Because Losing 30 Pounds Isn't a Priority for Me
Tuesday, July 30, 2019
Today, I was perusing the getdisciplined subreddit. Someone had posted a request for advice for getting past procrastination. They said when they are out with friends, they feel very motivated and anxious to start their projects, but when they get home, they don't feel like it anymore.
There was a lot of good advice and information. A couple people said that procrastination is rooted in anxiety, which is definitely food for thought for anxious me. They said that you are not doing what you know you should be doing, so you feel anxious. The anxiety gives you the feeling that you ARE doing something, so you feel relieved, and then it starts again as a cycle. I'll definitely have to pay attention to this!
The top post, though, was really good. The person said, more or less, that what s/he does in order to stop procrastinating is to say out loud to him/herself, "It's okay to (watch TV/surf Reddit/go to the mall, etc.), because (writing my novel/finishing my app/Kondo-ing my house, etc.) isn't a priority for me."
Of course, these things ARE a priority for this person, so s/he becomes uncomfortable with the cognitive dissonance and goes on to do what actually matters.
As I read this, I thought, this can apply to weight loss!
Lately, I've fallen back into old habits of just eating whenever I feel like it, eating above my calorie range and off my plan that I made the evening before.
But what if I said to myself, "It's okay to (eat some chips/this chocolate/these peanuts/this ice cream) because losing 30 pounds isn't a priority for me"?
This is sort of the opposite of a Becknique. She wants you to have a snappy comeback in your brain for when you have thoughts like "It's okay to eat this, because (it's just the crumbs/it's free/I had a hard day/I already blew my diet anyway/I don't care)." She tells you to remind yourself it's NOT okay! But what if you said, "Nah, really, it's okay, because I don't care," knowing full well that you DO?
How would that make me feel? Pretty awful, really. Not just because of cognitive dissonance, but also because I'd feel like such a loser, like I'm giving up. And I am NEVER giving up!
Of course, this only works when you're thinking things through. It still won't help me if I'm just mindlessly eating peanuts at my desk. However, I don't do that TOO often, so I think I've just added another tool to my box. I'll let you know how it goes, but in the meantime, maybe you can give it a try, too!