Declaration of Independence from Negative Self-Judgement
Wednesday, July 04, 2007
"Procrastination, lateness, being disorganized, pessimism, not being honest with yourself, severe self-criticism, downplaying achievements, focusing only on weaknesses while ignoring strengths, keeping goals a secret, demanding perfection, giving up after a small setback--these are all ways you can make it tough to be (and do) your best. " Healthy Reflections for July 4th.
What a list of foolishness... a list I know all too well. I have been so fortunate, had so many opportunities and accolades... but what do I tend to focus on??? ... the one criticism, the few people whose fur I rub the wrong way, the weaker areas while ignoring the talents that God has given me.
So, this is my declaration of independence...
In my pursuit of life, liberty and happiness, I am resolving to
...get myself organized enough to be places on time
...maintain a vocal positive attitude
...look at myself honestly and acceptingly
...not be so hard on myself
...celebrate my achievements with gratitude
...find partners who can compensate for my weaknesses
...be a partner to others who can benefit from my strengths
...proclaim my goals so that others can be a part of my successes
...realize that good enough really is and perfection is an illusion
...perservere and look for the silver linings
Freeing myself of negative self-talk is true independence. Gratitude to God for the strengths, opportunities, friends, resources and talents that have been given to me demands that I abandon negative self-talk. It is okay to have a weakness and ask for help... because that opens the door for me to offer my talents to others who may need my help... and that builds community.
I declare my independence from the negativity that wants to hide within my own mind. Happy Independence Day!
-Miss Jenny Faye