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Day 268 - Friendship

Tuesday, August 25, 2015

For most of us, there are different kinds of friendship. With some friends, being together is effortless. You talk, you share, you give each other support, you laugh together, and feel better because of your interaction with them.

With other friends, you have to work really hard. You listen to them, cajole them, encourage them, give them feedback, and when it's all over, you're absolutely exhausted.

Of course, there are people that fall somewhere in the middle of those two ends of the spectrum, with varying degrees of joy or weariness as a result of your interaction with them.

So that leads to two simple questions:

What kind of friend do you want to have?
What kind of friend do you want to be?
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    I am an awesome friend if you are worth my time. I want friends that add value to my life and I want to be friends to people that I add value to their life. Everyone else is just an acquaintance for me.
    2018 days ago
    I hate to schmooze with people that "don't have what I want." I hang with people that are funny, loving, interesting, animal lovers, creative, honest and all the stuff a winner is. I hang with winners. That is why you are my friend!!!! hugs, Fredie
    2019 days ago
    Many people miscontrue what "friendship" really is....
    to me "friendship" is:
    someone you don't necessarily have to talk to everyday, but really KNOWS you & you know them
    someone you can invite to your home without worry if it is spotless
    someone who knows what you look like without makeup
    someone you can count on through thick & thin, good & bad, sickness & health (sounds like a marriage)
    the counterpart is "acquaintance":
    someone you see at your local hang out
    someone to meet up with once in a while to go to the fair, community event
    someone you have mutual friends with
    My hubs & I run a karaoke show in a local pub that we have been going to for over 30 years. We have MANY acquaintances from there, but very FEW Friends.
    In answer to your questions
    1) I want to have MANY acquaintances with whom I have some common interests and I want my circle of Friends to be small, but diverse - not all from one circle.
    2) I want to be friends with someone who accepts me as I am. I do NOT play games or pretend to be someone/something I am not. I am honest - sometimes to a fault. I am trustworthy. I can be a GOOD friend. emoticon

    2019 days ago
  • no profile photo JEANNETTE59
    As a friend I want to be genuine but never hurtful, I want to teach but not lecture, I want trust but not be gullible, I want to be forgiving but not a doormat, I want to be sensitive to my friends differing opinions, but be free to express my own.

    I do not want my friends to be users! I have been there and done that and it is no fun.

    I love it when friends share my love of animals and nature. Friends should know that we can talk about anything, but they should realize that we may not agree on everything. And that we both or all should be willing to accept that and just agree to disagree.

    emoticon blog, Steve.
    2019 days ago
    Very interesting and thought provoking questions. These questions bring to mind another questions: If I want to be the kind of friend that I want to have, could I accept myself as a friend??
    2019 days ago
    Good blog topic. It depends on if you're talking 'fair weather ' or 'damn the torpedoes' friend. I don't mind hard work. Any relationship, be it friend or enemy, is going to require work. I know I'm no walk in the park. No one is. Unconditional love.
    2019 days ago
    This is an excellent blog, Steve

    I want to be the kind of friend where you are not exhausted after spending time...
    2019 days ago
    I want to be the kind of friend that I want to have. It is simple. You give friendship, and you take nothing in return. If it is returned, it is magical.

    Thanks for being magical, Steve.

    Spark on.

    2019 days ago
    weaknesses -
    I'm not great at keeping in touch when it takes a lot of work
    I prefer to talk in person or via text...anything but talking on the phone!
    when I want my 'alone time', I don't want to be around anybody except my dogs
    I am a bit of a smarta$$

    strengths -
    staunch defender of those I care about
    I am a bit of a smarta$$

    2019 days ago
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