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Monday, May 02, 2016

So on the 30th I was 200.1 just .2 away from Onederland. So this week it is my goal to get there. I am eating clean this week and exercising. Of course nature may not be on my side but I will give it my all to get down the .2 and finally be in the One hundreds again for the first time in several years. I think it has been at least 4 years since I was under 200 pounds.

At first it was the stress of my husband retiring from the military and going back to college so I gained weight stress eating. Worrying about how we where going to pay the bills while he went to college.

However now I see that while I was stressing my daughter (now 11) was watching and she has now patterned her habits after myself and my husband. Ever since she was 7 she has had issues with binge eating. I have taken her to the doctor and they sent her to the military doctors at the age of 7 where they proceeded to treat her like a pen cushion and did no counseling for her food addiction. It did more harm than good. Last week she told me she wanted to pack her lunch. So I was happy! So she got up every day and packed her lunch. I was so surprised when I went to put money in my son's lunch account only to discover that my daughter was also eating a lunch at school in addition to her packed lunch along with a breakfast at school. We also discovered she was back to hoarding food in her room again, because we found empty bags of chips and wrappers under her bed. UGHHH! I just called the doctor for a referral. I don't know what to do. She is now 11 and 150 pound. She has gained 27 pounds in 7 months. I have tried talking to her numerous times but she will not discuss anything. Not sure what is the cause of it but she has been doing this since the first grade. This is not the first time she has done the two lunch thing either. This is like the third time I have caught her. But when you look for help there is not a lot of help for children with food disorder out there. Adults yes but not children. I have told her I love her not matter her weight. I have talked to her about how it may affect her health and health problems that run in the family as a result of weight issues. I have even said that children as you get older get mean and I just don't want you to ever have to worry about kids being mean. But nothing seems to get through to her. I am so lost on how to help her. So I guess I am going to have to take her to a professional who maybe can figure out why she is doing it and help her stop. She is going to be so mad but I don't know what else to do.

I thought for the past year if she saw me working out and eating right she would want to do the same as she will be going to middle school next year, but sadly nothing has worked. Hopefully things will get better soon.
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  • KENDRACARROLL
    Wishing you a successful week and hope you'll see the 190s at your next weigh-in.

    It is heartbreaking to see your child go down a destructive path and not knowing how to help and not being able to find outside help. Even if you can force it at her age, therapy only works if she wants to go.

    I can't speak to your lifestyle and how active you are as a family. Are you able to get out on weekends and do active stuff? Hiking, swimming?

    Sending hugs.
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    1762 days ago
  • QUES2HEALTH
    Congratulations on your dedication to being healthier and I sincerely hope that the one's are just around the corner.

    It's good that you are aware of what your daughter is doing and as a concerned parent seeking help for her. I hope that you are able to find someone who is able to address the binge eating she is experiencing. I know that there are summer camps that have programs for different age kids that have eating disorders. Keep being a good role model and supporting her with your love, it may not seem like it's reaching her but your openness is a supportive environment which is so much healthier than a punishing environment would be.
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    Ques
    1766 days ago
  • DAWNSUCCESS
    Congratulations on being so close to Onderland.

    As a child who hoarded food, I thought "oh! I can share something!" when I read about your daughter. So I sat here and thought about it. What's odd is I honestly don't know what would have made a difference. I wish I had some insight to share. But my adult brain can't think of what would have made a difference to my childhood brain.

    I wish you every success finding something to assist your daughter.
    Big hugs.
    1766 days ago
  • KISSFIT
    Your doing great! 100's here you come!! emoticon

    Keep, keeping on by setting those better examples. One day, you'll be surprise how in fact doing so DID inspire someone! Better there done it, and it's awesome!
    1766 days ago
  • PHOENIX1949
    Keep up the good work.

    Hope you find the right assistance for your daughter.


    1766 days ago
  • TEEMAC1260
    Keep up the great work!!
    1766 days ago
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