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Our Focus Determines Our Feelings???

Friday, December 19, 2014

Yesterday morning I awakened very early in the A.M. {about 3:30am} and started watching a religious program. The man on that program, made some very good points. But the one that stuck with me the most is this:
"Focus Determines Feelings." I think that hit home with me the most.

As an emotional eater, I mostly focus on the most negative things that are:
Said to me
Done to me
Happening to me and around me
Circumstances that I cannot control or do anything about

So his advice that whatever we focus on determines how we feel is so true.

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I received a call from a friend last week that had an employee steal money from him and tried to ruin his business. I remember asking him if he had done everything he possibly could to correct or fix this situation. He said he had. Then I said, why are you so upset? You cannot change anything or do anything else. Focus on something else. Of course our conversation was hours long that day. My friend did lose money, and that Former Employee is in Jail now. So worrying was useless.
* * *

After watching that early A.M. program, I waited until a decent hour to call my friend and I gave him that quote: "Focus Determines Feelings." We both agreed that would be a good thing to remember.

So, I hope I will remember that whatever I am focusing on will determine my emotional well being. And I hope that I will be able to focus on other things when stress hits, so that I will not emotional eat.

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    How very true. Giving gratitude helps us to focus on the positive. Two sides to every coin. Thanks for sharing. emoticon
    emoticon ~ jeanne
    2262 days ago
    Great quote Brenda. I also identify with your feelings. I need to change what I focus on to make me happier. Thanks for sharing this. I really appreciate it. emoticon and God Bless you.
    2263 days ago

    Great Quote, so true.

    Hugs Mary
    2263 days ago
    Excellent advice. There is actually a scientific reason why this works.
    Part of your brain is known as the Reticular Activating System - or RAS. Your RAS plays a vital part in your ability to achieve goals. Your RAS is the automatic mechanism inside your brain that brings relevant information to your attention. Your RAS is like a filter between your conscious mind and your subconscious mind. It takes instructions from your conscious mind and passes them on to your subconscious.
    You can deliberately program the RAS by choosing the exact messages you send from your consicous mind. For example, you can set goals, or say affirmations, or visualize your goals. Napoleon Hill said that we can achieve any realistic goal if we keep on thinking of that goal, and stop thinking any negative thoughts about it. Of course, if we keep thinking that we can't achieve a goal, our subconscious will help us NOT achieve it.
    Here's a link: http://www.make-your-goals-happen.c

    2263 days ago
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