It doesn't matter who likes us....we like us!
Now, this one is so true for so many reasons. To go on this journey and succeed YOU have to like you, scratch that, you have to love you. You have to matter to you and like yourself to know this is worth it.
My Daughter and I learned a hard lesson yesterday, and luckily, we are better for it. She came home from one of her jobs yesterday and sat with me while I made burritos in the kitchen, and told me all the gossip from her job. I was THRILLED because I could see she was unaffected by the rental setback, and was her usual effervescent self.
She even laughingly told me someone told her she was pretty while she was at work. I said, you aren't pretty, you are beautiful. She brushed me off, and said as usual, "oh, Mom". Yes, I know, I'm her Mom, but I can see! I want her to feel beautiful all the time. She knows I am getting much better at my self image, and feel pretty good, and I hope that i can influence her to do everything to feel as good as she can.
We talked about the saga of the day before and both of us laughed about it. Oh the dismay my sibling would have if she knew that. Too bad. Taking the high road, doing the right thing and feeling good about it is really an awesome feeling. We both feel pretty awesome, and we talked about our living situation and my Daughter was obviously just fine with everything. She asked me when they "needed" to move out. I said, I am not specifying that. You will know. She said, Mom, just give me a time frame. I said, OK, how about next June? She said, Mom, you would let us stay until June? I said, I would let you stay forever if you needed to. We both left that conversation happy and satisfied. Plus I got all the burritos made!!
We hugged when she was leaving and she said, I am so proud of you, Mom. I said, honey, I am so proud of you too.
We DO like us, and I am so proud of my kid and her resilience.