A wonderful example
Tuesday, December 18, 2018
We went to Ohio over the weekend and stayed with the deacon and his wife.
We didn't know them very well and were received into their home and treated as family. What I observed:
The deacon's wife didn't move around much and she seemed to have trouble getting up off the furniture. Her husband told us that she has had strokes and that she fell at work and had a brain bleed. She no longer is able to work.
He has had heart problems and cannot do the things he used to be able to do. They had gone to a family reunion before we got there, so we went to the pastor's house and waited for them to call him to tell him they were back home. They brought a lot of food home with them from the family reunion. I watched the pastor's daughter frost a sheet cake while we were at their house. She made a carrot cake with walnuts in it and frosted it.
I was just amazed at the love the deacon and his wife had for each other. They truly served each other without any resentment at all they had to do with company staying at their house over the weekend and with having visitors there to feed. I did not know of her health conditions, but he fixed her a plate of food and we did dishes once for her while we were there. He also helped her to get dressed for church and fixed her hair. Both of them worked together to maintain their home and property, but I would consider both of them severely limited as to what they can do.
Sunday morning, the deacon made scrambled eggs and coffee for us and then the church people went to his house after the morning service and we had some more of the food from the family reunion. There was never a complaint from either one of them and they went about doing for each other without either one asking for help. If one saw that other might need some help, it was done without asking, "Do you need help with that?" I did ask that a few times.
I have read this before: Ephesians 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. 1 Peter 3:6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
These verses don't sit well with many women these days, but I want to be Biblical, and surely I had a wonderful example to watch over the weekend.
Knowing that right now my husband's health is a concern, as I look at our future together, it will take an increase in our commitment to each other to do for each other without being resentful of the needs of the other one.
When Mom was in the nursing home, a woman came in to visit her husband that was a resident there. Outwardly, she seemed like a nice, Christian woman, but one day she was standing behind him whispering things she disliked about him and because he was in a nursing home. He didn't make himself so ill that he needed nursing care and the things she spoke made me think that she thought he was receiving treatment like he was at a spa instead of that it was needful and necessary. She was jealous that he was receiving help and she had to stay at home without help.
The Bible also states: Proverbs 19:13 A foolish son is the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.
Proverbs 27:15 A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.
I know that I have often been like the latter verses of Scripture.
Sunday, we had to leave the dishes and cleanup to go to the pastor's house to get boxes for our move. When we went to the evening service, the deacon's wife said that she was happy she could do something for us while we were visiting.
Her example did far more for me than she knows. It was a joy to be their house guests and what an example of being the Lord's servants.