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Saturday, May 02, 2020

Boy it's been a week. Lots, yet not much happening.

As we hit May, I find myself lamenting what is our current normal. My birthday is this month. I was supposed to be celebrating with dinner and a concert. They Might Be Giants was doing a tour and performing their album released in 1990. A thirty year celebration of my fav album of theirs. I understand the privilege I have that this was our plan. But also, I see the difficulty in scrapping this plan in favor of doing pretty much exactly what we have been doing for the past nearly 2 month. It's hard. It's hard to think ahead to Mother's Day, my birthday, hubbys birthday, Father's Day and my daughter's birthday. They all happen in the next 6 weeks. I'm working on thinking about all of this in a positive way and trying to make the best of all of this. But it's tough.

I've also been struggling with being angry at extended family. My family is sacrificing so much to keep us, and others safe. And and aunt and uncle decided it was a good idea to go golfing with a friend, whom they don't live with, their adult son who recently flew in from Las Vegas, and their adult son who lives with his own family, and they stood shoulder to shoulder to take a picture at the golf course. Mn opened golf courses because it could be done with appropriate social distancing and provide more activity and jobs. And I'm angry they are doing that.

It's been a struggle. It's a lot to be working through in my head.
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    I understand.. how you feel.
    144 days ago
    Our province just reopened municipal and provincial parks and trails on Friday afternoon BUT what folks do with that freedom will be monitored closely and if distancing and group protocols are not followed we will revert back to "stay at home". It is all on us and we had better get it right!
    I am sorry you will miss out on all those family celebrations coming up; perhaps a gigantic Zoom bash?
    Shame on your relatives. emoticon
    144 days ago
  • -JAMES-
    I feel the pain in your writing. I wish I had an easy answer. I don't have an easy answer. You are certainly right in feeling what ever you are feeling.

    We don't live in a police state, and people can still do what isn't right. Posting a picture on the golf course, shoulder to shoulder says "Look at us, out enjoying things". *sigh*

    In our case our youngest daughter just postponed her wedding that was planned for late August. It is now in July of 2021. The grooms stag party was planned for Las Vegas. I guess inside the USA one can fly to Vegas, but since we are all living in Canada, that would be off right now as the groom is from New Zealand, as are a number of friends and relatives of his. Also guests coming from Europe, including the brides sister. The international uncertainty killed the wedding plans

    I'm just staying home as much as possible.
    145 days ago
    its very hard. my middle son's birthday was march 27th. he has never missed coming home for it..he spent it alone in CT. mine was april 2. i made myself a little keto cake, stuck a candle in and lit it and sang to myself, then blew out the candle and had a piece. first birthday EVER all alone, like my son. My daughters was april 21. i couldnt even get out to send her something. mothers day is next week and i cant get to my 90 year old mom to give her a special day.
    i see it as all about love. i love my kids and my mom so much i wont be chancing taking them anything. my birthday can be celebrated any day of the year...doesnt have to be on THE day. i think of all my wedding cake orders sitting here, waiting to see if they are ditching it alltogether or just postponing. i feel so bad for the brides and grooms and the venues and vendors, like me, who have NO income because the thing we do are cancelled. but then i think love..cant be selfish have to love enough to do whats right.
    i'm angry at your extended family, too. i'm angry at the idiots who are standing at capitols with guns because they cant get a tattoo or haircut. total disregard for everyone else. selfishness and hate.
    i know you, and I, are doing the right thing. caring enough about others to do what is maybe uncomfortable and sad, but in the long run best for all. I already have a huge 4 birthday-mothers day-easter-memorial day-moms 90th birthday(yeah missed that too)--celebration planned. its fun to think about. we will have a big cookout--4 birthday cakes, presents, flowers, balloons, and most of all,,,each other.
    you can do it. you ARE doing it. and i'm really proud of you. remember in Harry Potter? sometimes its the choice between what is right, and what is easy.
    i'll take what is right..every time.
    145 days ago
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