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Did something I never thought I would have to do

Saturday, January 12, 2019

Today started out well, I was going to a womens event at church with my mom, after that all went downhill, my car was acting up, I had to pay for repairs in which I am only living on one income. Good news I had the funds to pay for the repairs but I was at my limit to my husband not working.

He has been unemployed for almost two years now, I cannot bear the financial burden for two anymore, I gave him an ultimatum tonight, find a job by end of next week or move out. I did not binge eat I went for a walk and prayed and cried, and cried and prayed, it may sound heartless, but I have tried and strived and I just cannot anymore.

Now I am praying that he makes that effort to get a job, not that he has not been looking but he needs a job any job right now, even if it means something he does not want for the time being.

Some call this tough love , thats a pretty good word for it, I do not want to live my life without him, but he has to make a choice if he wants a life with me in it as well. God grant me the grace and the strength and help me and my husband.
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  • WNCGIRL
    God bless you. I have been there . My husband is now disabled. At one point I said to myself he finally got what he wanted .. a check coming in he didn't have to work for. Things did not turn out the way I wanted them to but with the peace of God I am able to cope. I hope he realizes what he has in you.
    352 days ago
  • CATHYMARIE2014
    thank you , I love him so much , but I need to care for myself , I told him that we have no marriage like this, I am doing all the work and bearing the burden of two people, he is getting a free ride, If I made enough to meet all the bills I would continue to support his job search, but he needs to lower his standards a bit and just get a job right now to help out. I believe something will turn around this week.
    411 days ago
  • GOULDSGRANITE
    emoticon emoticon emoticon Hope and prayers for you both. Keep moving forward. You got this. emoticon
    411 days ago
  • no profile photo HOTPINKCAMARO49
    I am praying for you. (((Hugs)))
    412 days ago
  • 40ANDOVERIT
    I think you made the right choice. A relationship should be 50/50, and any job is better than no job. Sending positivity your way. Wishing you all the best!!
    412 days ago
  • CARRIELYNNG
    I hope he finds a great job. Good luck. Great job not turning to food for comfort.
    412 days ago
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