Day 813 - Putting the fun back in funeral
Sunday, February 19, 2017
We went to the funeral yesterday for the son of my friend Lale. The chapel was packed - they had to open up to adjacent side rooms for the overflow. Five guys who were all best friends with the deceased shared stories that had the crowd laughing amid their tears, and it was incredibly moving to hear them all talk about how loving and giving Derin was. After the service, both Steve and I commented that we felt like we knew him. Lale was thrilled that we made the trip down, but I felt in my heart that we needed to be there. I'm so glad we went.
Funerals are hard, especially when the one who has passed is still vibrant and full of life. Derin had just celebrated his 30th birthday last month, and his death left more questions than answers. But when people share stories that make people laugh, you realize that while they are physically gone, their presence is still very real.
I kept thinking that I want this for my memorial service. I want to be the kind of guy who touches people's lives the way Derin did. I want to be the guy that is the source for funny stories. I'd better get started.