Day 492 - True Colors
Tuesday, April 05, 2016
There must be something in the cosmos that is causing so much angst on SP today. Two of my friends posted major disappointments with SP, having a blog taken down because someone was offended, a mobile app that doesn't work as expected, or just general frustration.
I also upset someone unintentionally with a comment I made on someone's blog post that I thought had another interpretation other than what the writer intended. It wasn't intended to be offensive, but it apparently was, because the friend called me out on my SparkPage. I apologized, and even my apology was offensive. So this friend wrote a blog post today calling me out as someone not worthy of friendship, apparently. (For those of you who follow both of us, yes, it was me who committed such a horrible crime.)
Yes, there is definitely something in the air.
I am nothing if I'm not authentic. What you see is what you get. Yes, sometimes I say things that push people's buttons. Yes, I sometimes see things from a different angle, and yes, I might mention it. But this is me, and you have to accept the whole package. I will not modify who I am for someone else who is bothered by one thing or another.
But that authenticity also comes with responsibility. If I upset someone, I apologize. I apologize for hurting another person, because I am legitimately sorry. If my apology is not accepted or appreciated, well, that makes me sad too, but I can deal with it. I'm a grown up, and know how to behave that way. I do take responsibility for my actions.
If someone were to tell me that I came across differently than I intended, I would thank them for the feedback, ask for clarification if I needed it, and use the information to make me a better person. I hope you'll be honest with me if I say something that upsets you. I won't mind. But let's have a dialogue about it so we can both grow.
But I will warn you now, I will not stop being me, even as I always strive to be a better me tomorrow than I am today. And that might mean saying something that might offend you. If you can't accept my apology, then I will wish you all the best.