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Well, here are a couple of questions......

Have you tried on your cute shorts? Do they fit nice and comfortable?

Are there better food choices you can make?

How have your numbers been at dialysis?

Do you really think this is a good choice, regardless id the fact you have a "hankering"?

This really sounds like you are asking us permission to eat this. When you may already know the answer. We talked about "treats" and that until you control your numbers at least a week or so your "treats", "specials" have to wait.

We asked that you commit to posting your food, and watching your food intake. How have you done?

So, if you were giving advice to someone with your medical condition and they wanted to eat this, what would you say and why?



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I have a question for you all : Is pizza considered junk too?

I am hankering for a slice of pizza. There's this stall called pezzo pizza that sells pizza by the slice. Surely having just one slice for dinner is not so bad?

Or is that taboo too?

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Not only look at those cute shorts, but maybe try them on, on a regular basis.

I have a pair of pants that I was working to fit in, and I would put them in 1x week as a reminder.

Keep them out so you see them everyday as motivation, but then put them on... boy can that be a reminder of the goal.


Something also to think about, by not eating proper and watching your fluids during the week... when your bp drops, do you know the amount of stress that puts on your heart? That is unnecessary stress, I say unnecessary because you control your food and water intake.



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What have you eaten since your Wednesday dialysis session ? If you ended up owing the machine, it means you weren't as careful monitoring your fluids or portion sizes.

Remember what you said ?

"Time to zip up that mouth of mine to stop snacking needlessly!"

"Both me and my Mom are trying to lose fats and keep slim. I've not been very successful! So, I will just be more conscious of what goes in my mouth!"

Here's a thought, you know those cute shorts that are too tight ? Where are they now ? Put them where you can see them every day. When you have a craving for McDonalds, Burger King, KFC, Texas Chicken, movie popcorn, take a good look at those shorts. Then ask yourself this question,"Is eating a Big Mac more important than fitting into those cute shorts?"


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My bp dropped to 59 today. I don't even know why because I was the same weight as I was on Wednesday. I ended up owing the machine 300g. But I am determined to beat this! I will try even harder to limit my fluids this weekend!

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Great news! Love hearing this!

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Elaine you did it! That is great news! emoticon

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Congratulations on making your dialysis dry weight !

Now, here's a thought. You could post a picture of your lunch or dinner to the Community Feed. Lots of members post pictures of their meals to the feed. You'll make a ton of new Spark friends if you do.

Why don't you do that ? Post a photo of your meals to the Community Feed !!

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That is a great post, Elaine, and one that we actually LIKE hearing ... the result of choosing wisely and paying attention to what you eat and drink.

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Good news! I made my dry weight today! When I went home I was exactly 63kgs!

I tried my best to drink less yesterday while I was at work. At Bible study, I had only one fifth of a cup of the delicious tea. Whenever I felt I needed a drink, I only had one mouthful.

I had rice with a pan fried fish and tofu for lunch. I had some tempeh too, but I didn't finish it because it was too salty. I tried my best to not drink so much after lunch too.

For dinner, I had a chicken slice sandwich. After Bible study, during fellowship I only had a few pieces of cheese wafers (they were really tiny) and seaweed crisps. I was determined not to gorge myself like I usually do. A taste was enough.

Oh yes, the sushi I treated my Mom to, it was lunch, not dinner. For dinner that day I just had some stir fried mung bean sprouts (cooked by Mom) because I wasn't very hungry.

But I will try even harder to bring my weight down.

Sorry, I forgot to snap a pic of my lunch. 2 soft boiled eggs (that was for my breakfast but I was in a hurry to get to the dialysis center), and 3 meat rolls. The meat rolls were made by my Mom. It's basically pork, finely diced jicama and crab meat rolled up in soya sheets. I'm not sure how the soya sheets are made. But after my Mom has finished wrapping them, she fries them.

I know I'm not supposed to eat fried food. But it was only 3 little meat rolls. I will snap a pic of my dinner later. If my parents don't notice, they don't like it when I snap pics of my food......

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Elaine,

To keep things simple, why not post a picture of your lunch tomorrow ? You've got a new cell phone, just take a quick snap and post it to this thread.

Think of this as an exercise to help you be more mindful of your portion sizes.

You did say this a couple of days ago.

"For my lunches, nothing deep fried, which means no more fried chicken & fast food in general. No more unhealthy snacks!"

"I will have to really clean up my diet if I am to achieve my goal of a fitter me!"

Don't you want to be lean and fit ?


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Why not put together a photo collage of your meals and post the single photo here with all the food, snacks included. They have easy apps that can do it easily.

This is an easy way to "see" how much you really eat.

It would help with accountability.



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Maybe. You mean post them here?

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Elaine,

In past, you said that posting photos of your meals helped you to be more mindful.

Maybe you could start posting photos again. Do you think that would help you stay on track ?


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I like hearing the plans. I'd like to see photos of the sushi to get a better idea of what you are eating. Limiting fried food, like only 3 pieces of tempura, is a good idea. I'd recommend you avoid fried foods as much as possible, though. Let us know how you are doing with making plans and following through. How about the suggestion of bringing your lunch to work?



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Are you planning on bringing lunch with you to work ? That is one simple thing you can do that will help you manage your portion sizes. If you don't bring lunch or snacks, you will be tempted if your boss offers to buy you take away.

Is that the reason she's always buying you lunch ? Because you never (or rarely) bring your own lunch.

In order to keep from eating fast food or some junk because it's quick, is to bring a healthy meal with you to work. A bun with some fresh fruit (that is approved on your renal diet) or a sandwich and veggie sticks.

What are you doing for healthy snacks ? Your renal dietitian or doctor should have given you list of approved fruits you can eat. Fruits are a wonderful YUMMY healthy snack.

And one more thing to think about when you have a craving for fast food, eating it will make you look OLD as well as cause you to pack on the pounds.



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That is great decision making.

Do not set yourself up to fail. Since you know you would have 3 cups of the cold tea, then you need to remember that and either pass on it or have 1 cup and then ask the wait team to take your cup after the 1st one, and then drink from your bottle at the table.

Im sure your mom appreciated you taking her out to dinner, isn't that a much nicer feeling then spending that money on empty calories and highly processed foods (fast foods).

In life, it is sometimes more fulfilling to have experiences (dinner with mom) where you take and pay for dinner. And enjoy that time connecting. She does so much for you, this is a wonderful way to say thank you, and I appreciate you.



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Elaine - THAT is the sort of thing we want to hear... posts where you are using your head for your health.

Well done.

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Quite proud of myself today. I treated my Mom to some sushi. We split 5 plates of sushi 50-50, I also had an ikura handroll because I've been craving it for some months. We also shared a plate of mixed tempura. I ate the 2 shrimps, and the eggplant.

The food came in small bites. What I am most proud of myself was, we ordered hot green tea instead of cold. I limited myself to 1 small cup and a few sips, I only poured till one third of the cup the 2nd time but I only had a little, I didn't finish it. If we had ordered cold green tea, I would've downed 3 cups at least!

I only put on 300g for that meal. I will keep you posted on how I do tmrw. I am working tmrw and I have Bible study at night too tmrw.

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Well, sounds like you have a plan.

Now the next steps is to execute it.

As for the soupy noodles, I would hold off on those as you need to first learn how to control your fluids. Are you willing to give up your daily tea for the noodles?

What are your plans when your boss brings you something to eat that is not on your plan? What are you going to do when you eat it with your family?

Part of your plan needs to include when things come up. What are you doing for those situations?



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Breakfast will be a bun, sandwich or onigiri. For the sandwich it will either have a slice of ham and cucumber slices or just olive oil margerine with or without raspberry jam.

For lunch, I will have a cup or less of white rice with fish and 1 or 2 types of stir fried veggies. The fish will normally be pan fried.

For dinner, I will have a cup or less of white rice with whatever my Mom cooks. Normally a veggie and either chicken, pork or fish.

That's roughly my diet plan.

I walk slightly more than 10k steps almost daily. But from now on I will also do dance workouts and body weight exercises like Pilates etc. Ocassionally I will also do HIIT workouts (though frankly speaking, I hate HIIT, but I heard it's good for burning fat).

That's roughly my plan anyway. I will also limit soups and only drink after meals. If I am thirsty in between meals, I will just suck an ice cube. If there are any delicious drinks, I won't drink cups & cups of it, I will just stick to 1 cup and I will drink slowly to savour it.

If I know something is high in sodium, I won't buy it. No more soupy noodles either, well, maybe once a month or so. That's roughly my plan.

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Elaine, I can't tell you how many times over the years that you've said,"no more fast food for me" or "I will go for real, healthy foods from now on! But my biggest challenge will be to drink less and snack less!"

Do you know what I notice about your replies ?

Not one mention of what you DO plan to eat or drink. All the advice has come from the people who have replied. Not once have you ever offered a suggestion of something you can do in order to drink less or snack less. Everyone here knows you can not resist fast food, salty snacks or sugary treats. That's why everyone here has said repeatedly (ad nauseam) to create some simple goals you CAN stick to for one week.

My question to you is this... what foods DO you plan to eat instead of fast food, salty snacks or sugary treats ?

Do you even know what foods are healthy ? that's not a joke. that's a serious question based on your replies. Either you don't know what healthy foods you should be eating or you don't want to eat them.

If you really and truly want to lose weight, answer this question.

What healthy foods are you going to eat this week instead of fast food, salty snacks or sugary treats ?


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Elaine,

what if you were to try NO snacks instead of less snacks? About 3 weeks ago, I stopped all snacks, and stuck to only eating 3 meals. I make sure that I have vegetables, a lean protein and a healthy fat (such as avocado or full fat dairy) at each meal, and I also limited sugar and flour during this time.

Guess what? I nearly lost my craving for sweets. I have a pint of (organic, natural) ice cream in my freezer, and I have not touched it, it is still opened. I know it's in there, but I have not wanted it.

Is my willpower that strong? I don't think so. I think it is because I did a reset and gave my body a rest from constantly digesting food. I read a chart somewhere that a doctor showed me, and it was a graph of how many hours it takes to digest your food after a meal, and it was something like 24-48 hours or something like that. So, if you are eating every 2-3 hours, you are not giving your body a chance to ever stop from digesting food.

The more you eat fast food, the more you crave it. It is designed that way. They have scientists that develop formulas of perfectly mixed salt and sugar combinations to have us crave the flavors in those foods. The food industry has people manipulated. The same goes for processed food. They blend enough sugar in the foods they manufacture to have you keep a sweet taste in your mouth all the time and it keeps you craving sweets.


Have you ever watched the two documentaries "Super Size Me" or "Food, Inc." "Super Size Me" was enough to have me not eating at a McDonalds for about 12 years. One burger patty could come from 30 different cows. "Food, Inc" had me stop eating antibiotic and hormone injected meat and poultry. Now I eat grass fed, hormone free and antibiotic free meats and poultry, and organic eggs. I don't eat at most chain restaurants or fast food places because I am sure they are not using grass fed, hormone free and antibiotic free meats and poultry. I go to restaurants and eateries that use only best quality foods, and I cook at home most of the time. I shop at healthy food stores, farmers markets, and specialty markets.


I am not a wealthy person; however, I chose quality over quantity. I eat a lot less now but I am not hungry. I am able to last 5-6 hours in between meals. My weight has been slowly dropping, but most importantly, my health is improving.

Would you consider 3 meals and NO snacks for a week, and see how it goes?

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You ask about gelato..... it would be a nice treat. And by treat, I mean a treat. Not a daily, or weekly treat. Maybe a monthly treat or every 6 months. That is what a real treat is.

The problem is, is that you already eat a lot of treats, snacks and fast food.

If you like teas, why don't you put one type of tea in your water bottle everyday? If you like to sip warm tea during the day invest in a nice insulated bottle that keeps it warm during the day.

" So, I will just be more conscious of what goes in my mouth!"
You say you have to be more aware, that means you know what you are doing and how much you are drinking. Why are you not drinking from your water bottle?

You do not deny yourself of anything. You really have to learn the words "no thank you". Do you have your water bottle with you at the table when people ask if you want tea? Keep it in front of you at ALL times, and say "no thank you, I already have my tea".

"But my biggest challenge will be to drink less and snack less!" I disagree with this statement, your biggest challenge is to take your health seriously and learn the words "no thank you".

Until you stop snacking and eating the junk food, no gelato. You do not NEED it.

Stop looking for ways to justify snacking.

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How about gelato? That's good too, but v expensive!

Well, I promise you an update. I didn't do so well this weekend and I claim full responsibility for my mistakes. It was no one's fault but my own. I had a few extra drinks and now I am really heavy!

My Mom made some roasted barley tea which was soooooo nice! I had a few small cups. The problem wasn't the cup size, it was me having several cups. I also visited my friend and she gave me a cup of freshly brewed jasmine green tea. Then I had a late lunch of Thai Fish Laksa with a small cup of iced water.

So, though I ate healthier this weekend, I had too much to drink. From now on, no more extra drinks! I will only take an ice cube if I am REALLY thirsty.

I have to stop those CNY snacks too! My house is still full of them! I will just let my Dad and brother finish them. Both me and my Mom are trying to lose fats and keep slim. I've not been very successful! So, I will just be more conscious of what goes in my mouth!

My shorts are tighter, so I must be more vigilant about what I eat and drink! Though my abs are more defined, I may also have gained some fat too, because of all the CNY snacks. Time to zip up that mouth of mine to stop snacking needlessly!

And you all are right! It's not worth trading my health for overly processed crappy junk food! No more fast food for me. I will go for real, healthy foods from now on! But my biggest challenge will be to drink less and snack less!

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Elaine,

Why would you want a Carl's Jr shake when you can have this ?

A matcha parfait from Okonomi. I googled it. it's considered one of the best places for ice cream in KP. I'm sure there are high quality ice cream shops you could choose instead of Carl Jrs.



I would totally save my money for that instead of some cheap vanilla shake from Carl Jrs.

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Have you ever done any research on these "delish" foods you eat?

Take some time, do some research in to what that food REALLY has in it.

There are so many other wonderful delish food to eat, and you choose junk food, fast food. Why??? Cause its cheap? Save you money up and enjoy some of those great amazing foods that you say are too expensive to buy.

Stop spending you money on junk and invest it in delish/yummy healthy food.



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"I normally eat fast food only once or twice a week. I only eat fast food when I have a craving for a specific item.

But I admit, I nearly always crave junk. I want to resist these urges and only eat healthy food. I will post on Sunday night or Monday morning how I did this weekend."

As Chicago noted, eating fast food 1-2x or more per week isn't a craving, it's a HABIT.

You realize the reason you always crave junk is because you always eat it. As many of us have mentioned before, fast food is loaded with SUGAR, SALT and saturated fat along with all those additives and preservatives.

If you really want to start decreasing your cravings, you have to WANT to decrease the cravings. The reason you haven't given up fast food is because you don't want to.

You think that as long as you practice moderation, you can eat the junk. Well, that's the heart of the issue. you CAN'T practice moderation. You want more and more and more.

My question to you is this,"Do you really WANT to stop eating fast food ?" or will you find an excuse because the fast food is sooooo yummy ?

Honestly, I'm with everyone else. I find food from McDonalds, BK, KFC, Carl Jrs, etc... pretty nasty.

Take KFC. I know how much you love eating fried chicken. Guess what. do think that fried chicken was fresh made for you ? NOPE. it was cooked early in the morning in massive batches. Then those batches of fried chicken were placed under heat lamps. Who wants to eat chicken sitting under a lamp for hours ?

And yet, that's the chicken you think is oh so yummy.

If you're going to eat fried chicken, at least go to a restaurant where they fry the batches right before you eat them.

Why do you settle for such awful tasting food ? Think Carl's Jr is a tasty shake ? Good gawd NO. Go to a real ice cream shop where the ice cream is hand made and not trucked in from goodness knows where. there is nothing tastier than hand made ice cream. I go to a place where they make small batches of amazing tasting flavors such as salted caramel or cherry vanilla, no artificial anything. ALL NATURAL.

That's why I refuse to eat fast food. It's loaded with too much sugar, fat and salt. It's loaded with artificial chemicals and preservatives. It sits in trays under a heat lamp for hours. WHO wants to eat crap like that ?

Think about that the next time you go into KFC. Look at those trays of chicken sitting under that heating lamp. Ask yourself WHY you want to eat that.



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Elaine,

Have you ever tried to make your own homemade versions of the fast food that you crave? I almost never eat fast food, due to the food chemicals, additives and preservatives. I have too many food allergies and sensitivities.

I make my own burgers (without the bread) and those types of food at home, and even those I do not eat very often, perhaps once a month or two months.

If I ever do go out to eat, with friends or family, because after all, I don't wish to be a hermit or recluse all of my life, I have particular restaurants or eateries that I go to, and I know their menu and how the food is prepared, so I am able to order something that I can eat without adverse side effects. If it is a new place, I ask how the food is prepared, and I ask for substitutions. For instance, a salad instead of fries, or fruit instead of whatever less-than-healthy side that is offered. Usually they are more than happy to accommodate, and I offer to pay extra for the trouble.

While I don't have the same dietary restrictions as you do, my health and self-care is very important to me, and I feel that I deserve to have the best ingredients available for the food that I put in my body.

Is there a reason that you may feel that your body or your health is not deserving of the best care? Could you be unconsciously trying to "get even" with your body for having SLE that you want to play this Russian roulette game with your health, as tho' these consequences of fast food and over eating and over drinking will have no effect, until it is too late?

I have worked with patients who have told me that had they known that they would get diabetes or cancer, or some other health condition, they would have taken care of themselves and eaten better earlier in life.

Will we see a post that you are no longer able to undergo dialysis due to the frequent damage you have put your body through? There are some consequences that occur that there is no return from once the damage is done. Is that what it will take for you to wake up?

You don't have to answer any of these questions, it is for you to think over and honestly answer for yourself.

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Ok, so now we know why you are not making your numbers, why you aren't losing the weight you want to.

Elaine, you are really trading your life and health for nothing but highly processed, down right crappy food. But you know that, so why are you complaining when you don't make your numbers? You can not really be as surprised as you portray to be when you don't make your numbers. You know that choose to trade your numbers /health for this crap food. Stop acting surprised, it's your reality. This will continue.

If you are eating fast food 1-2x a week, that is not a"craving", that is a habit. Stop fooling yourself.

You say you have to stop this, those are just words... how do you plan on stopping?

In order to succeed at anything you need a plan , a strategy when you are tempted... otherwise these are just words. So what is your plan for breaking your habit?

Time to get real, it's a habit NOT a craving.



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I am laughing at the "I normally eat fast food only once or twice a week. I only eat fast food when I have a craving for a specific item."

Do you know how often I ate "fast food" in the entirety of last year? ... twice - yep TWICE! (2x burgers total) However, I did eat lunch out in a cafe 4 times last year, but it wasn't fast food.

Generally if I am not home for lunch I take my own.

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I normally eat fast food only once or twice a week. I only eat fast food when I have a craving for a specific item.

But I admit, I nearly always crave junk. I want to resist these urges and only eat healthy food. I will post on Sunday night or Monday morning how I did this weekend.

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I'm hoping that the next post from Elaine is about what she had done to take a step toward being healthier.

Or maybe that she has managed for the week to drink only from her bottle and stayed within her limits. Or maybe went the week without junk food, snacks or fat food (yuck).

Or maybe that she is grateful for the little things in life.

Or maybe that she responds to the questions that the team asks her, instead of cherry picking questions.

So much to be grateful for and to do to move forward to a healthy life instead of ranting how unfair life is toward her





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"I will have to really clean up my diet if I am to achieve my goal of a fitter me!"

I don't see you mentioning a HEALTHIER you!!!



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Elaine,

I've asked this before and you avoid answering.

How often do you eat fast food from from places like McDonalds, Burger King, Carl Jrs, Texas Chicken, KFC, etc ?

The way you talk, it sounds like you go 3-4 times or more a week for a meal, snack, ice cream or shake, boss treating you to take away.


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Elaine, fast food, fried food and salty and fat foods are not a treat. They are punishment. Just reading that you consider these a treat gave me a stomach ache. Treats are things like a new lipstick or getting your nails done. Food being a treat is a misplaced perspective. Maybe it is because you have been advised to have a limited diet and you resent all the restrictions your disease has put on your life. However, your disease should not define you. Rebelling against it does not work and is frankly adolescent. Do you want a mature outlook or are you happy being stuck? I like the WANT statements Archimedes has suggested. What do you want to do with your life? Can you accept your restrictions and move to positive steps like "I want to do the healthy thing,"or is something getting in your way? We all are far from perfect, but for many of us bad food choices do not threaten our lives as immediately and severely as they do yours. That might not be fair, that most folk have leeway, but many people, like you, are faced with limited choices. Over the long haul though we may all be faced with health challenges because of our choices. What impresses me about most folk on SparkPeople is that they WANT to do the right thing despite slip-ups. That does seem to not be the case for you, or are we wrong?



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"I need to eat healthier!"

"I will have to really clean up my diet if I am to achieve my goal of a fitter me!"

"Honestly, I am trying, but somehow things are not working out for me!"

Elaine, I notice something about your statements of things you need to do to help you achieve your goal. These are things you say you will do, but never do. Why aren't things working out for you ?

Because you don't WANT these things. I need to do something says I don't really want to do these things, so I will find excuses not too. If you WANT to fit into those cute shorts... you have to WANT to do the right thing.

I WANT to eat healthier, not I need to eat healthier.

I WANT to eat snacks that are low potassium and sugar, not I will have snacks that are low potassium and sugar.

I WANT to eat foods that are stir fried, baked or steamed, not deep fried.

I don't WANT to eat fast food from Mcdonalds, KFC, Carl Jrs, Texas Chicken, Burger King.

Do you understand the difference when you want to do something versus I need to do something ?


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I need to eat healthier! Those shorts are still tight! Diet is 70% while exercise only 20%, genes 10%. Which means I will just have to eat healthier.

Fast food will just have to be a monthly or once in 2 months treat, in small portions. You can't outexercise a bad diet. So I will just have to eat healthier!

My snacks will have to be low sugar & potassium fruits or veggies with a bit of dressing or no dressing. If my boss hits the drive thru, I will have to be firm & say no, thank you.

For my lunches, nothing deep fried, which means no more fried chicken & fast food in general. No more unhealthy snacks!

I will have to really clean up my diet if I am to achieve my goal of a fitter me!

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Elaine - have you ever read the various motivational articles in the "LEARN" section of the drop down menu? I am sure that you will find something there that might resonate with you, and give you that motivation, because unless and until you do find that motivational tip that works for you, your health will continue to suffer, meaning that you will continue to suffer to.

I certainly hope that you can stick to the plans you mentioned.

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I just have to stop the snacks in between meals, in other words, stop the munching and drink small sips only. I will also stick to my bottle and not drink extra. If I am really thirsty, I will just take an ice cube.

In addition, I will stop making excuses and make sure I exercise enough to break some serious sweat most days a week!

Honestly, I am trying, but somehow things are not working out for me!

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My bp kept dropping because my dry weight has gone up by 62.5kg to 63kg. They have adjusted my dry weight in order to minimize incidences of my bp dropping.


Elaine you do realize that you are doing this to yourself? You are literally the only person who has control over your dry weight. I am not being facetious or sarcastic. You know clinically that your bp drops when your dry weight increases. Frankly, I am not sure how we can guide you through this.


What are you doing to help yourself?

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"However, I am inclined to think that I have gained muscle, not fat, because of all the exercise and walking I've been doing. Plus my jeans keep sliding down, indicating that my waist may have shrunk a little."

Do you remember those cute shorts you bought a couple of weeks ago ? Are they tight or do they fit ? If your jeans are sliding off you, then those shorts should fit.

What weekly goals do you think you could set that would help you fit into those shorts ? Don't you want people to complement you on wearing those cute shorts ?


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Have you had your body fat checked? If not, why not see if a Gym will do it using skin-fold calipers.

Does your work and home have air conditioning? Does the mall have air conditioning?

You still need to watch your fluid intake AND your food choices. Just remember, the saltier foods will leave you wanting extra to drink.

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My bp kept dropping because my dry weight has gone up by 62.5kg to 63kg. They have adjusted my dry weight in order to minimize incidences of my bp dropping.

However, I am inclined to think that I have gained muscle, not fat, because of all the exercise and walking I've been doing. Plus my jeans keep sliding down, indicating that my waist may have shrunk a little.

I will keep on watching what I eat and exercising. The weather has been very hot over here. I almost wish I could have snow. Anything is better than this heat!

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In past, I've suggested to EOWYN that along with setting a long term goal, that she consider setting a couple of weekly goals.

EOWYN's New Year's Resolution is to lose 20 pounds, a perfectly good long term goal.

What about a weekly goal ? Here are some weekly goals that would help her achieve her long term goal.

I will eat 3-4 servings of fresh fruit and veggies (that are approved on my renal diet) each day for one week.

I will walk 5,000 steps each day for one week.

I will make my own lunch each day I work instead of eating take out for one week. So, if Elaine works for three days, three days she brings her own lunch.

This is what I encourage ALL members to do. Set simple weekly goals that help them work towards their yearly goal.

What do you think about that, Elaine ?




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Elaine, this is a boring complaint. You do not have to clean the equipment. The third shift or meeting the targets you've been given are always options. The goal meeting sounds the best. What I ask, as I always do, is what are you doing to get to the goals? What steps are you taking? I'd really like to know about positive steps you are taking. I liked hearing that keeping to your bottle for strict fluid control was a goal you met. Can you report on how well you are doing in meeting your goals? Your progress to keeping yourself healthy, an urgent need, is interesting.



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"I guess I have no choice but to keep priming the machine I am assigned to and wash my dialyzer. Since I have to do it anyways, I will have to grin it and bear it. If I ruminate over it, I will only make myself miserable, so I will just have to do it cheerfully."

You did have a choice. You could have chosen to stay in the third shift. If you did, the nurses would be cleaning your equipment. Instead, you chose to prime your own machine and wash your dialyzer in order to be in the first shift. You made the choice after nagging the head nurse. That was her condition to move you.

And you do have a chance to have the nurses clean your equipment again. All you have to do is meet your dialysis weight for a whole month. That seems like a fair bargain to me.

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Elaine: you constantly say you are the "only one".... So, you are really there 24/7 just making sure that the nurses don't have anyone else ever do their own care-- YOU are the ONLY ONE doing anything for yourself....?!! Having worked in a medical setting, I find that rather unbelievable...…

To change the topic: are you doing better this weekend following your eating/fluid guides? If so, then Monday could be a good day---if your mindset lets it be!

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Elaine - I don't know if this is an option for you, but are you able to get your OWN Dialysis Machine at home? Then you could do it all yourself, like my brother-in-law did. He had set times he did it, and had a TV set up so he could watch it if he wanted; had some food close by; and also had a book or the radio to listen to.

Prior to that he used to do CAPD treatment, and do one of the sessions while he was going for a walk. He had to transfer to Hemodialysis after quite some time because he ended up getting infections around the site for bag exchange.
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I guess I have no choice but to keep priming the machine I am assigned to and wash my dialyzer. Since I have to do it anyways, I will have to grin it and bear it. If I ruminate over it, I will only make myself miserable, so I will just have to do it cheerfully.

I also depends which nurse is on duty in the reprocessor room. Certain nurses won't let me go home till I complete processing my dialyzer while certain nurses will complete it for me.

It also depends if my Mom is picking me up. If my Mom is already waiting, they will let me off. I guess, the situation is not as bad as it seems. The nurses are not out to get me. But it just galls me to see other ppl getting off scot-free and not even bother because they get everything done for them. Even their carer(s) don't bother to learn to do stuff.

But I will have to learn to ignore this and just get on with it because to change centers will be counter productive and a hassle. The nurses here are kind to us in general. So I will just grin it and bear it.

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