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Thursday, November 15, 2007


November 15th, my drive is gone. I'm eating poorly and I have no desire to exercise. What happened? I was so gun-ho; I was motivating people around me to get started. Now I'm falling into old patterns.

I like the way my clothes fit. I got rid of everything over a 16 w / 18r. I don't want to go back. I DON'T WANT TO GO BACK!! I don't know what to do. I NEED HELP!!

Should I just start fresh? Should I pretend that today is my first day and not concentrate on where I've been? Should I reset my goals and pretend that my next goal is my first and not my 3rd? How to I get moving again?
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  • GIRLINMOTION
    New days bring new opportunities. Look forward, not back, unless you are reflecting on all the positive things that have got you here so far. You know it is not easy, you take one day at a time. You have just took a detour as you go on your journey to a healthier lifestyle, you have control, get your wagon back on the path. You can do this!
    4855 days ago
  • no profile photo CD1563473
    Yes, start over fresh! Forget about the indulging that you've done! Pretend that you are just starting and don't look back. Don't beat yourself up about it ! Everyone goes through phases when they want to eat fatting stuff, I know I do but I don't allow myself to feel like a failure but a human being. You can't expect for things like this not to happen along the way! Stay focused and get back on board my friend!!
    4858 days ago
  • MYPINUPWITHIN
    Definitely start fresh. You know the right things to do, and you recognize that you're not doing them. That's the first step. You can do this girl! Look how far you've come!!!! If there is anything at all that I can do to help motivate you, or if there is anything any of us in FWC can do, you know where to go and how to get me/us. Go get 'em, girl! ((HUGS)) ~Deanna
    4859 days ago
  • FILHOTES
    Hey lady V,

    The first step to success in this journey is accepting the challenges, and set backs in this case. Thanks for sharing your concerns and asking for support. The group os ladies that have posted comments here are a source of great support...

    Starting over is a good approach. You've done an excellent job so far and the road ahead may bring different challenges. So setting new goals and constantly changing them, even if you don't do it on here, will help you stay grounded.

    In terms of exercising, try to find new routines that your really enjoy. Once you start having fun being physical you will want to do it over and over.

    All the best, girl. Don't hesitate to drop a line whenever you want.
    4860 days ago
  • ANGELINTEXAS
    ANSWER: YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!! Definitely reset your goals and pretend that tomorrow is the beginning. Forget everything you've done before today. That was your past. Tomorrow is your future!! You can so do this!! Start over, refresh yourself and remember the reasons you want to do this in the first place. The old Veronica is gone and this is the start of a brand new Veronica!! We're here for you honey if you need us!! HUGZ!!! ~Angel~
    4861 days ago
  • ~*LINDA*~
    Look how far you`ve already come!! so sweetie pick yourself up dust yourself down and start all over again!!!!..... hug that boy of yours from me!!
    4861 days ago
  • no profile photo RAMBLINREBECCA
    OK VERONICA!!!!!

    HERE IS ONE SWIFT KICK!!!

    YOUR A TERRIFIC MOTIVATOR AND YOU HAVE TO MAKE IT WORK
    4861 days ago
  • no profile photo AMBER832001
    Veronica, just take everything one day at a time. Please don't beat yourself up over yesterday, or the day before or last week. Today is a new day and you can make it a great day! Just start fresh, keep faith in yourself. You can do this and everyone at FWC is here to help you along the way!!
    Take Care,
    Amber
    4861 days ago
  • ANGIEMBYRD
    I can relate. I am off track with exercse and I am at a point where if I do not exercise I will not loose. I am here for you. For me I do restart all over and pretend my third goal is my new first goal, but I would not change I do like to see where I came from. However, you need to do whatever works for you to keep you motivated. AS far as getting back on track. The wagon is here Do you want to get on today or should I try again tomorrow?
    Hugs,
    10,000 blessings,
    Angie
    4861 days ago
  • OHANAMAMA
    Honey, I can so totally relate to what you're feeling. I have had and am having a really trying week, and it would be so easy to just let go of trying anymore, but we have come to far! I know you don't want to REALLY go back to old habits, no more than I do... with old habits comes the old weight. It's a fact, we can't fool ourselves on this matter. So, yes, begin anew. Call today day one, reset goals if you need to, but do your best to get your drive/motivation/determination all back. I need to as well. Read my blog. Sometimes I just feel like giving up and crawling under my bedcovers for a week! You can do this! We can do this... keep the weight coming off, and NEVER going back to bad habits!
    4861 days ago
  • KALINDRIA
    Start fresh. All we get in life is one day at a time anyway so USE IT! Start fresh in the morning and do things right. Then do it all over again the next day. Build consistency. Create new habits. You can do this! You KNOW you can. It's not easy and it's certainly not fast, but it CAN be done. And I know you can do it!

    Hang in there. I think we all go through this phase. I want all my weight gone FAST! NOW! But I realize it took me years to pile it on and I am going to have to work really hard to get it down. But I'm worth it. And so are you. Remember that. You are a terrific lady with a great family who love you! Taking care of yourself is a gift only you can give to them.

    One day at a time.

    kali
    4861 days ago
  • HONEYBEA
    hello my sweet friend! I'm so sorry you're in the valley. Doing a long term wieght loss can be overwhelming at times. Now you need to decide if you're going to live in 'Fat Valley' or move out into 'Slim Pastures' or 'Trim and Cute' mountain.
    Realize you are creating a new life style. Kind of like getting married. You can't cheat on your spouse, don't cheat on yourself.
    Perhaps it's serious journal time. Was there a time in your life when you were this size and the 'seas' were rough? Is there a hidden emotional issue that you need to deal with before you are able to move on and continue your success?
    I know you've been busy and stressed lately and it's easy to reach for food than to take the time to rationalize why you want to reach for food. I know I'd rather numb the pain sometimes than experience
    victory.
    You look great in this photo. Maybe you should just concentrate on maintaining where you are throughout the holidays (which can be an effort in and of itself!) then hit it hard in January?
    4862 days ago
  • -WRKNG2ABTTRME-
    Hang in there. We're here for you at FWC. Just let us know how we can be of help to you. You can do it!
    4862 days ago
  • SKIPPYALTO
    Hi Veronica,

    I'm one of the team leaders for the challenge that Lisa mentioned. If you'd like to join our dynamic group of active chatterers and goal setters, drop me a sparkmail and I'll send you an invitation.

    ~~Mary-Beth~~>(Co-team leader: LOSE 10 LBS OR MORE - HALLOWEEN to NEW YEARS 2007 Challenge)
    4862 days ago
  • IAMPREACHER
    Veronica, it is very easy to give up and go back. You must really look deep within to find that answer. No one really wants to "diet" or change behaviors deep inside. Maybe you set yourself for failure b/c of a wrong motivation in the first place. Why do you want to lose weight? Look there first. Maybe you set too high of a goal too soon. Sometimes you need to just step back and look at the situation as if from someone else's view.
    Most of us want to eat even when we are not hungry. Emotinal eating is what has made a lot of Americans overweight so you are not alone. We eat for comfort mostly. Instead of eating that cookie or piece of pie or whatever, ask yourself if you have the power to say no to it. That pause before you eat can be the toughest thing to face. Powerlessness is the "De-motivator".
    Sometimes I feel the same way and just go with the flow. I don't have enough energy some days so I don't exercise or if I do, it's just going through the motions.
    I believe that when we reach a point in our lives that we just can't do it, if we call on God for help, He will send us the help we need. It may not be visible help; it may just be a refreshed attitude to do it anyway because you know it's the right thing to do.
    But look first to what made you want to do this in the first place. You haven't failed..you've only come up against a set-back. Will you let it have it's way, or will you take dominion over it and conquer it? The choice is always yours. I hope this helps.
    Love, Sleeper
    4862 days ago
  • BTRFLYDI
    Veronica, just take one day at a time hun. Also, know that you are not in this alone. Those of us at FWC are here to support you in any way you need us to. Just let us know. Keep the faith & Don't give up! It takes time, but the changes will happen and become natural.
    4862 days ago
  • CREIDT
    Veronica, I must say that when I read your blog I thought that it is so ironic that we are at the same point in our journey. What you have written has reflected so much what I have been feeling myself at this point.

    Today.... is the NEW day. Thanks for reminding me that I need to reset & re-evalute. I'm with you. Let's do this together. I noticed that you have already updated your sparkpage. I better get at mine! We can & will do this. I don't want to buy new larger clothes... I want to buy new smaller clothes!!
    4862 days ago
  • no profile photo CD673507
    Hey Veronica, I think we all go through this. Are you depressed? Because thats when I go through this, When I am not feeling good. The important thing is that you reached out for help and thats a good thing. Yes, I think you should just "Start over" Today is day one. When I get off track the first thing that I do to get myself motivated is to wear my pedometer. I set my goal for steps and try to make or exceed that. Dont set a high goal for day 1 just something that motivates you to be more active. Then slowly increase that. When I am way off track with my eating this is what I do: First I try to play a game with myself to see how many veggies I can stuff into my day. That almost always solves it for me. I just naturally start eating better. Its like the domino effect. I dont know what plan you are doing, but I am doing weightwatchers. I think its the most reasonable to "Real life" ways of eating. NO food is off limits, you just fit into your day what you want. Personally, I try to eat very clean and healthy for most of the week but if there is a junky thing I want, I tell myself "I can have that on Friday" so, Fridays I do eat the things that I have been craving. But some fridays I have no desire to do that and others I cant wait to have pizza and brownies. Its funny, I was really good for a while and hit a plateau then I had a cheat day, and started losing again. I think sometimes your body needs to have things shaken up a bit. Have you gained back much weight? You might not have. I would reset everything to your current weight and measurements and don't look back. You CAN do this! Wouldn't it be nice to celebrate the Holidays 10 lbs lighter? My next goal is to be 10 lbs lighter by Christmas. We can both do this!

    Also, you might want to go in for a physical . For years I didn't know what what wrong with me, I didn't want to do anything, and I felt like I had to have caffeine and sugar to keep myself going. Then I had some blood tests done and found out I am Chronically anemic. Once I started treatment for that, 30 lbs came off with less effort that I ever imagined. I suddenly had LOTS of energy and didn't crave sugar as much. Hang in there!
    4862 days ago
  • LISADPARKER
    Hi Veronica,
    I know some people have had success with resetting their goals and starting SP over again from the beginning.

    I'm part of a halloween to new years challenge with a great group of motivating ladies. Let me know if you'd like to join and I'll get you an invite.
    4862 days ago
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