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Friday, February 23, 2018

Ever just let your mind THINK. I mean, just let it do it's thing ans see where the ride takes you?

I was doing that today and came to a few discoveries.

1) I really want to be more active here on Spark. I was having fun when I was here all the time and I was making progress I was proud of. I don't know what keeps me away. I just don't - lazy is probably my issue.

2) My only real regrets in life are when I have listened to "people" and made decision based off "their" opinions/advise. I've put this in quotes because the "people" have been many and varied through the years. From little to big, I only regret when I listen to the "people" that know better or want to "help" me fit in better. Or worse, want to help me do things the "proper way".

3) The happiest times of my life are when I've been going "against the herd." I need to be who and what I am - the rest be damned.

And the worst part is I KNOW this. I really do. I KNOW and UNDERSTAND all of this but I still buckle and cave now and again. And I rack up another regret, from things as big as a marriage to as small as cutting my hair or my clothes. Just need to know when I'm going to learn better.

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    Love the pic, I can so relate.

    I know what you mean. I really do. "People" suck. I've always tried to do what others say is best, worried about what "people" thought, and I ended up spending many years unhappy and ignored at places I was "supposed" to be, doing things I was "supposed" to do. I have many regrets about that. I still find myself thinking I "should" do this or that because that's what's expected or supposed to be done, but then jump back and tell myself, hell no. I'm just learning about who I really am and letting her see some sunshine.

    I love this David Bowie quote, "Aging is an extraordinary process where you become the person you always should have been." I'm going to put that on my spark-page. Anyhow, I think it's true. I think the older I get, the less I give a $h!t about what others think. I'm still working on it. Just be You. I've adopted a couple of "mantras" that I say every day... "I do what I want." and "Whatever is good for your soul, do that."

    I love the YOU you are.

    (and btw, thank you for the flowers and note, no worries :)
    858 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/26/2018 10:22:16 AM
    People always try to put everyone into categories. Schools teach this to kids as they're growing up. They want everyone to be a square or a circle. If you're a triangle they are going to try to make you into a square or a circle. Forget about those "people" and just be you. I know that's easier said than done sometimes but I've come to the realization that making me happy is all that matters. Make yourself happy and forget all the people who don't like it. emoticon
    860 days ago
    Just be you!!! I know what you mean by "people." I have some of them in my life as well. emoticon
    860 days ago
    You're already an amazing person! emoticon
    860 days ago
  • MAWMAW101
    You made me smile....I just had a conversation with “a person” who wears her hair very short who thinks I should get mine cut. Sorry to say I’m 76 and “people” can still get me to second-guess myself!
    emoticon No haircut yet for me.
    861 days ago
  • JUSTME29
    I'm with the lady just trying not to spill food on her boobs. That's my goal pretty much every day, and occasionally I manage it.

    Just be who you are. Some people won't like it, but others will and might just inspire someone else to stop hiding.
    861 days ago
    I am excited about this new determination to lift your energy!

    861 days ago
  • SPICY23
    Discover who you are and then be the best You that you can. Always good to remember 'Those that mind, don't matter. Those that matter, won't/don't mind."
    Rock your program today!

    Peace and Care
    861 days ago
    You are doing good identifying your needs. Go with it. I used to be sort of a follower, but that never does work too well.

    HUGS to you.
    861 days ago
    Life is a journey of education. What we do with the lessons along our way is our choice
    861 days ago
    Well, since basically "people" as a collective suck, trying to not be like them is generally the course of wisdom ;) (There are, however, some people who are fantastic individuals --- it is the collective and herd-think that are the issue.)

    If you look at the times of trying out the advice of "people" or giving it an old-school try to "follow the norm" as you taking opportunities to learn (instead of thinking of it as "caving"), then it might be easier to have a laugh at it, and then take the lesson and carry on without regret!

    I hope you do find yourself in a mood to hang out here more, and share your unique perspective and approach (and your great sense of humour). The nice thing about this lil corner of the electronic planet is that it is here waiting for us - at OUR convenience - so use it however seems best to you.
    861 days ago
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