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Monday, September 28, 2015

Hubby said, "Can't you write your blog when we get back from walking?" I told him, I didn't expect him to stop what he was doing to do something else. Then he said he didn't want to be up late. I was back home from my walk at 9:44 PM.

When we started (9:11 PM), I asked him to do the 2-mile walk and he said he was walking around the block and I could go with him, go home, or walk by myself. I went by myself, but I had on old clothes and a T shirt our daughter bought for me which says, Crazy Woman Trading Co. and in between the large letters of Crazy Woman and Trading Co. is an oval with Sheridan Wyoming and mountains. It was not the best thing to be wearing while walking alone and in the dark. I cut several blocks off my walk where vacant houses are for sale and where there is a large field. I wanted to walk where there were houses though part of the route is along a main road into the city. I didn't want people to think I was a prostitute.

I am just venting because he would bring me milk shakes and ice cream because he wanted it and I would eat it; the same with fast food burgers and fries. I think he means well, thinking that he is showing me love, but it sabotages any efforts/results that I have made. There are people that do that (sabatoge) very subtly because they really don't want the person to be thin and attractive.

I know I will never look like I did in my youth and I am not out to try to attract any one. I do want to quit spending money on co-pays, having to go to doctor's appointments, medicines, having to go to diabetes classes.

He told my son, "That coconut oil was $7." I retorted, "How many receipts are there for $10.60 for Coca-Cola?"

I just needed to vent. I am sure hubby will be up until 11:30 PM watching the local news. He just wanted to control me. He and my first husband had similar qualities. The experts say that we tend to attract the same type of people into our lives when we divorce. My first husband was a wife beater. If this man ever lays a hand on me, I'm gone.

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    I like that you are speaking up. Did you tell him that you feel like he is sabotaging your efforts when he brings you unhealthy foods? Maybe he needs ideas of healthy choices?
    1737 days ago
    I have had support from close family members on this journey; however, there have been a few who seemed determined to sabotage my efforts along the way. One was a gal from church, who was in need of dropping some pounds herself. Before my being introduced to Sparkpeople & deciding it was a now or never thing for me, she & I used to go out to lunch quite often. Once I was no longer interested in eating out as often as she wanted to, she would try most anything to get me to cave to her insistence to eat out. My determination proved stronger than hers. emoticon Eventually she moved away to go live with one of her daughters. Then some months later, she was back at church & said that she had an apartment near the church. I was surprised to see that she had gained at least as many pounds as I had dropped.

    The other gal who seemed determined to try to undermine my efforts, is a family member from my parent's generation, whom I no longer have face-to-face interactions with, so that decision of mine stopped any chance she had of trying to temp me. Unless, of course, she sends me a emoticon of emoticon ! emoticon

    Bottom line: No matter what others do to try to sabotage our progress, we are 100% responsible for how we react. Meaning we have the choice of caving or not caving to eating the emoticon , emoticon , emoticon , or whatever else they use to try to tempt us to cave. We really do have the final say as to what we put into our bodies!

    God bless!

    1741 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/29/2015 7:05:30 PM
    Yes, the coconut oil can be expensive--but you do not need much of it and it is healthy. Liked your retort about the soda! My husband was all for me losing weight as well as himself and we would go on diets together. But when he got sick it was harder for both of us.
    1741 days ago
    I posted a short blog today about a bg reading of 142. I had my plate covered for lunch of salad greens, 3 oz. fried chicken with the skin pulled off, a cup of tomatoes and mini cucumber slices with 2 Tbsp. of extra virgin olive oil drizzled over it all. I feel full after a meal and this is definitely the way to go for me. Hubby went out and bought a mayonnaise that is on the list. He knows that even small changes will help him.

    1741 days ago
    Keep on keeping on. Change is hard for the people who aren't changing. It doesn't excuse their behavior, but the way he's acting isn't unpredictable. I think you are right about the control. I don't think he's being malicious, but I think he's having trouble with the attention you're giving to your new health/ dietary changes. Don't let him sabotage you. And don't let his lack of enthusiasm get you down. Right now, you're in control, particularly of what you're eating. And you're getting results. Best wishes!
    1741 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/29/2015 9:19:13 AM
    Try to set your boundaries with you husband. It is unfortunate that he seems to be sabotaging your efforts to lose the weight. If he brings anymore "fattening" junk food home, don't eat or drink it…Show him he is wasting his hard earned money….and you mean BUSINESS! Best of luck.
    1741 days ago
  • ANON76
    He might be getting afraid, and nervous. My husband finally admitted he was feeling nervous having his wife who is 20 yrs younger lose weight and look better.
    1741 days ago
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    1741 days ago
    My dear, vent away. HUGS
    1741 days ago
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