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Tuesday, September 25, 2018

I've been feeling pretty good about myself lately. No, I'm not getting a big head or anything, I'm just excited about some of the changes going on with me. Getting out of my comfort zone, I'm feeling healthy and until the other day thinking I was looking good.

Before a Pilaties class I was visiting with another woman. She was complaining about having to go to her yearly physical and telling me that she was "just going to tell the doctor that she's never going to be thin." Then she paused, looks at me and says "and neither are you". Ouch. ouch. ouch. I just stood there not saying anything in shock. Thankfully class started right after.

Since that happened I'm feeling like I must look like a big ol' blob of goo.

I've been reflecting on this and wondering why some nasty woman's comment is affecting me so much. I still haven't figured it out. So, what's your opinion? Why is it so easy to get derailed by mean spirited words? Has this happened to you? How did you handle it?
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  • LORI-K
    Oh my goodness!! What a rude hateful comment. I can only surmise that she sees something in you she wishes to be. She was feeling inferior so I wouldn’t give it another thought. I know it was hurtful but consider the source? Just my thoughts.
    714 days ago
  • REDROBIN47
    I'm so sorry that happened to you. Some people think that misery loves company. When people do or say mean things, I try to forgive them. We can only imagine what they might be going through. It's no excuse for what she said but I would give her the benefit of the doubt. Just know that we here at Spark think you are a beautiful and wonderful person. God made us all that way.
    718 days ago
  • NILLAPEPSI
    She probably wanted to make herself feel better by saying that to you. I read last night in a Bible Study that I'm doing that "hurting people, hurt people." That is so true. But it's interesting that this should come up now. I just read this article this week from The Weekly Spark about The F [fat] Word. You'll have to copy & paste this link into your browser:

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    724 days ago
  • no profile photo CD22518161

    I think that when people are unwilling to do the hard work it takes to get the weight off and keep it off, it is easier for them to make sweeping generalizations that, "no one can do it". Makes them feel better.

    It seems to me as if God has been putting people in your path to challenge the way you see yourself.
    It is an amazing opportunity to look past your hurt feelings (and of course they are, mine would be too!!)
    and see what lesson there is for you that God wants you to get. My guess is that he wants you to know your hair color.

    That's an old story I was told by a friend of mine. She said, when I was having a tough day because someone said something untrue about me, "if she told you that you had blonde hair, how would you react?" and I said, "in a split second I would tell her I have black hair, not blonde". In much the same way, when someone tells you that you will always stay a certain weight, if you "knew your hair color" you would immediately reject what she was saying. It absolutely WOULD NOT APPLY. I think that what happened though is that a small part of you wonders if she's not right.

    Now do I have TWO people I need to punch, from your gym? emoticon

    724 days ago
  • LABYRINTH
    Some people's minds live in a critical, judgemental place. Think instead about seeing her months down the road and you did something about it!
    724 days ago
  • KOFFEENUT
    It's so hard to be taken unawares by stuff like this - I think it's hard to deal with because it's the sort of thing we would NEVER say to another person. I know when it happens to me I feel like "I can't BELIEVE she said that!!!". Then I remind myself that Eleanor Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." I just need to not give them permission to get in my head like that!
    724 days ago
  • 2BDYNAMIC
    All I can say is: some people are just plain miserable and have to take jabs at other people ... to make themselves feel better? who knows! Once I was at a big family dinner and a my husbands THIRD cousin looked at me and bluntly said. "Did you ever imagine you were going to grow up to be FAT?" ..... emoticon .... ark!! And I thought I needed to lose ten pounds maybe--but not a whale! .... (Truth be told: this yo-yo had lots of issues going on as I suspect the woman who dealt the jab to you did ! ... (I hope you will not let her misery raise havoc for one minute---My hubby has a favorite line for this kind of stuff that I will share: ..."Consider the source" and "Pay them no mind." .... Hmmmph!!
    724 days ago
  • MDOWER1
    Misery loves company and she is going down and don't let her take you with her you know your not a big ol' blob of goo there no such thing remember you are a doing what you need to do to live longer get your head up and move forward
    724 days ago
  • ECOAXUM
    I usually ignore people like that. It can be hard trying to ignore these people, but I believe you can do it. emoticon
    724 days ago
  • CINDY247
    So sorry that happened to you When people are rude, mean, spiteful etc.. to me. I always tell myself that this is not about me that they must feel bad about themselves and want me to feel bad too... Misery loves company LET IT GO! Keep on sparking!
    724 days ago
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