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Life is About Relationships, Not Accomplishments

Saturday, July 29, 2017

I didn't write the following, Rick Warren did. However, the message was so timely as my father passed away in the early hours of this morning. I think about the time I spent with him and loving the stories of his life. My heart is broken with loss but I know I loved him and he loved me.

What saddens me is that many of my siblings didn't have time for him. One lived 5 minutes from him and hadn't seen or spoken to him in nearly a year. Others long said he should just die because they saw no value to his life being in a nursing home. But, he was of sound mind up until the past couple of days at the hospital. They lost much more than me as they didn't share love with him.

So, live and love. It's the only thing that really matters. We are here for only a brief period of time. When you leave this earth, the only thing you will take with is the love in your heart. Material possessions and pursuits really do not matter as much as the love and kindness that you show to others...love today because you are not guaranteed a tomorrow.

Here is the message from Rick Warren

Life is About Relationships, Not Accomplishments

If you are a follower of Christ Jesus . . . all that matters is your faith that makes you love others” (Galatians 5:6 CEV).

We learned yesterday that the Bible is very clear about what really matters in life: “If you are a follower of Christ Jesus . . . all that matters is your faith that makes you love others” (Galatians 5:6 CEV).

If you don’t live a life of love, then nothing you say will matter, nothing you know will matter, nothing you believe will matter, and nothing you give will matter.

Finally, if you don’t live a life of love, nothing you accomplish will matter.

The Bible also says in 1 Corinthians 13:3, “No matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love” (The Message). You can rack up an incredible list of personal achievements. You can get your picture on the cover of Fortune magazine. You can win the Nobel Peace Prize. You can have enormous accomplishments, be entrepreneur of the year, build a billion-dollar company, have incredibly great successes in your field of endeavor. But the Bible says it isn’t worth much if you don’t love. The Bible says — God says — relationships are more important than accomplishments.

Life is about relationships, not accomplishments.

It’s as simple as this: You can have the eloquence of an orator, the knowledge of a genius, the faith of a miracle worker, the generosity of a philanthropist, or the achievements of a superstar, but if you don’t have love in your heart, it is worth zero. It doesn’t count. The only thing that matters to God is this: Do you love him, and do you love other people?

One day you’re going to die, and you’re going to stand before God. When he evaluates your life, he’s not going to look at your bank account or your list of accomplishments or your grades. He won’t care about all your sports trophies. He’s not going to look at your endorsements or your resume.

God is going to evaluate your life on one basis: your relationships. He’s going to ask, “How much did you love me and other people?” That’s called the Great Commandment. Did you love God with all your heart, and did you love your neighbor as yourself?

That’s why Paul teaches us that what matters most is our faith being expressed through love (see Galatians 5:6).

Talk It Over

If you died and stood before God today, how would he say you did at loving him and loving other people?

What opportunities has God given you in your job to love the people around you well?

Why do you think God wants us to spend our lives learning how to better love him and other people?
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    I have returned today to remind myself through your eyes that life gets tough and yet we still have the option to live well and encourage others to do the same ! emoticon
    169 days ago
    Such a beautiful Soul!
    1145 days ago
    Divine Wisdom. I'm so sorry to hear of your passing. May your words continue to inspire others.
    Rest in Peace dear lady emoticon
    1162 days ago
  • ALOFA0509
    Such a beautiful tribute to your dad. Heart breaking abt your siblings, as I had the same experience with some of mine not visiting my mother. Blessings to you sister! Wishing Peace & Happiness Always❤️
    1192 days ago
    1199 days ago
    Anissa............knowing you here on Spark People, You are the daughter who took care of your dad's needs. You have no regrets and can smile when you think of him. I'm sure he is smiling at you. Your siblings missed knowing your father and sharing his life, that is their loss. I feel sorry for them......but they have to live with their decisions. I'm just so happy to call you friend......you put everything in perspective. Thank you! emoticon
    1208 days ago
  • no profile photo CD11232210
    Am so sorry to hear about your Dad - I lost my dear mom not to long ago and know how difficult it can be

    Thanks for posting this message.

    Please take care of yourself as I know your health is not the best at this time - holding you up in prayer.

    Could you come to Calling Christian women and post on the prayer thread about your dad passing - as I am sure the ladies would want to pray for you during this special time in your life
    1209 days ago
  • no profile photo CHAYOR73
    VERY emoticon Prayers and hugs, may God give you peace in your heart at this difficult time.
    1211 days ago
    So very sorry for the loss of your father!!! Sending prayers for you and your loved ones!!! You were there for him and he knew you loved him and he loved you !!!! He is now in the arms of our Lord!!! May he rest in peace!!! God bless you, my friend; I will continue praying for you!!!
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    1212 days ago
    So sorry about the loss of your father. There are many selfish people out there and some of them are in our own family. There is a saying you find out who your true friends are. God bless and keep you in his care.
    1212 days ago
    I'm sorry for your loss. You chose the right path with your father. He will be waiting at the end of your earthly path when you reach heaven.
    Truly your wonderful relationship with him was a great accomplishment.
    1212 days ago
  • BLUEJAY1969
    I am sorry for your loss. I too had siblings who ignored my Mom for the last 30 years of her life. If fact they told me to quit calling them when she went to the hospital. She was fortunate enough to live in her own apartment until the last three days when she went to a hospice facility. I made an exception and called my siblings telling them that it was their last chance to say goodbye. They did not show up. Instead they waited until she was gone and chose to blame me for not letting them know how serious it was. I'm not sure how you make it any clearer. I have not chosen to speak to them since I missed her memorial service due to smoke in the area of the mountains where we were to hold it and got yelled at about that. My answer was simple: "I chose to spend my time with her while she was alive!" It sounds like you made the same wonderful choice with your dad! It's the loss of your siblings to have missed all that time and wisdom that you got with and from him! You will have so many fond and funny memories to visit once the grief passes a bit! And you are so right: The Bible teaches us time and again the love and relationships are the things you always get to carry with you when you leave this mortal plane.
    1212 days ago
  • JAVNMICH1969
    Please accept my prayers for you at this difficult time. You have your priorities right I believe ❤️❤️❤️
    1213 days ago
    Anissa, this is a beautiful heartfelt blog. I feel sorry for those that didn't take the time to value what was important while they could. May God bless and comfort you.
    1213 days ago
    I am sorry for your loss. emoticon
    1213 days ago
    1213 days ago
    emoticon It's very sad to lose a loved one, but take comfort in the fact that you loved one another.

    1213 days ago
    Thank you for sharing this.
    1213 days ago
  • BJAEGER307
    I am so so sorry for your loss. You are so right by making sure you had time with your Dad. He left you precious memories that you will cherish forever. Too bad for your siblings, that didn't spend time, one day and that day will come, they will feel the loss like no other.

    Sending you prayers of comfort in this difficult time. May God give you strength to get this time. emoticon
    1213 days ago
  • no profile photo CD12282919
    Sorry for your loss. I lost my father 3 years ago and my oldest brother hadn't spoken to my parents in years and years and refused to come to the gathering to spread my father's ashes. We can't control others, but we can control ours and respect and love our parents regardless how old they are. May you find peace.
    1213 days ago
    I am so very sorry for your loss but you wrote a beautiful and poignant blog as a tribute to him.I am sure he is very proud of you.
    1213 days ago
  • THOMS1
    That was wonderfull that you were able to spend time with your father before he passed. Your siblings will be sorry that they missed out later on. So very sorry for your loss. emoticon
    1213 days ago
    That's a beautiful blog! So sorry for your loss...many thoughts & prayers!
    1213 days ago
  • 1958TMC
    Really sorry about your Dad. I know it's very hard, as it was for me 3 years ago. You knew his love for you and he knew your love for him. As the Beatles said "All we need is love". My heart is with you, my dear. 💚 💜🌷🌷🌷
    1213 days ago
    I am so sorry for your loss. Losing loved ones is never easy.
    1213 days ago
    Nicely said with heart felt thoughts. Love is the answer. I'm sorry for your loss.
    1213 days ago
    emoticon "I give you a new commandment, that you love one another"--John 13:34 emoticon
    well said Anissa, my heart and prayers go out to you, you loved your father well. That love and memories will carry you through this difficult passage. I pray God's love and healing embraces you now.
    1213 days ago
    I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing. emoticon
    1213 days ago
    I am so very sorry for the loss of your Dad. I have both my parents in a memory care facility and it is difficult. But the one thing I DO know they have love and I know they love me. That's all I need to know.

    Hugs and prayers.
    1213 days ago
    My heart is with you ok he praying for your family! 🙏🏽
    1213 days ago
  • MAYIE53
    Very sorry for your loss. Thank you for this timely message. I struggle mightily trying to love . . . both God, my (difficult) neighbors, and myself. You have given me much to ponder. Even in your grief you inspire.
    1213 days ago
  • no profile photo ROSSYFLOSSY
    Thank you for sharing this message. So very sorry for your loss.
    1213 days ago
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