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Because Losing 30 Pounds Isn't a Priority for Me

Tuesday, July 30, 2019

Today, I was perusing the getdisciplined subreddit. Someone had posted a request for advice for getting past procrastination. They said when they are out with friends, they feel very motivated and anxious to start their projects, but when they get home, they don't feel like it anymore.

There was a lot of good advice and information. A couple people said that procrastination is rooted in anxiety, which is definitely food for thought for anxious me. They said that you are not doing what you know you should be doing, so you feel anxious. The anxiety gives you the feeling that you ARE doing something, so you feel relieved, and then it starts again as a cycle. I'll definitely have to pay attention to this!

The top post, though, was really good. The person said, more or less, that what s/he does in order to stop procrastinating is to say out loud to him/herself, "It's okay to (watch TV/surf Reddit/go to the mall, etc.), because (writing my novel/finishing my app/Kondo-ing my house, etc.) isn't a priority for me."

Of course, these things ARE a priority for this person, so s/he becomes uncomfortable with the cognitive dissonance and goes on to do what actually matters.

As I read this, I thought, this can apply to weight loss!

Lately, I've fallen back into old habits of just eating whenever I feel like it, eating above my calorie range and off my plan that I made the evening before.

But what if I said to myself, "It's okay to (eat some chips/this chocolate/these peanuts/this ice cream) because losing 30 pounds isn't a priority for me"?

This is sort of the opposite of a Becknique. She wants you to have a snappy comeback in your brain for when you have thoughts like "It's okay to eat this, because (it's just the crumbs/it's free/I had a hard day/I already blew my diet anyway/I don't care)." She tells you to remind yourself it's NOT okay! But what if you said, "Nah, really, it's okay, because I don't care," knowing full well that you DO?

How would that make me feel? Pretty awful, really. Not just because of cognitive dissonance, but also because I'd feel like such a loser, like I'm giving up. And I am NEVER giving up!

Of course, this only works when you're thinking things through. It still won't help me if I'm just mindlessly eating peanuts at my desk. However, I don't do that TOO often, so I think I've just added another tool to my box. I'll let you know how it goes, but in the meantime, maybe you can give it a try, too!

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    I think that if I said that (actually in my case it's 50 lbs) I might start to wonder if maybe I MEAN it... To close to truth? Because if I cared why am I still so overweight?

    The thing is you NEVER eat truly mindlessly. There is a reason / a thought that precedes the choise to put the peanuts in your mouth. At least that's how I understood Beck.
    540 days ago
    And where did those peanuts that you are mindlessly eating at your desk come from, hmm? By the way I love the photo of the feet of the men in your life on the beach.
    545 days ago
    here's to tools!
    546 days ago
    Instead of telling ourselves that “it’s OK to eat a cookie” or “I should eat a cookie”, I think it’s better to simply say to ourselves “I am eating this cookie because losing weight is not a priority for me”. That way we are not encouraging ourselves to eat the cookie, but instead we are simply telling ourselves the truth and making ourselves mindful that we are making a choice which is not consistent with our true long-term priorities. That’s where the cognitive dissonance comes in – we hear ourselves say that eating the cookie is a more important priority than losing weight – and we know that’s not true.
    546 days ago
  • L*I*T*A*
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    546 days ago
    Thank you for sharing!
    546 days ago
  • no profile photo CD924924
    Interesting mind hack. Although, I have mixed feelings because one theory is that what you say to yourself finds a way to manifest and come true. But I think I may still give it a shot as long as I don't let it take root.
    546 days ago
  • SEAGLASS1215
    Interesting...I may try this. Not sure if I would trigger more anxiety by saying to myself that I don't care about being thinner so I can eat the ice cream because I DO care about being thinner...and I might think I am lying to myself or something. Hence more anxiety. But I won't know unless I try and so far nothing else has been working so it's worth a shot. Thanks for sharing!
    546 days ago
  • LINDA!
    Very interesting.
    546 days ago
    Great ideas! I'm thinking of dropping sugar from my diet, but I keep reaching for cookies. So I could probably try this too.

    "I should eat this cookie, because being calm (sugar can affect your moods) is not important to me."

    "I should drink unlimited amounts of caffeine today, because reducing my blood pressure is not important to me."

    It can help you be more mindful, which is a big plus! emoticon
    546 days ago
  • SUNSET09
    It's all about being healthy and living a healthy life emoticon Sometimes, we put too much emphasis on losing the weight. We have to check ourselves to determine what our priorities are. You'll have your AHA moment and it'll all come together for you. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    546 days ago
    That is an interesting theory. You will have to let us know how it goes.
    546 days ago
    This is an interesting way to think and possibly make better conscious choices, especially when faced with temptations!

    Thanks for sharing and I too might be applying this to my weight loss journey!! emoticon
    546 days ago
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