444.5 Miles to go!
Sunday, October 08, 2017
Friday Jim & I headed to the lake again, walking 5 miles together. He is doing so good! This has been his week off of work and at first I was feeling kind of bad that he was spending so much of it working on my walking goal, while secretly hoping he would fall back in love with the idea of getting in shape.
We had both been in the Army Reserve, and Jim is actually a veteran of the Gulf War, so at one time, we were very fit. Life, and fostering 23 special needs children have taken it's toll on us. Both of us at some time or another having jobs that require sitting most of the day also did not help, neither did the two years we spent together as over the road drivers, all fast food plus sleeping in a moving truck most days- and working in 5 hour shifts- eating either at truck stop restaurants or gas station grab and goes. It was that time of our lives after the Army that shifted our health from fit to fat, and we never seemed to quite get it back.
Now he is 55 and I am 46, and here we are, still trying to push on and get it right. Fostering is very high stress for a million reasons, and it (the stress) is one reason why I never tried to recruit other families to foster. You have to either have a heart for it and passion or not- otherwise it will destroy you. I know that is sounds harsh, though really- you never really know what issues a child comes with into your home. We had a child that had killed animals, (we have a lot of animals) and we were never told until he started to have issues with our dog & we found out from his mother that he had killed several smaller animals. SO.
Here we are, trying to get back to him & I, and manage stress better. We no longer foster as of 2017, though we have two adopted and one adult foster son that still lives with us. It has taken me a very long time to start to try to put us first instead of running crisis to crisis putting everyone else's fires out. So, maybe, if someone reading this is still rushing to take care of everyone else first and putting themselves last- I'd encourage you and say that in order to do your best for others, you need to be the best version of you. A healthier, more rested and happier you. Don't be like us and wait too long to realize you have to put yourself first sometimes to truly help others.
and I'm not sure I'm going to make the 500 goal, though I sure am having fun trying! And I'm feeling much better, so is Jim too!