its amazing how by you making healthier choices your DH is following your example...I have yet to accomplish this yet with anyone besides my oldest son because I realize I choose what he eats unless we are out then he orders chicken f fries and ranch with peanut butter please.... ;) he did try baked chickpeas yesterday and liked them...baby steps!! :) emoticon
    1900 days ago
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