We know several people who have found success through online dating sites. I'm 26 yrs happily married and not in the market, but I probably would try them if I were, it's a lot of years since I dated, no ide a how it works anymore, and I like that there are sites for older people
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As an intro.....maybe but I don't know how you get a real perspective on someone until you are face to face with them. Online dating doesn't convey the body language, the tone of voice, the personal attitude, or how they look in real life, and their quirks.
I think it's hard to know if you are being catfished
I'm old and married, but I wouldn't be brave enough even if I were single. That said, my neighbor's daughter met her husband online and they are very happy and so is my cousin who met his wife online. so I know it often works out.
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9/9/19 11:43 A
I've been married for 15 years so it's a moot point but....
Back in my 20s and 30s, MOST of my best and serious long-term relationships began online or via newspaper personals (back before the dinosaurs, lol!) The best date I've ever been on was with someone I had met online. I enjoyed meeting every one of those individuals, fell passionately in love with a couple of them, and the worst thing that ever happened is occasionally encountering someone with whom I had absolutely nothing in common. I don't think it has to be creepy, and responding to an ad takes a lot of the games and guesswork out of it since you're both there because you ARE seeking a relationship.
You just need to be sensible. Chat online for a while, arrange to meet in a public place, and plan an activity that keeps you engaged rather than just going to a bar. If the two of you don't hit it off, you never have to see each other again. It is really not that much different than two strangers meeting by chance.
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9/5/19 8:54 A
It is great! Met my husband on a dating app :) We had our first date about 4 years ago. I'd just say be SUPER picky about who you respond to/approach on the app. It was seriously like a ratio of 100:1 for guys I would swipe "no" to, to guys I'd swipe "yes" to. You have to be picky in order to weed out anyone that gives you a bad vibe or won't be worth your time.
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25 years ago I met my husband through an online newspaper ad and it was the best thing I have ever done. He agrees....but that was 25 years ago....just be VERY careful and make sure to talk lots first.
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I don't think it's for me. I am not good finding healthy relationships when it comes to dating. I figure online dating , people can hide who they are as a person and what they are really like even better than in person.
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I met my husband through Match.com. We were both busy professionals and would have never crossed paths in the offline world. I think its great if you use it properly. I talked to him via email (not text) for a month before I met him in person. You have to take the time to find people that are truly looking for someone to enjoy life. I did weed through my share of creepers.
I honestly have come across more "creepers" in real-life "social" situations than I ever have on-line - and find it far easier to avoid them on-line as well.
I met my husband on-line over a decade ago, on a dating site - where we both had "profiles" with no picture and no information that were set to private. We both spent our time on that site on the local political message boards, and I sent him a message of "Thanks for the smile - well done" after he had posted a beautifully succinct and sarcastic response on a thread. Since neither of us had a profile public, all that we knew of each other were the opinions and personalities expressed in our forum posts - possibly a more accurate portrayal than the "social face" that most wear when first meeting in person. We knew from our posts that we had a lot in common, started creating a great friendship in private messages over a couple of weeks (discussions and debates and sharing favourite books), then decided to go out for dinner --- and moved in together 5 weeks later.
Honestly - if you seek out experiences and conversation and locations (on-line or real-life) on a subject or hobby or activity that interests you, and chat with others who share that interest, then you create friendships. Those friendships may or may not lead to romance, but they will greatly enrich your life regardless. When you choose to participate in on-line fora or sites that are based on something local, then you increase your chances of getting to know someone with common interests and whom you might be able to spend some time with in person. Besides our own meeting, many of our local friends are folks whom we met through shared interest fora (outdoor sports, off-road vehicles, back-country camping, wildlife preservation, etc.)
If you're not looking for a hook-up, then by all means skip the "dating sites". If you are looking for friendship and fun human contact, then join an on-line class from your local community college (pick one that has discussion boards), or go and take some practical classes in stuff that interests you (woodworking, or cooking, or basic home plumbing), or join a group with something that interests you and that has local group meets. You find out more about someone's real personality when they are going on about something that excites them, and aren't being careful and "nice" about meeting a "potential date". Hopefully YOU will be as focused on enjoying the activity and having fun as they are, and so will be able to shed the "fear of creepers" bubble and let your natural personality out to draw in new friends.
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There was this one guy who explicitly told me. He doesn't date fat chicks. I went out with him. (We all have our preferences) I went out with him to find out. He was obese himself. Perhaps he would like to rephrase that?
Anyway. He went on to marry a woman. Who was so nasty. A nastier person never drew breath. She was quite over weight. So they probably torment each other. If they are still married, that is
@ARCHIMEDESII OMG!!!!!!!! Apparently, that guy needs a vocabulary lesson on what an athlete is. I am confident that being an "armchair quarterback who performs multiple (beer) bicep curls" isn't included as an example.
People not matching their pictures is a HUGE problem with online profiles. Plus, many have criminal records; I personally encountered one of those. I dodged a bullet with that one after telling him I would contact the police if he continued to harass me via text. Yeah, no more...
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There was one guy who told me he was athletic. When I met him, he struck me as someone who couldn't even walk 10,000 steps without getting winded. Turns out his idea of being "athletic" was watching the Pats game on Sundays.
I laugh now, but I can't tell you how many guys I met online who said they worked out regularly didn't. Chugging a beer was their workout. sheesh.
I have tried online dating and have heard of a few success stories. I actually met my ex-husband through an online site. The marriage ended not because of the online start; it was a much more serious situation which I won't discuss here.
I, too, am done with online dating. As the others have said, too many bad people out there. I did have a little fun with cat phishers; you can smell them a mile away. LOL.
Plus, I was finding too many men who didn't have the same interests as I do. I want someone who is active and doesn't sit around and drink. So, I hope to meet another quality man someday but nothing yet,
Meghan in Minneapolis, Minnesota, USA
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3/18/19 5:44 A
I've tried it. I did meet a couple of nice guys. But, in order to meet those couple of nice guy, I had to sort through all the married men, the porn addicts and the ones who need serious meds.
No more online dating for me.
I'm with Sheryl. I'm looking at activity groups where I can meet and socialize with different people who share similar interests. Book clubs, art lectures at the museum, library lectures, activity clubs like running or cycling clubs, adult education classes.
I actually met my husband of 20+ years online - though not specifically a dating site. (Not sure they even existed as such in 1996!) We were just in an online group of local theater goers and I was complaining that no one I knew wanted to go to a particular show I wanted to see. He offered to take me... and after talking on the phone to plan - which ended up being a 3 hour conversation - it kind of turned into an actual date. We got married about a year later.
I think it’s a little different with today’s dating apps, but I still think it’s possible for two people with similar interests to meet up that way and hit it off.