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200+ lbs Lost & Why I Chose Not To Have Weight Loss Surgery

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Tuesday, October 10, 2017

Many people are surprised, but most of what REALLY helps you lose weight is in your head. That’s why many times, weight loss attempts and surgeries fail. We don’t change our thinking. I think, personally, that realizing it was more head work than just a diet was crucial for me. It came to me when I had applied and got accepted for weight loss surgery. I was listening to the people in the pre surgery classes, where the post surgery people talked... they were all still wanting to eat when they were not hungry, when they were emotional, when things just tasted good, past the point of fullness. It made me think... “Why would I have my stomach cut open to feel how I already feel?” There must be something wrong with my thinking. So I set out to fix my thinking in 2006. Here it is 2017 and I’ve maintained a 200 pound plus loss. I am not against weight loss surgery. It saves lives. I just think some people don’t work at making the lifestyle changes necessary to really take advantage of this tool. Lifestyle change starts in your head, not on your fork. It’s stomach surgery, not brain surgery and therefore it could not help me, an emotional, compulsive over eater. Only changing my thinking, the way I deal with my emotions and creating my own mental makeover could achieve what I needed. So, if you are on the fence, at the end of your wits, thinking you’re hopeless, have physical disabilities and thyroid problems... join me in starting to think about things differently. Get counseling, get a coach, read books that talk about positivity and self worth... Start there and keep Sparking!
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  • 1ZIPPYC
    emoticon It took me years to turn my brain around, but with SP's help and daily checking in, reading articles, learning about nutrition, supplements, exercises, etc. I was able to get to my 100 pound weight loss after 8 years of working at it. I never gave up! Even though I had my ups and downs, medical issues along the way, like you said you have to change how you react to everything in life and not turn to food! I too was a compulsive over eater, especially with stressful situations and I am still have my moments, but I know to just stop it and get back on track. I have nothing against the surgery either, I was given that choice years ago, but chose to try to lose weight another way and it worked!! Thanks for sharing your awesome example of how it can be done!! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2 days ago
  • CHUBICHICK
    You have a very good insight into the reasons people overeat. I know I eat way too large portion sizes. I hope I can get a handle on that. I'm glad you choose not to have surgery and lose weight the old fashioned way. Love your blogs.
    5 days ago
  • VTORIA3
    I stop by your page on occasion. I never tire of reading your blogs. You are such an inspiration to all of us! Thank you for sharing your story and encouraging us! emoticon
    7 days ago
  • SENSEAN523
    That is a great Advice. Loose weight Naturally as I told my Sister She wanted a surgery
    7 days ago
  • TINAXX1
    emoticon your a true inspiration , thank you for sharing
    7 days ago
  • ARMY_MOM17
    Thank you so much for this. I remember losing 30lbs to fit in a wedding dress(two sizes too small) because i loved it and it wasn't available in my size. But never connected what happened until your blog!. I have been fighting with my weight over 20 years. Now, when i wake up, it will not be sad and defeated. That i "get it", that it's a "Head Thing", oh, i can handle that. I will jump out of bed inspired and do battle with this weight loss. Your blog was just the kick in the pants i needed.
    7 days ago
  • DELHICKS16
    Wow, keep it going
    8 days ago
  • MITOONAMISSION
    Thanks for this!! A few weeks ago I had thought about surgery something I was always relunctant to but I was at the end of my rope. But I came here instead!!!! This blog says exactly how I felt!!
    8 days ago
  • JVANAM
    When you think you're out of time,
    smile, and turn back the clock.
    - Jonathan Lockwood Huie
    8 days ago
  • FORESTPAL
    I did have the surgery, but hid it, so was embarrassed every time I ate with other people. I eventually stretched my stapled stomach to let me eat a more normal amount. I too, remained overweight tho I did lose 35 pounds. Now I'm on a forever plan, and tho the stapled stomach still keeps me from eating too much at one sitting, my current plan doesn't let me get hungry. It's stricter than I ever thought I could manage, but by now I can easily do without sweets or wheat. What a joy. You get a new lease on life, don't you.
    9 days ago
  • WHITEANGEL4
    Absolutely an awesome blog. Yes you need a change in mind set to work on your personal problems such as weight loss, self fulfillment, self love and happiness
    9 days ago
  • GREENSAPPHIRE
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    Praying to get out of my head. emoticon emoticon
    9 days ago
  • GWYNLEE2
    I totally agree with you!!!
    9 days ago
  • LURCH25
    I’ve grown up with the mind set that weight loss was about sweat, exercise, and time spent at the gym “getting myself back into shape”.

    Some recent advice from my trainer / dietician has really stuck with me and here is:

    “90% of weight loss is about what you put in your mouth, not how much you work out.”

    Her advice to me, rather than spending 1 hr weight training and 1 hr cardio at the gym 4 x a week, spend only 1 hr working out and the other hr planning out your meals and buying high quality healthy and nutritious foods at the grocery store.

    This change in my thinking has finally made an impact in my weight loss journey...
    9 days ago
  • ANNIESADVENTURE
    Well said, Beth. I totally agree. The problem is in our head and has to be resolved to lose the weight and keep it off. So much has been said about the surgery. I've seen the toll it has taken on family members and friends. I remember reading about a person who decided (before she went through with the surgery) to follow the eating plan people have after the surgery. She successfully lost weight and didn't have the surgery.
    9 days ago
  • MCJULIEO
    You continue to inspire us all...
    9 days ago
  • MARYJOHANNAH
    ...nice point of view
    9 days ago
  • TOMATOCAFEGAL
    Thank you. Needed your insight.
    9 days ago
  • AIYANASMAMA
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    9 days ago
  • POOLEW4EVA
    You are so right because I gained most of mine right back.Thinking about taking Belviq instead of surgery
    9 days ago
  • THROOPER62
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    9 days ago
  • SUSANYOUNGER
    Thank you for the wise words. Making me think this morning about how I need to change the mind set. You are an inspiration.
    9 days ago
  • MEDKENNY
    Wow! Thanks so much for sharing.
    9 days ago
  • WATERMELLEN
    Yup, you've said a mouthful (and congrats!!) For many of us one of the most useful books is Dr. Judith S. Beck's "Beck Diet Solution": train your brain to think like a thin person. Cognitive behaviour therapy techniques over a 42 day program with an active Beck Team right here which regularly reboots the Beck trek!!
    9 days ago
  • KEEPITUP4LIFE
    You are a true inspiration to all.
    Hugs Susan emoticon
    9 days ago
  • BEVIEBEVIE
    Amen...a paradigm shift in one's thinking can alter the course of your life in a positive way
    9 days ago
  • ELSCO55
    Thank you. So true.
    10 days ago
  • GETULLY
    So True! It is all in your head!
    10 days ago
  • AMBER461
    An excellent blog, thanks for sharing.
    10 days ago
  • HARRIETT14
    You give excellent advise. Congratulations on your loss and that you have maintained it.
    10 days ago
  • ANNIE1114
    Very good blog. Congratulations on your weight loss.
    10 days ago
  • DEE797
    emoticon I'm glad I came across your blog today. As I really needed to read it and realize that I must get my mind straight in order to be successful at losing the weight and keeping it off. I've been yo-yoing for too long.
    10 days ago
  • LINDA!
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    10 days ago
  • WYCKEDSTEPMOM
    Nailed it.
    10 days ago
  • JSTETSER
    Truly inspiring!
    10 days ago
  • CHRISTOPHER63
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    10 days ago
  • BRE888
    Thank you so much for writing this. I saw it right at the perfect time and your words spoke to my heart. I got approved for surgery and in the back of my mind I've been having all sorts of doubts. I have about 110 pounds to loose. I can't stop my emotional eating in this pre-op phase. So I've called a counselor and I'm going to work on those issues rather than removing a portion of my stomach. If I can't ditch the emotional eating now, I might have some success but I'll end up right back where I started after the surgery. I do think surgery is a wonderful tool. Maybe in the future I'll end up using it. But right now, I need to focus on the emotional issues of why my weight is where it is.
    10 days ago
  • WHYTEBROWN
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    10 days ago
  • DEB1424
    Congratulations on your Amazing weight loss, I believe your right in changing your thought pattern! You are a real inspiration and testament to starting at the core of the problem. I hope to do as well as you have and be able to do the maintenance as well...Wow!! that's Awesome!!! More Power to You!!
    10 days ago
  • SDEECAL
    Weight loss surgery was suggested to me but having just gone through an operation to remove cancer that left me with a large and long scar on my stomach, I was not keen on the idea. You have given me hope that there is another way. Thank you.
    10 days ago
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    10 days ago
  • NGCHILD
    Great advise Beth!

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    10 days ago
  • KAORU5001
    I have lost up 2 120 lb at a time with no surgery just diet also and i have had the same suspicions about weight loss surgery.....plus i know people who had had their stomach stapled long ago and say they can only eat tiny bits of food at once but still look overweight and heavier than me now (im 152 lb) so i dont understand how can they still b overweight i dont think surgery is magic like i once thought it would be.....never been able 2 afford it anyway bt used 2 think id get it if i could but wouldnt anymore....it is a mental thing its iike an addiction pattern u jst hafta break that addiction pattern one day at a time and always work at never locking back into that pattern permanently again u can feel how your brain is different u can feel it changing n i have read there are physical changes that happen in the brain relating to addiction/getting out of it.....the constant hunger i feel jst 2 keep a relatively normal weight never goes away tho emoticon
    10 days ago
  • MILPAM3
    Outside help does us no good unless we are willing to change ourselves. emoticon
    10 days ago
  • MAGGIEC.FLORIDA
    I too love your comment about "Lifestyle change starts in your head, not on your fork." I have lost over 100 lbs three times, and now need to lose 80. I have never had surgery, but instead have used iron clad will power along my weight loss journeys. I have never before been confident that I could maintain weight loss, but now that is my sole focus. I clearly know HOW to lose weight, I am now committed to a healthy lifestyle, and will therefore maintain my weight loss forever. I'm done with the yo-yoing. My fear of maintenance is gone. I am ready to embrace it.
    10 days ago
  • OHMEMEME
    Awesome again and again! I've been Sparking along with you a few years now and I'm always reinspired by your story.

    To you and others here trying to make way through thoutghts...check out the Beck team here on Spark. It's based on the book of CBT by Dr. Judith Beck. It's no "miracle" but has very doable, workable, successful strategies.
    10 days ago
  • HAWKTHREE
    What a great story. Thank you for sharing.
    10 days ago
  • LESERLOU
    I really loved this post and it gave me motivation today. Thank you! You rock!
    10 days ago
  • SILVAS7
    While I don't have 200 lbs to lose , I know how my brain thinks . I so struggle with my thoughts tremendously . When I was young although never diagnosed I was anorexic weighing a whole 75- 80 lbs at the age of 23 . I started the starvation very early in life . The word anorexic was not really a thing until Karen Carpenter died as a result . I was blessed enough to get married and have my first child and life changed after that a relationship with the Lord helped so much with battle of the mind ! Now fast forward 30 some years , hashimoto's disease has once again left me battling with these horrible thought struggles . I am still at war with me right now and struggling with the emotional eating instead of starvation ! You have given me the reminder that this battle truly is in my mind ! While I can not control all things around me ,I can bring my thoughts under control by fighting the lies with the truth ! Thank you for sharing , you are amazing and focused ! emoticon
    10 days ago
  • PROVERBS31JULIA
    I always sensed that surgery would not be good for me, because I always had issues working on my mental and spiritual health which is what keeps me overweight...
    10 days ago
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