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I've been black balled

Wednesday, November 15, 2017

Yesterday someone posted a picture of their dog in the community feed. There were lots of comments about how cute he was. He was a bulldog or something and don't think they are particularly cute so I said I thought he was ugly.

Today someone posted this:

Everyone watch out for someone on here by the name of "ADRIENALINE". She posted on someone's picture of their dog yesterday and called them ugly. I don't think that kind of behavior should be tolerated, especially on SparkPeople where people are trying to support others instead of trying to bring each other down.

I commented that I didn't think that anyone was going to run off and scarf down a bag of potato chips because someone called their dog ugly and that I didn't understand how a picture of a dog had anything to do with nutrition, fitness, or losing weight. I don't think that calling someone's dog ugly is unsupportive to the goals we have here and I don't think anyone has to "watch out" for me because of my comment. The whole thing has soured me on SparkPeople today!
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    I think they overreacted.

    Many people love their pets like children, and very sensitive about them.
    But that is not a reason to be so rude to you, as you didn't mean no harm.

    You can block them, and they can block you if they don't like what you say.
    There are plenty of people here on SP who appreciate you.
    1245 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/16/2017 2:42:52 PM
    don't sweat the small stuff. in a public forum you will always find someone who wants to make a big deal over nothing.
    1245 days ago
    OMG I hope you come to see this as humorous! The over-reaction is wild. I can kind of imagine the dog owner feeling hurt, briefly, for like a split second, but I cannot imagine anyone else feeling a need to censure you about it. Wow. Imagine yourself telling this story as an example of bizarre online encounters and maybe you can get to the place of seeing it as funny, the way it struck me when I read it.
    1245 days ago
    I have learned to be careful about commenting on people's dogs. I am on a condo board, and people think their dog's constant barking is music, and their poop is a pretty lawn adornment.
    1245 days ago
    Yeah, bulldogs aren't my idea of cute. But apparently the owner loves their dog. And they were offended, because, well, who knows, maybe their dog is the only creature in their life who loves them, or something.

    My policy is that if I can't say something nice, I just skip it. People are often overly sensitive, and take everything the least bit critical as a knife to the heart.

    So, well, what can I say. I can see your side, I can see the dog owner's side. (But the person who posted the "watch out for" comment is just trying to stir up trouble. Avoid that one at all costs!)
    1246 days ago
  • ARMY_MOM17
    ...i think i understand why your feelings are hurt...it's bkz you are a kind and gentle soul and would never intentionally harm, insult or
    say something insensitive to anyone ...the words of the criticizer(s) were intentionally mean and were meant to cause you harm!...we all are adults here... no Sparker has the right to scold another Sparker as though you were there child...most of the comments were worded appropriately by explaining why your statement about the dog might be offensive... that you(in this case) misspoke, lesson learned--next!...the other commenter(s) were down right disrespectful and just as rude or more so than they are accusing you of being...coming up i was constantly reminded of two things--1) there is no excuse for being rude & 2) it's not what you say but how you say it... PEACE everyone!...
    1246 days ago
    Sometimes there just doesn't seem like a comment is what I want to do. When that's the case I just skip on to another blog.
    1246 days ago
  • DESIREE672
    I think it's like a filter. You have the biggest holes in the filter for the people you are closest to, so you can say almost anything - not anything, but almost. The holes are smaller for friends and even smaller for co-workers. On a website where we share the same problem and I know some people well, I can say more than I say here, but I've never met them, so I keep that in mind. Here, the audience is vast, and I know hardly anyone well, even virtually, so that filter has very tiny holes. I'm very careful what I say because we are extremely varied in our personalities, backgrounds, the lives we lead etc. I have to admit, I boobed once, big time.
    1246 days ago
  • no profile photo CD17288779
    Some folk want to get a life. I’m having the same sort of fun on Facebook because I made a comment on foodbanks that the organisers disagree with. If that’s all thet have to worry them then aren’t the6 kicky.
    1246 days ago
    My step son's family have a bulldog. I have to admit, a bulldog wouldn't have been my first choice, but I'm not crazy about pugs either. But Stitchy has the most loving heart. She is big and not the most graceful of doggies, but she is always so happy when we come over. She wants to play just like the littler dog plays. It's pretty darn cute.
    1246 days ago
    It's not like you called the owner ugly! I guess some people just can't take anyone disagreeing about what they say. Or maybe calling bulldogs "ugly" isn't politically correct these days? It's hard to keep up with what is and isn't. I think some of the things people are saying about you are a lot nastier than calling a dog ugly. Don't let them chase you away, okay? emoticon
    1246 days ago
    I had a bull dog yes they are ugly, but that what makes them bettyfull.
    1246 days ago
  • no profile photo CHRISTOPHER63
    People could use a sense of humor emoticon
    1246 days ago
    p.s. Bulldogs are beautiful animals!
    1246 days ago
    That is not the point. Your words were mean and truly unnecessary. If you don't have something nice to say, DON'T say it. I have no clue who you are or how long you have been on this site, but we are here to share and support. If you are uncomfortable, then I suggest you find some other place to comment on how you feel.
    1246 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/15/2017 2:27:31 PM
    While I agree with you that bulldogs are not the most photogenic, one thing I have learned over the years is that dog owners tend to be as protective of their dogs as they are of their children. I've learned to keep such thoughts to myself. It doesn't matter whether you consider it pertinent to goals or not, it's important to someone else.

    Lesson learned in life. Today's a new slate.
    1246 days ago
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