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Day 229 - Job Hunting

Thursday, July 16, 2015

As much as I appreciate all the Habitat for Humanity does in the community, I have decided that I need to find a new job, and the sooner the better. The boss got angry with me again today for not telling him that I had done something he asked me to do. He found out about it through an email I wrote (and CC'ed him) indicating that the task had been done. Since he had asked me to do it, and I did, and he was informed via an email to someone else, I didn't think it was fair for me to get in trouble for it.

As asked him if I needed to tell him every little thing, trying to make light of the situation. He slammed his palm down on the desk and got really angry with me. Whenever I try to defend myself, he puts his hand up and says "Stop," which I find threatening and demeaning.

I asked him if he wanted to fire me. He asked me if that was what I wanted. I said no (but in my head, I was thinking "yes, please") but I told him that his anger was uncalled for. I also said that he was bullying me. (Other people in the office have used similar terms to describe his behavior. Thankfully, I'm not alone in feeling the way I do.)

It is unfortunate because he is the head of the organization, runs it however he wants, and does not welcome feedback or other opinions. He is also an unpaid volunteer, which gives him carte blanche to run over everyone who crosses him.

Eventually, he will have to step down. He is 76 years old and has admitted that he has a medical problem that may make his departure happen sooner than he would like. But I can no longer wait for that to happen, and I'm not sure I'm interested in becoming the new head of the organization.

I have applied for a position at the local community college for a position that is very appealing. The deadline for applications was Monday, so it is a bit early to hear from them, but I have been praying every day that they call and set up an interview. I do believe that I'm a great candidate for the job.

So I'm asking for some prayers and good thoughts about this job. I've been doing a lot of visualizing, believing that I will get the job. Some extra energy in that direction would help.

This wasn't intended to be a depressing post. I still have a passion for making a difference in this community, and I love this opportunity to do so. The job at the college would offer similar potential, but to a different audience.

Thanks for your support and encouragement, as always, friends! Keep Sparking!
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  • WENDYANNE61
    That type of boss will never improve, Steve - in a despotic way they run their little worlds and pat themselves on the back for doing it on a voluntary basis - it is a power game, over and over. My advice. put in as many applications as you can and move out of that job as soon as you can afford to!
    2051 days ago
  • SUBMOM2
    I'm sorry this has been going on. You are smart to just look ahead to the next move. It's a shame that someone like this is in charge in an area that desperately needs this type of service. You're in my prayers, and have a good weekend.
    2051 days ago
  • ODAT1117
    Oh, you would be GREAT working at a college!!! I love being around college students and on campus so much. It really helps me stay young and semi-with-it. ;-)

    I'm sorry to hear about your boss. I had some similar experiences when I was a volunteer for a crisis hot line. The people in authority were inflexible and dictatorial and even bullied some of the volunteers. Just sad.............and so unfortunate.

    I'm glad you are standing up for yourself and finding a new place where you will be valued and appreciated instead of put down and bullied. You deserve a fabulous boss!!

    Fingers crossed for you! :-)
    2051 days ago
  • PICKIE98
    H for H here was so badly run for years, they fired everybody,even the volunteers. They messed everything up., many people lost out on the homes they should have had. I do not know how it is going now, but I applaud your loyalty to the cause and know that you are doing the right thing to move on.

    Methinks this guy is very insecure, despite his outbursts. He probably is intimidated by your professionalism, emotional control and he may also think he FORGOT things and is afraid of this.
    Whatever the reasons, know that you are doing the right thing by going with your gut. It is never wrong.
    Praying you get the job you want!
    2052 days ago
  • SHORTCAKE48
    Sorry about your boss. Seems like the kind of business he is in would make him a kinder, more compassionate person.

    Wishing you good luck with the new job. Will be anxiously waiting to see what happens.
    2052 days ago
  • LALATIDAH
    I am sorry you were treated so poorly. Karma will come around his way. emoticon
    I am sending good thoughts & prayers for your new endeavors. emoticon
    2052 days ago
  • MPLSKEN
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    Kudos for taking action to get yourself into a better situation!
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    2052 days ago
  • TENNISJIM
    Oh, Steve, I am sadden to read your blog. Best wishes on the job hunt. Will definitely pray for you and your success.
    2052 days ago
  • no profile photo CD15118206
    I am so sorry to read about your experience at work today. Your boss is clearly not the person to run that organization. I'm assuming since you work for a non-profit, that you have a board of directors, have you reached out to any of them?
    I will definitely send lots of love and positive energy your way!
    emoticon You need a drink! 😉
    2052 days ago
  • MARINGAL
    Steve, I will keep my fingers crossed. I think your ex boss was totally inappropriate! Good for you for leaving that job!
    2052 days ago
  • no profile photo JEANNETTE59
    How very sad, it really sounds as if your boss needs to retire now! But you must take care of yourself and a Community College position would appear to be a good fit.

    You have my prayers and good wishes and I know that you will be a blessing wherever you go.

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    Dottie


    2052 days ago
  • BE-THE-CHANGE
    Does the boss have a board of directors he reports to?
    2052 days ago
  • IOWALONEWOLF
    Maybe you all need to get him upset so he has a heart attack.........wait was that mean to type?

    Wishing well my friend and sending my positive energy your way.
    2052 days ago
  • OBIESMOM2
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    as the saying goes, it all works out in the end. And if it hasn't worked out...it's not the end yet.

    hopefully, your 'bad boss' experience will turn out as well as mine did (read my Apr 18 blog for my bad boss story)
    2052 days ago
  • GAL7288
    Sending you positive vibes your way and I hope you get the job. That guys sounds like he is too full of himself, hopefully the organization gets someone more down to earth and who is more comprehending. Geez and I complained about my boss... goes to show huh. But seriously praying and hoping that you get to do what you like to do.
    2052 days ago
  • 1DAY-ATA-TIME
    It's unfortunate that you have to go through this kind of treatment by your boss. I chaired an organization that had a volunteer managing it and she exhibited similar behavioral tendencies. In the end, it was best that we separate for the betterment of the community and the organization's stakeholders. It was like firing my grandmother--one of the most difficult things I've ever done. I hope and pray you get the new position. Bonne chance!
    2052 days ago
  • GEORGE815
    Good luck. When a door closes, a window opens......
    2052 days ago
  • MEWHENRYSMAMA
    My Dear Friend,
    I thought when I saw your blog "Job Hunting" it was for you! I didn't know the background information on your Boss, or I would have really been positive! I have had
    a concern about him from your early days! Just hoped I was wrong and remained hopeful as you were a good match for the work! You still are but without Old Mr Bossy
    Pants! Hearing he is a volunteer is just worse...such a trap...only the most...I don't know the word for it...UNcontrolling or UNegotistical? person should be in that job! I am sorry...but maybe this will lead you to something even better...you, my friend, are immediately in my thoughts and prayers! May I ask what the Community College position is? I think it is a setting you would enjoy!
    Will be thinking of you...
    Love & Hugs
    2052 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/16/2015 6:39:27 PM
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