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Tuesday, June 16, 2015

I am starting to think that the reason I am having such a hard time with my weight loss is because of everything else that is going on around me...... I feel like I am fighting a losing battle at home....... is anyone out there that is a stepparent that has to deal with a "biological mother from hell"?? well I have 2 to deal with....... to make a long story short.. we now have custody of both of my step children.... the mothers have every other weekend visitation.... what I try to instill in these children is destroyed when they come back from their "mothers"... they are told they dont have to listen to me I am nothing to them etc etc..... my husband is so overwhelmed with the situation that he had put "blinders" on to what is happening..... i feel like i am going insane... i feel like i am the bad guy.. i am constantly scolding or asking them to pick up after themselves or get homework done or bathe..... meanwhile yes I have my own children who are not angels but were raised by me and they have manners and respect for elders and know that I mean business...... I am spending so much time on my stepchildren that my children are being pushed to the side because I dont really have to discipline them... they know what chores need to be done etc etc....and I always have to hear from my children... "why are they allowed to get away with this or that if that was me i would be in so much trouble" it is constant daily stress... i am exhausted.... i have no time to focus on me........and I am emotionally eating.... no time for exercise....... i just dont know what to do where to start......................the
re is just so much more to the story....it is just so much... I know things have to change I just really dont know where to start......any input or suggestions would be greatly appreciated......also if there are any step parents going through something similar please email me I would love to know any tips or ideas of how you are making things work....... thank you in advance
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  • MARINGAL
    Sounds like a losing battle. Why don't you make a game out of doing chores. Like rewards after they do something.
    1639 days ago
  • MRPEABODY
    Yes, I agree with CM_Gardner78.
    Don't cave in, hold your ground. The kids are poking around for something steady.
    I've been there also and now she come to me instead of her mother. I never wanted it that way, its because she grew up and realized I will always be fair, honest, and there for her (not before or after my own children), no BS or head games.
    I don't think men really know how to handle this stuff, it's an "ex" they don't want to have to deal with her again. They don't want to fight, with or about you, her or the kids. And they really don't want/need it pointed out what they are doing "wrong". He is just doing what he learned growing up. Stick to him and don't allow a gap for anyone to drive a wedge into.
    -Parents, don't undermine each other in front of the kids.
    -Parents make mistakes too and the world will not end if you admit to a child your own action was not the right one and change it.
    -Truth & trust is important. Kids will live what they learn.
    -Talk about any & everything, especially the hard topics (where do you want them to learn it?)
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    1640 days ago
  • CM_GARDNER78
    emoticon Been there. I understand. Hold tight and keep the children's best interest at heart. Paste a smile on your face and keep doing the best you can. It feels so far away now, but the time comes so quickly when they are gone...they need stability in the midst of chaos. Keep providing it for them. Try to empathize...they are getting mixed signals and have divided loyalties. I will keep you in my prayers! emoticon
    1640 days ago
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