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You never know how strong you are until strong is the only choice you have

Tuesday, February 02, 2016

You never know how strong you are, until being strong is the only choice you have.

I had surgery on my knee one week ago. It has been a very tough week. I still cannot lift my leg, and my pain is constant.

I have been in this care center since Friday pm, and have had so many ridiculous issues with a place that prides itself on making my stay an easy and comfortable one. (NOT!) I had a meeting yesterday with the general manager of the place (she asked me for the meeting), and then a meeting with four of the directors after that one. Man, I hate meetings. All because people didn't bother knowing basic information, never bothered giving me basic stuff for my room (towels, soap, pillowcases???), didn't bother to do their jobs, and physical therapists were trying to force me into doing things that I was just not physically capable of doing. It has been disheartening.

I THINK I got everything straightened out. It was purely coincidental, that my darling Daughter was visiting me when these four "big shots" came into my room, obviously aiming at intimidation. They totally failed. I disarmed them, I never let these four women, who insisted on standing during the meeting, take over, or order me around. My DD, who was sitting there when they walked in, asked if she should leave. I said, no, I would be delighted to have you here. I let all them know what had been going on, and that I was perfectly capable of finding another place to stay and that the errors were many, and they needed to be rectified, immediately.

The four of them walked out, after agreeing to all that I said, and promised to fix things.

My DD was very amused. She said, Mom, they came in intending on being mean, I could see it. I laughed and said, I know. Were they, I asked her? She said, no, how did you do that? I said, they had and have no idea where my goat is tied**, and therefore, I was talking with a position of power, plus they were wrong.

She asked me if I wanted to leave here, and I said, let's let this stew for a day or two and see. Things have already improved immensely, and people are actually doing their jobs.

I got a text from my DD about a half hour after she left. She wrote "ROBO MOM" "You are awesome, and I love you".

I told her that I loved her too, and told her she was my robo kid. She brought me a beautiful plant of all growing bulbs, with tulips, daffodils, amarillys, crocus, and a few more beauties, and it is so fun to watch it all grow about an inch a day. Nothing is blooming yet, but will be. My DD also stopped at Costco and bought me a tray of fresh shrimp (a HUGE indulgence), because she knew it would surprise me, and that I loved it. She certainly knows how to make a Mom feel awesome.

I AM strong, and I will be. If I have to get out the boxing gloves, I will do that too.

Robo Mom is in full command today.

Hope you are all having an awesome week.

Spark on.

**old favorite saying of my Dad's. "They can't get to your rope if they don't know where your goat is tied"
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    I hate days when I miss one of your blog posts. I want to be one of the first to post a reply, and sometimes I'm the last. That's ok in my book!

    Don't you hate when someplace sounds so awesome on paper and turns out to be so awful in reality??? I'm so sorry that the "resort spa" turned into the "resort spa from hell"!!! But I knew that you would make it right! You are turning that place around just by being there and standing up for yourself. I am SOOOOO proud of you!

    The last couple days have been crazy at work, but I haven't stopped thinking of you. I still think of that wonderful day this summer or whenever when you show up at my door and say, "I'm HERE!!!"

    You are such an inspiration - your strength, your love, and your passion just fill me with joy. Much love to you, my friend!
    1849 days ago
  • L*I*T*A*
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  • FRAN0426
    Jane you are strong. Good job with not letting those women get to you, and telling them how disappointed you are with even the basic necessities. Hopefully your standing firm will help other too that just take what is offered and never complaining.
    Wishing you much better days ahead for the healing process and pain subsiding too. Yes PT people do push you a lot faster than we can handle--wonder if they were the ones getting the therapy how they would change toward patients then going through it.
    1850 days ago
    Hope things continue to change for the better for you.
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    1851 days ago
    Glad you were able to stick up for yourself and get some changes in motion. Hope they keep going, working FOR you instead of AGAINST.
    Wishing you the best.
    1851 days ago
    Calm but assertive ... wins every time. Keep at that PT ... each day builds on the next.

    The first 2 weeks are the hardest. I had both knees replaced during the same surgery.
    1851 days ago
  • MITCHSTA1232
    So sorry to hear you're been dealing with issues! Hope the improvements are swift and many!
    1851 days ago
  • HOLLYM48
    oh goodness, I am so sorry to hear that this facility that sounded so good has not lived up to the expectations. Good for you for being heard and being in charge. Some people just accept conditions that are sub par because they are intimidated in the healthcare world. You go girl!
    Hope your leg/knee starts to feel better soon. Stay strong!
    1851 days ago
  • PHOENIX1949
    'Don't let them get your goat' is very familiar to me but I love your Dad's phrasing of the same concept so much better.

    Way to go on not letting the masses intimidate you. Sounds like the facility has 'start-up' issues that you helped identify.

    Here's to smoother sailing.
    1851 days ago
    Oh I absolutely LOVE the goat saying! I've not heard that one before.

    I'm glad you sorted out those four women, but really they should be ashamed of themselves. People who are in hospitals or recovering in care centres are often more vulnerable than usual. It really upsets me when staff try to intimidate, patronise or bully them! Yes, it gets my goat, but in future I will think of you and tie the little fella somewhere only I know!

    I hope things go more smoothly after this shaky start. Your DD is right of course - you ARE awesome!

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    1851 days ago
    I'm glad you were able to make them understand,
    and now staff takes a better care of you,
    as you need and deserve.
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    My dear, you are utterly awesome. UTTERLY. Yes, clearly those 4 women did NOT know who they were dealing with . . . . at all! But you cleared that up . . . good for you. NOW I hope that your stay is much more pleasant.

    HUGS sweetie.
    1851 days ago
    Way to go, Jane! A woman after my own heart. After working as a corporate meeting planner for the last several years of my career, I learned very quickly that no slip-ups could be tolerated! And you are so right, there are people out there who just don't think they have to do their jobs! I'm so proud of the way you stood up for yourself and didn't let yourself be intimidated by those FOUR DIRECTORS. Obviously they knew things weren't right or they wouldn't have tried to overpower you with numbers. Numbers just don't work when they are wrong - it's simple math.

    I am sorry to hear that you are experiencing so much pain. I'm wishing you relief from the pain and a speedy recovery overall! You are not someone to mess with - and what a wonderful lesson for your daughter!
    1851 days ago
    Glad you're speaking up so they can improve!
    1851 days ago
    We are so lucky to have people like you to open the eyes of these people and to see that they are not taking good care of patients the way they need to. So proud of you for being who you are. I am sure your daughter went home and said my mom will be okay cause she fights for health and for treating peopleand patients with up most care! YOU GO FOR IT ROBO MOM: Love you! emoticon
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  • JANET552
    Good for you for standing up for yourself, making jobs get done and impressing your daughter. I love hearing all that. Now, work on healing too!! emoticon
    1851 days ago
    Good for you, not being intimidated-- I hope the standards improve for all patients at that facility. Hopefully, your assertiveness will be of benefit to others as well-----
    Get well wishes for you!
    1851 days ago
    emoticon Way to go girl, it doesn't hurt to speak up, after all how are they to know unless you complain about the service! Wishing you a speedy recovery Jane!

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  • PPALM2015
    Wishing you a progressive recuperation.
    1851 days ago
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