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Really....Am I over reacting????

Friday, June 15, 2018

Went to my step grandson's graduation party last week. We gave him a generous gift for which he thanked my husband, but his mother had to prompt him to thank me! She motioned/whispered with her lips and gestures to him and was standing right behind me so I heard her, and I could also see his facial expressions as he was looking at his mother trying to figure out what she was telling him! My husband and I have been married over 32 years and together over 35 years, and he is 18 years old!!!! Just saying! We know that my husband's ex wife has caused a lot of behind the scenes drama through the years, and we have long suspected she and my husband's children have talked about us in front of his grandchildren all based on their jealousy....but really social skills alone would be reason enough to say thank you! Rant over...I don't think that I am overreacting...
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  • no profile photo CD11411789
    I would be so hurt but have learned over the years that I can only control my reaction to hurtful situations and not the situation itself. My spirit has been broken on several occasions by a very close family member who has been in my life for a long, long time. I've had to learn to "accept" that the situation will not really change and have put appropriate and healthy boundaries in place to protect myself and my psyche. One of my favorite tools for "venting" is writing about a hurtful situation even if I don't share it with others. It helps me process my thoughts and feelings in a more positive way instead of stuffing down my feelings and eating over them (as I've done for so much of m adult life). I've had to lower my expectations of others over the years and so many times I give more love than I feel I get back. But I will keep doing what is right for me and try my best not to be hurtful to others even when they hurt me so much. I'm glad you shared this blog with us. Hugs!
    943 days ago
    It's truly difficult. A little rant in an understanding space helps, I hope. 😊
    944 days ago
  • MINNIE1952
    Thanks for that thing you sent me! I'm not great at the social media aspect of this, so I'll have to read about what it us...but glad you appreciated what I said. I do a lot of volunteer work. Always feel I'm the one benefiting the most!
    944 days ago
    You are not over reacting. Have to remember that kids now a days aren't taught the right social skills these days.

    I am a stepmom & have stepgrandkids( but call the kids my grandkids). The oldest 2 are 12 & thankfully their parents are bringing them up to be polite. But there are times when they have to get their heads out of their phones & have social contact with us & each other.

    Try to let it go. It's not right but I've learned (being the step person) that I have to have no expectations. It's hard but makes it easier to handle some situations.

    944 days ago
  • MINNIE1952
    I don't think you're wrong to be upset, but agree, it will help you more to let it go...and...i will add go do something for someone less fortunate who WILL appreciate and thank you for even the smallest kindness...at least always helps me!
    944 days ago
    I can seriously relate to situation !
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    944 days ago
    You are not overreacting! It's a shame that this has to happen!
    944 days ago
    Someone once commented that disappointment comes from expecting more than is realistic. After so many years, you probably shouldn't have expected a different response. Having said that, let it go. You do deserve respect and thoughtfulness, but recognize that it just may not be coming. Once you do that, you'll be surprised and delighted when you get it. I'm sorry that you grandson wasn't more gracious but at least he thanked your husband on his own and maybe HE thought he had done the gracious thing since the gift was from both of you together so thanking one was thanking both of you.
    944 days ago
    Some children aren't taught social skills which is a shame!
    944 days ago
  • T37533
    Some kids are slow to remember to thank people
    944 days ago
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