Who are you responsible for?
Saturday, April 13, 2019
After learning in January of 2019 that my 34 year old daughter is an alcoholic, I have done tons of reading and learning more about myself. I discovered that although I felt it was my "duty" to help her with her bills when she needed it, it is NOT my duty or obligation to pay her bills. I was doing this long before I knew about the alcohol and I have not done so since then. I always felt that if she lost her car due to non- payment, her Dad and I would HAVE to help her get another one. I have learned that if I don't let her figure out her own solutions, she will never learn to stand on her own two feet. Don't get me wrong. I LOVE MY DAUGHTER.
I have also learned that there are a lot of people with adult children who have been behaving the same way I have been. I write this blog to see if anyone is interested in forming a support group to help us "grow up" and let our adult children "grow up".
I am reading a book called "I Don't Have to Make Everything All Better" by Gary & Joy Lundberg. I have already learned so much and have begun to apply what I have learned.
What does all of this have to do with weight loss and getting healthy, you may ask. Think of how much better we all will feel if we don't have the stress of thinking we have to "fix" everybody else. We can only fix ourselves.
Love to all my Spark Friends and I wish you a GREAT weekend.