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You can't ask me that!

Thursday, April 30, 2015

Today, yet another colleague at work, a man, asked me: Have you lost weight or is something wrong with you?

So I smiled and said yes, my doctor put me on a diet to deal with my catastrophically high blood pressure.

Then he asked me: How much did you lose?

And I laughed and said: You can't ask a woman that question!

At least he had the decency to look slightly sheepish, and then started mumbling something.

At which point I said: Or if you ask, you can't expect a woman to answer!

And then I laughed again and walked out of his office, and put both of us out of his misery.

I'm hoping that I will be able to maintain and in a few months people will stop making comments or asking questions. But part of me is even a little more anxious about maintaining because if I re-gain instead, all these people are going to notice and want to talk about it. Answering questions about weight gain is much worse than dealing with those about weight loss!
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  • BETRHO48
    emoticon I really like the way you handled the question.
    It's strange that some people think it is okay to ask if you lost weight when the same folks are smart enough not to ask if you gained weight.
    Why can't they figure out it isn't polite to ask either question?
    2181 days ago
    Great way to handle the unwanted attention, with grace and a sense of humor! And it worked, he went away! --Pam
    2182 days ago
    Oh dear. This reminds me of when I was a freshman in college and I had lost what, for then, was a lot of weight--20 pounds--in a very short time, by really starving myself. A girl acquaintance on my hall made comments on my changing shape and often noticed what I put on my tray in the dining room, and I don't know why but I could tell that her attention wasn't friendly. One evening, I was so desperately in need of nutrition that I went to a cafe in the small downtown area and ordered a bagel and some cheese to go. As the guy handed me my food across the counter, this girl appeared out of nowhere, smirked, and said, "Ha! I thought you were on a DIET!" I'm pretty sure I lacked the self-esteem to come up with a good response. I probably just gave an embarrassed smile and agreed with her assessment of the situation. But thinking back on it, I feel angry, and wasn't she rude!

    Not that your story is very much like that. It's possible that the people remarking on your weight loss have nothing but the best intentions. But still, I'm sure it gets tiring and annoying. It sounds like you handled the situation perfectly, and I think you're right that their interest in your weight loss will wane. And I don't think you need to worry about gaining back the weight and being the object of snickers and snide remarks. Please don't waste your energy worrying about that, Bemused! You have proven yourself serious about your health and your ability to make really good choices!
    2182 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/30/2015 4:49:07 AM
    you can do this
    2182 days ago
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