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Missing my Sister 😏

Tuesday, April 25, 2017

Hello Sparkers....let me start by saying I'm greatful for all the positivity and motivation here...if we all could live like this it would be a much nicer place. Well my sister and I are close in age and over the years its been kinda difficult staying close to her. As for lately.. we haven't talked in almost 6 months...although I try to communicate by sending her text and greeting pics over the phone, she doesn't seem to want to be involved with me. Back in Oct. myself and my older sister (who is single) took a road trip to see my brother who lives 400 miles away.He recently moved across the state for his retirement years. We did not mention it to our younger sister that we were going to visit him for a couple days.She had already went to see him 3 times previously w/ her daughter and another 2 times w/ fiancee .She hadn't mentioned it to either of us at the time when they visited ,and wasnt a big deal to us.Well when she found out that we were on our way she got really upset w/ us. She actually told us (by text) that we could both go jump in the lake. ( he lives on a lake ) well we took it as a joke and sent her a pic of us as if we were jumping in the lake ...boy was she offended and we didn't even realize ! We did say we didn't mean to hurt her feelings but the sister that drove actually had a compact car w/ no trunk....We'll it's been 6 months and she has a cold shoulder towards both of us....I don't feel that we did anything wrong , but don't know how to approach her w/ this concept...it seems that we always have to walk on eggshells around her for we may get her upset with the slightest comment. She gets upset often and I don't want her to feel that we are against her but I think that she just brings us all down with her feelings of being betrayed ...😣 I miss my lil sis and wish we could all just get along.
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  • REEDSKI
    I'm from a family with a lot of sisters. They all live in the midwest. I live in the southwest. I go back summers and Christmas. This summer I got to go for a month. I hope your sister gets over it. Now you'll have to plan another trip to see your brother just so she can go. Does anyone have a vehicle to comfortably fit 3?
    1154 days ago
  • JONIBUSHELL
    Just checking in, hope all is well!
    1223 days ago
  • JONIBUSHELL
    I'm sorry hun, I went through something similar with my oldest sister 5 years ago. Something minor was taken out of context. Luckily her pregnancy and months of not talking helped amend broken wounds and now we are closer than ever.
    1236 days ago
  • SUSIELYNN50
    Hi,
    I just saw your post on the situation with your little sister. It hurts when family doesn't get along, especially sisters. I only have one so that makes it easier for me! But, I think if you did write her a letter stating your true feelings like you expressed here of her going without mentioning to you, and you meant no harm, and that you miss the closeness maybe that will help. I hope so. Good luck!


    1240 days ago
  • FLORIDASUN
    Oh geez...this sounds like a conundrum! It's just so sad when family cannot get along. Can your brother act as a bridge? Has your sister always been resentful of you and your older sister. It seems that jumping in the lake is nothing compared to her saying to do it in a mean way.

    I don't understand family...I have a MIL and SIL that has pretty much resented me for coming up on 39 years...I finally said the HECK with it and just told them it's THEIR problem and after all of this time trying to please them...I'm over it.

    A Much more peaceful life I'm not living without all the drama~rama. emoticon
    1243 days ago
  • STEFANIE979
    Hugs. I think your sister is possibly being irrational. I think wetting her a letter reflecting on her trips that didn't include you and how you didn't take it personally would be a good place to start. I wish you all the best.
    1246 days ago
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