What Motivates You?

I had an epiphany last night. I have not been happy in my life in a long time. I haven't been motivated. Last night I realized that it is because I have not been living my life for me. It has always been about my family, mainly my husband. I have tried to please everyone else. I'm not doing this for me. Yes, I have goals that I want to reach in my life. But those always come second to making my husband proud of me. I have to stop living for him and start living for me.

In regards to my weight loss journey, I have goals for myself that doesn't include looking good for my husband's benefit. I have things that I want to do, but can't in the current shape that I am in. Things that are just for me. I need to start focusing on those goals and not on my husband. The problem is, that I don't know how to keep focused on myself. I have never done that. My life has always been about pleasing others. So how do you do this? How do you stay motivated for yourself?