I was spark surfing and found this blog I wrote in 2010. The way I view my body has tremendously improved since then so I thought it was worth re-posting. I hope someone is inspired.
Wednesday, August 04, 2010
This statement was made on a friend's blog:
"usually when I like something on a body, it's somebody else's"
I starting practicing something new this year. As opposed to what I used to do, (put myself down and compare my worst features with other's best features), I find something to celebrate on my own body even if it is only the texture of the hair on the top of my head.... Lol.... Then I realistically look at others and if I find something about their body I love... say a flat stomach for eg, I'd also find something else about them I'm glad I do not have or that I find what I have is better.
Eg I have a skinny friend with no problem over eating. I like that. But I prefer my shapely legs over her slim but twiggy legs.
Also she still has a belly from her 2 kids just like me although she is almost underweight. It put some things in perspective for me. Slimmer is great but not all slim is a "PERFECT" body. I may never have what I consider to be a "PERFECT" body but mine is good enough!
I started really looking at women. Some have nice figures, some nice boobs, some pretty faces, some all of the above... But the more I learn to love myself, the less I am willing to trade being me for anyone else.
Let's face it... we do not purchase our bodies on a buffet! We do not get to make our own salad here! We cannot trade an undesirable body part for a gorgeous body part on another!
Some do try... plastic surgery! But so many of them are dissatisfied with the result and do more surgeries. (though few go as far as MJ (R.I.P.))
Another reality check:
Have you ever met someone with a body you would sell your right arm for (exaggerating a tad.. at least you'd LOVE to look like that) and they have body image issues? They think they are fat or find some other flaw invisible to your naked eye??
Have you ever thought of the fact that someone else sees YOU the same way???
I DO remember people admiring my figure (esp when I was younger) and I kept thinking they were flattering me or exaggerating.... People compliment my body structure still and I think "are you kidding???"
GUILTY as charged!!
I celebrate every good thing about my body.
I celebrate every beautiful part of yours....
God in his wisdom put us together BEAUTIFULLY!!!
He knew what He was doing.
A friend pointed out something to me... Some people right here are battling diseases like cancer and diabetes.... and all I want is to lose a few pounds to look better! I better be grateful.