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Monday, January 18, 2021

For most of my life I have suffered from bouts of depression. It seems to affect other people in my family as well. I try hard to overcome it and hate to have it affect me so deeply. I have gone to psychiatrists and at one time even went on anti-depressant medication. I am learning to deal with it but there are times when it just takes over and while I can do happy things during this time I just want to disappear.

That was what happened to me this past week and why I was not on. I tried very hard to just move through it but found that I could not and I am still pulling myself out of it now. It started with an arbitration that we had last week that ended up not in our favour (even though all the legal parts of the act were in our favour) and it also means that we are paying more for less services than 90% of other people accessing the same services. I say 90% because there are a few more who bought after us that are in the same boat - difference is that they may not realise it. I cannot understand how an arbitrator could say that we have to pay more for services that are shared and have one service pulled out and have to pay in addition to what else we are paying for.

Unfortunately the arbitrator also put a clause that we could not appeal this so I have no idea what to do and that is why I am so depressed. I started out angry (and still am but not to the same degree) and eventually just fell into the pit of depression.

I am back and will need to catch up and apologise for letting anyone down.
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  • OOLALA53
    Hope the situation has become less painful to contemplate, especially if it cannot be remedied.
    5 days ago
    During this most trying time it is almost impossible to NOT be depressed and after going thru your arbitration it is understandable. We had a similar experience with our community association. Hope you are feeling better today.
    34 days ago
    Sorry you had to deal with an injustice. I also have low grade depression. When I can do it, my two best tools are action and outdoors. I set a timer on the action for whatever I’v chosen to do. I ask myself can I stand doing this for ten minutes? Maybe not, so I’ll set that timer for five. Most of the time, once I’m moving I can keep going a little longer.
    36 days ago
    This is a really big aggravation, but don't let it dominate your life. Think about the things you have that are good... For me, I have had different problems with my knees and feet, so every day that I can walk unencumbered is a good one. Also, if those that you love are relatively healthy, and maybe you are relatively healthy, that is something to be thankful for. At least that is my mindset, and it seems to ward off depression for the most part.
    36 days ago
    You don't need to apologize for depression anymore that you'd apologize for breaking your leg. I, too, struggle with low-grade, chronic depression. It's a family genetic trait for me as well. Situations trigger those feelings, but it isn't as if you'd choose to react to the events in this way. Take care and remember that you WILL feel better eventually. Hang on to the hope.
    38 days ago
  • 4CYNDI
    38 days ago
    Angela, I've had two similar experiences (one with a rental in Arkansas, and one with our Kansas home) so I know you will never get over this because it is an injustice. Period. You were sold 'something' under FALSE pretenses & then told you can't have it because it's NOT yours. You've been 'burgled' and under the arbitrator (or, at least the one you got) that's okay. Hrm...do you wonder if this arbitrator got paid under the table? I'm not in a financial status to fix this for you, but I would (as I'm sure others would) if we could. I know about depression. Trauma & abuse events got me, but loneliness & isolation triggers it too. SAVE yourself!! Don't apologize to the ladies that know you (we're here) because we either know or understand, and the people who don't, well, it's not like they KNOW you or maybe even don't wanna take the time to UNDERSTAND so, girlfriend, you are good ta' go!! Take care of YOU, when you're falling down that rabbit hole, sweetie, or you may never come back.
    39 days ago
  • DEEDEE009
    So sorry that you are having to deal with this. emoticon emoticon
    39 days ago
    I am so sorry you are dealing with this. Maybe contact your own lawyer. I, too, struggle with depression. I know how debilitating it can be emoticon
    39 days ago
    No words. We are here for you. Just take it one day at a time.
    39 days ago
    I have depression in the winter. So I do the same thing, just disappear. Anyways no apology needed. I hope you feel better soon.
    39 days ago
    I am so sorry to hear the outcome of your case. Is there an ombudsman that could look into it? Don’t worry about letting anyone down. Look after yourself, first and foremost!
    39 days ago
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    39 days ago
  • LINDA!
    I am so sorry. I also have depression. I have been on anti-depressants since 2008 and they help me. I really hate to hear that you are having such troubles at this time. emoticon
    39 days ago
    so sorry for all this Hugs
    39 days ago
    I'm so sorry this has happened to you. emoticon
    39 days ago
    39 days ago
    Huggs. The frustration of not being able to fix this situation and the anger of feeling taken advantage of is not an easy thing to get past. I tend to marinate is a stew of what if I had .... and it[s not fair. emoticon
    39 days ago
    I understand. Hope you feel better soon.
    39 days ago
    emoticon emoticon You haven't let anyone down. You're doing the best you can.
    39 days ago
    Totally understand. No need to apologize and you aren't letting any of us down. Remember we are here to supporteach other. The best thing every is prayer. I will be praying for you. Don't be afraid to reach out. We are here 4 each other. (((HUGS 4 U
    39 days ago
    40 days ago
  • SPARROW125
    What you are going through is very unfair. No way out is hard to take. Be blessed in spite of it I pray.
    40 days ago
    Depression is hard all by itself, but it sounds like you are also understandably angry and upset by a decision that sounds terribly unfair. I'm sorry you're going through all that, and urge you to take care of yourself and do what works for you.
    40 days ago
  • COOP9002
    40 days ago
    So sorry for what you are having to deal with.
    all I can do is Pray for you ...
    Pray that you will will be blessed with the peace, solace, you seek, and you need.
    Wish I had the power to make all things right for you.
    Persevere is a word I remind myself to use when rough patches must be borne.
    Take care of yourself. as best you can.

    40 days ago
    emoticon With all the events of the last year more and more of us are suffering from depression and no matter what we do it becomes part of our lives, unfortunately

    hate when doctors tell you to live with it or put you on meds which make you feel even worse.

    I pray for you that things get better.

    even though you can not appearl is there a way that the others who are affected by this issue, can put in a suit against the company for those services . Perhaps that would work...

    40 days ago
    While I cannot understand what you are going through..I do suffer with depression and have all my life..Today is my birthday..I never thought I would live this long nor did I want to....don't apologise for doing the best you can
    40 days ago
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