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Wednesday, June 08, 2016

Yesterday, I met with a surgeon re. getting weight loss surgery.

After I'd left, I felt like I had gotten kicked in the teeth.

She was brutally honest, and maybe more than honest, I think she missed the mark on some things, but maybe I'm just in denial. Anyhow, it caused me to doubt myself.

She told me I'm not a rule follower. Yeah. I could have told you that. More on that later.

She said that I wasn't being honest about smoking. No, that's not true. I have nothing to hide. I smoked on and off for several years, but I quit after I was hospitalized for a bad infection. That was over a year ago. February 2015 was when I quit. No if's and's or butt's about it. I'm a former smoker. And if it says different in my chart, then they are just plain wrong. So she was wrong about that.

She said I haven't been compliant with my diabetes meds. She's right on that one. I never got a clarification on my diabetes diagnosis. I had to ask for meds to be prescribed, but point taken. I can change that and would like to get rid of my diabetes. From now on, I'm going to do better on this. I'll take my diabetes self-care by the horns and get regular testing. I'll take this ounce of criticism from her and do better.

She said I was being unclear about "wound care" services on my leg. I wasn't being dishonest, she just didn't listen enough to understand. I have venous insufficiency on my left leg. It's out of control, but I've been dealing with it. No wounds on my leg, just wound care as part of my care plan to reduce the swelling and get fitted for a compression sleeve. And I've got that scheduled.

She said that I had too much weight to lose and I'd never be able to do it without drastic surgery. How's that for a challenge? Her "opinion" (and I told her, that it was just her opinion) may have just been enough to light a fire under me. I think I can do it. I quit smoking. I've gotten through school. I can do hard things. Even if I've failed in the past. Lots of times. Maybe I was just working up to success. But I can't stop trying. I just can't. She said I have to lose over 250 lbs. Yes, that's a lot. And I better get moving. She's right on that. But I think she's wrong about it being impossible without drastic surgery. Maybe I'm just in denial, but I owe myself another try.

She was wrong at the way she treated me. Like a sub-human who wasn't capable of making decisions. She was wrong for the way she made me feel. She was wrong to judge so quickly without even knowing me.

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    Sigh. I hate when medical professionals treat anyone badly & that especially includes fat shaming. You have admitted you have an issue & you were there for her help & guidance. Instead it sounds like all she did was belittle you & fail to acknowledge the changes you have made.

    Yes, there are people on SPARK who have lost amazing amounts of pounds. It doesn't happen overnight. It didn't go ON overnight either. But if this is a goal you set for yourself & you really & truly want it & are willing to put in the work...you can do it. You absolutely can! And there's no hard & fast rule about how much you HAVE to lose. 250 is a great goal...but maybe after 200 you will look & feel amazing & be happy with yourself there. Don't be deterred by how long it's going to take or how hard it's going to be. Be inspired by how AMAZING you will be along your journey & how many people you will inspire with your work.

    I applaud your Spirit!!!
    1776 days ago
    There are people on Spark that have lost huge amounts of weight without surgery. If you want to do it, you can do it.
    1777 days ago
  • JEN1250
    Take that anger for the person that doesn't comprehend and go kick some butt! Take control over you and get your life back!
    1777 days ago
    I'm glad she lit a fire under you but if this doctor isn't a good fit, find someone else. You have a lot of work ahead and you need the best team you can get to succeed. Be true to yourself and find the best support you can.
    1777 days ago
  • DGHAG66
    That was totally not professional in my opinion. She should have been encouraging instead of running you down. A person can do anything they totally make up their mind to do. Just don't let her get you down. Good luck with whatever you decide.
    1777 days ago
    My mom struggled with trying to quit smoking for very many years. But she quit!!!! I think you are right that now is just the right time. Hang in there! And take care of yourself!
    1777 days ago
    I'm sorry she was so mean to you but stay strong you can do this just to prove her wrong
    1777 days ago
    Wow!! I'm sorry you were treated so poorly, that's terriblešŸ˜  But I love that you are using this as inspiration to get going on all of your goals. Is it ossicle to get a second opinion from someone who may be less judge and will listen to you?
    1777 days ago
  • K1TT3N
    I agree with you that she should not have treated you like that , I had the same kind of treatment with a weight loss Dr once never went back
    1777 days ago
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