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1/18/18 3:26 A

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I would encourage your husband to be more respectful and appreciative towards your loving attempts in preparing the meals.

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1/17/18 1:41 P

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I quit cooking because he was "not eating any more of the healthy crap you cook".



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1/17/18 12:28 P

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If you're the main cook. He may think that offering to eat out is helpful? I wonder if that's it.

Time to have a heart to heart. Explaining with, I feel, statements. That this really isn't helping. Explain your goals and what you would like to start doing instead.

Be really sweet about it.

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My husband is actually eating healthier now even with eating out because he's diabetic and has learned what keeps him on track and what doesn't. We both eat less junk foods, in fact we've had chips up on the fridge for more than a week that no one has touched. That in itself is a big success for us.



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1/16/18 9:48 A

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Luckily we don't have the budget to eat out much, but it seems like every time I say I'm going to try to eat healthier or do better, he brings home my favorite snacks or asks to go out to my favorite restaurant. I use to feel pressured to eat it like I did before because if I left any, then it might be gone when I go back to finish it or he's constantly saying, "Do you not like ... anymore?" I use to think he was trying to sabotage my dieting. I finally realized he got it because he was thinking of me and knew I liked it. So now, he knows that I'm trying to do better and my snack that use to be gone in a day or 2, may take a week or longer because I'm working on my proportions.
The point is, you have to do what is best for you. If he's going out all the time and you don't want to, tell him you are eating at home. Let him decide if he's going out without you or not. Don't get upset if he chooses to do so, just let him know how you feel about it.

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1/16/18 1:56 A

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Is he your husband? I think being supportive, loving, and respectful to a spouse's needs (when they are reasonable needs) is essential to a healthy relationship. If eating out is a struggle for you right now emotionally, I think that's something to discuss with him.

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This morning was a normal breakfast of Quaker oatmeal with blueberries which was shared with the little ones. Those two love their oatmeal or they just like eating grandma's breakfast. After they finished I fixed myself breakfast foolishly thinking they would let me eat it without help. When their mother showed up Larry and I went out for a light lunch then home for a nice quiet afternoon. I think dinner needs to be something warm before my fingers freeware off.



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Glad to hear that the conversation went well. x

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Most places I have no problem getting vegetables and/or tossing the bread from a sandwich, but yes, he would rather I stayed fat and has always been that way. Of course now his eating plan has him fighting diabetes, COPD, etc. Other than the bronchitis I'm fighting right now I'm healthy.



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1/12/18 11:36 A

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Hi, I wanted to point out if he sabotages your desire to eat healthy, it's because you have made the choice to let him. I know it is really hard. My DH eats out 2 meals daily and wants us as a family to also eat out at night with him. When I agree, I pick the restaurant that has healthy choices I can pick without the guilt and bloat! Good luck.

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1/9/18 4:07 P

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We eat out all the time-usually do $5 specials or less. For me it's cheaper than throwing away what I cook and he refuses to eat. None of that "healthy crap" for him. Every time I get my weight down he sabotages me so this is just easier. I just need to get exercise back on track which is hard with two toddlers(grandkids) here now.



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1/6/18 1:03 A

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BIG problem with my DH, once upon a time...

...especially when we were dating. One way I slowed it down was to point out how much money he was spending when we were together. Just for ordinary meals out, it was nearly $75 a weekend (this is 20 years ago). He put that together with him eating out every night, and cut back on his own.

When we got serious and began living together, he knew I wouldn't eat out unless there was a reason. He could get take-out or eat out, but I'd be home and make my own food. (We have very different tastes and preferences.) Before long he was coming home and cooking for himself so we could be together.

Bottom line is, I said "I don't want to," and he had a choice. I didn't get angry at him going on his own, because he could afford it. Now we're retired, caring for an elderly parent and on a stretched budget, there's more say in what each of us spends on frivolous expenses. Eating out is at the top of that list.

Compromise is part of being in a relationship; but when it comes to staying on track and being as healthy as I can, I have to do what works best for me. If he fought me on it, or got angry at me for not doing what he wanted - even though he knew it wasn't good for me - then he wasn't the man for me.


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Difficult situation!
Maybe you two could work on understanding the preferences and motivation of each other.
If he wants to eat out to make you feel good and share his joy, a kind and clear explanation of how you really feel may help.
You may reach a compromise that is acceptable for both of you, like eating out 1 or two times a week, at places where you can have delicious but healthy food.
1 or 2 nights at a nice restaurant may cost the same as eating at fast food places every night.

I feel similarly about eating out. I don't like it much, so it is waste of time and money, and unnecessary struggles with food.
Luckily, my family doesn't like restaurants, they prefer take-out or ordering food.
That is fine with me, because I can have a small portion and eat vegetables and fruit with the meal, or just eat my own food. It is easier at home.

But I did have a conversation with husband and kids about keeping sweets, peanuts and chips on the kitchen counter, in open packages.
They were very hard to resist, and I often gave in to temptation.
I asked to keep them out of sight - and they said sure, no problem!
So chocolates are now in a metal box on a high shelf, bags of chips closed with a clip in a box in a cupboard, and peanuts in an opaque glass container on husband's desk.
It has been 3 years, with very few reminders.

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For my husband (who loves everything unhealthy/eating out) discussing the cost of eating out versus cooking food at home has helped tremendously.

Sometimes, you have to attack the problem from a different angle. :)



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Another thought: learn how to make some of the favorite "eat out" dishes at home!

I loved McD's egg mcmuffins, used to get them pretty frequently as there was a drive thru on my way to work. Then we moved (to a different state!), I started being a SAHM, and it wasn't in the cards to get them, financially or time-wise. So I learned how to make them at home! They're not identical, as I discovered I vastly prefer sharp cheddar over the American cheese they use.

My dad loves french fries, but my mom can't handle the salt, so he learned how to fry them at home, and make a small portion for her with very little salt. Same with pretty much every dish from Olive Garden, and some other local restaurants they enjoy.

Learning how to cook can be a lot more fun when you're learning how to make something you KNOW you like, and you can adjust the ingredients or cooking methods to fit your nutritional needs. There are a lot of recipes out there for replicating favorite dishes.

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1/3/18 7:15 A

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Make eating out something special; say on Saturday and home cook the rest of the week.



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Plan ahead and choose 1 or 2 days a week that you go out to eat. You'll be able to plan your meals better on those days and your SO will still be able to eat out.

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Thank you everyone for the suggestions! As I said originally I do not expect him to follow along with my goals and plans but I did want him to understand how it affects me when he wants to go out all the time. We did talk about it last night & he was completely understanding of my needs, he did joke about it today and I just kindly reminded him that it was not going to help me personally achieve my goals but if he wanted to go out he could. We made all our meals at home today :~) thanks again for the great suggestions and kind support, I just needed to hear that I could do it and get some ideas on how to open up the conversation.

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Eating out on a regular basis does not have to destroy your healthy eating goals.

Just make sure to order small portion sizes and/or half sized portions, package up half of your entrée and/or sides for another meal, order something other than a big entrée (such as an appetizer, a dessert, or three a la carte side dishes), share an entrée/ask for a split plate, share a dessert, share an appetizer, avoid drinking alcoholic beverages or limit yourself to only one alcoholic beverage, have water as your only beverage or order a beverage but avoid getting refills, order a meal or menu item from the kid's menu (the kid's menu usually serves smaller portion sizes-this works best at a fast food joint or coffee shop), ask for substitutions and/or customization (be sure to tip well!), ask for the sauces, melted butter, and/or dressings on the side and either don't use or use no more than 1 tbsp. maximum, order only one course (ex: order an entrée, appetizer, or dessert but don't order all of the courses), review the online nutritional menu before going out to check for the lower calorie and/or lower fat menu items, skip the breadbasket or have only one piece of bread, and/or order at least one course from the "lighter choices" section of the menu.

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-At McDonald's (a fast food joint), I would order a McCafe milkshake (at McDonald's, the best tasting menu items are the desserts), but I would order my shake in the small portion size and the shake would be the only menu item in my order. Other reasonable options would include one order strawberries and crème pie, one order apple pie, one cookie, one order McCafe smoothie (small size), or one order sweet tea (extra small or small size). At Arby's, that would translate to one molten lava cake, one small soda, or one small shake. At Burger King, that would translate to one hot fudge sundae, one small frappe, one cookie, one slice of pie, or one order ICEE (small size). At Wendy's, that would translate to one Jr. Frosty, a small strawberry sweet tea, or a small fruit tea chiller. At Cinnabon, that would translate to one mini Cinnabon, one order cinnamon hot cocoa, or one order cinnamon iced coffee. At Taco Bell, that would translate to a 2 pack of Cinnabon Delights, one caramel apple empanada, one order cinnamon twists, one order iced regular coffee, or one regular sized freeze drink. At Dairy Queen, that would translate to ordering a mini sized Blizzard, ordering a small Misty Slush, ordering a small Orange Julius smoothie, or sharing a small Blizzard with another person. At an ice cream shop (such as Baskin Robbins or Cold Stone Creamery), that would translate to one scoop of ice cream or other frozen dessert of your choice with one or two toppings. At Sonic Drive-In, that would translate to ordering a regular (not large) shake, malt, or slushy drink or a kids sundae.
-At P.F. Chang's (a Chinese restaurant), I would allow myself to order two entrées (I like the spicy chicken and the ginger chicken), a dessert (I like the chocolate dome), and a non-alcoholic beverage (I like Coconut Cooler), but I would skip the appetizers, ask for brown rice with my entrees, share my dessert with family and/or friends (ordering the mini desserts such as mini cheesecake or mini shortcake would also be a great option), avoid getting refills on my beverage, share my entrees with family and/or friends, and take some of the entrees home for another meal and the ginger chicken entrée happens to be a lower calorie, lower fat option on the lighter choices section of the menu.
-At Chipotle or Qdoba (a Mexican restaurant), I would allow myself to get tacos, but I would choose the create your own tacos option, order the tacos with steak (a lean meat) instead of barbacoa, brisket, bacon, ground beef, or carnitas (which are fatty meats), get guacamole and shredded cheese (which add nutrients) on my tacos but don't get sour cream or queso sauce (which add fat but not nutrients) on my tacos, request that veggies be added to my tacos (such as lettuce, tomatoes, beans, onions, and cilantro), request that my tacos be made with corn taco shells or corn tortillas (a whole grain product) instead of flour tortillas (a white flour product), drink only water or get a regular (not large) soda without refills, put ice cubes in the beverage cup, and share the soda with another person, and skip the bag of chips or order the bag of chips with salsa or guacamole as a dipping sauce instead of queso as a dipping sauce and share the bag of chips with other people.
-At a locally owned authentic Thai restaurant, I would order pineapple red curry with coconut milk, but I would drink water with ice cubes or hot herbal tea (if dining at the restaurant) or drink my own homemade Thai iced tea (if getting takeout) instead of ordering Thai iced tea, request brown rice instead of white rice, order a lunch sized portion of curry and rice or share my curry and rice, save some of my curry and rice for another meal, order my curry with a lean protein (such as chicken-which is usually steamed at Thai restaurants) (beware: the tofu at Thai restaurants is usually deep fried), and order one small scoop of rice pudding, coconut milk ice cream, or mango sorbet for dessert.
-At a locally owned authentic Indian buffet, I would go to the all you can eat lunch buffet, which is cheaper in money price than ordering from the lunch menu or going to that restaurant for dinner, but the plates and bowls at that buffet are rather small, I would take a tiny amount of each item I want so that each item that sounds good fits onto a meal sized plate, I would put a helping of fresh fruit and cottage cheese somewhere on my plate, I would choose brown rice instead of white rice or fried rice if the brown rice option is available, I would put mixed greens with cucumber yogurt raita dressing into my salad bowl, I would take only one dessert sized plate full of dessert samples, and I would order a mango and cardamom flavored vanilla yogurt lassi to drink but I would share the drink with another person and avoid refills. At all you can eat buffet chains (such as Country Buffet, Golden Corral, and Ponderosa), in the cafeterias at schools, prisons, college campuses, workplaces, and camps, and at the casino/resort all you can eat buffets (such as the Las Vegas buffets), the layout as described above would translate to drinking one shared non-alcoholic beverage of your choice (no refills or second beverages) and a glass or bottle of water, filling up one meal sized tray or plate with a tiny portion of each food you want to taste (no going back for additional helpings), filling up one bowl with leafy greens and vegetables with fat free or low-fat dressing, a small drizzle of regular dressing, or no dressing, and filling up one dessert sized plate with a tiny portion of each dessert you want to taste (no going back for additional helpings).
-At Outback Steakhouse (a steakhouse), I would order a steak, salad, and mashed potatoes, but I would choose a leaner cut of steak (such as a 6 oz filet mignon or a 6 oz center cut sirloin instead of a ribeye) (if you don't want beef steak, then feel free to order fish fillet, chicken breast-remove skin by yourself if not already skinless, lamb loin chop, leg of lamb, lean roast beef, veal chop, veal cutlet, roast poultry-remove skin by yourself, baby back ribs, button riblets, game meat, or pork chop if not fried), request any sauces on the side (if the steak comes with sauces), use the bottled steak sauce (already on the table) as a low calorie condiment, skip the steak accompaniments (if you must have an extra item to accompany your steak, go for the steamed crab legs, grilled shrimp, or a lobster tail with lemon wedges or cocktail sauce instead of melted butter), request that my side house salad is served with low-fat balsamic vinaigrette or fat free tangy tomato dressing or with any dressing on the side and without croutons, skip the appetizers or share an appetizer, skip the desserts (if dessert is a must, then order a mini milkshake, order a small scoop of sorbet or ice cream, order fresh fruit, or share a dessert), skip the breadbasket (if you must have bread, stick to only one slice), drink only water, and save half of my steak and potatoes for the next day or share my entrée. This layout can also be used for BBQ restaurants (such as Famous Dave's), French restaurants (such as The French Laundry), and high end restaurants (such as Capital Grille and The Cheesecake Factory) as well.
-At Red Lobster (a seafood restaurant), I would order steamed crab legs, a grilled fish entrée, or a lobster tail, but I would order steamed broccoli for my side dish, order a side salad (no croutons, ranch dressing on the side-use only 1 tbsp. of dressing on the salad) for my appetizer, get only water to drink or ask for my pina colada or frozen margarita to be nonalcoholic, use the lemon wedges instead of the melted butter (when it comes to a condiment to use for my lobster or crab and for my broccoli), skip the basket of biscuits (if you must have a cheddar biscuit, eat only one biscuit), and get fresh orange wedges for my dessert or share a slice of crustless cheesecake (key lime pie or heirloom apple crostada are other options) with another person.
-At Red Robin (a burger restaurant), I would order a burger, but I would request a turkey burger patty (which is leaner than a beef burger patty), ask for my burger to be bunless and lettuce wrapped (the buns at Red Robin are slathered in butter), and come with the sauce on the side, use the ketchup (which is already provided at the table) for a low calorie condiment, get broccoli for my side dish, get water to drink, share an order of steak fries with another person, skip the appetizers, and skip the desserts (trust me, the desserts and shakes at Red Robin are not really delicious tasting).
-At a pizzeria (Domino's, Pizza Hut, Mellow Mushroom, Papa John's, Round Table Pizza, etc.), I would order pizza, but I would eat only one slice of a shared pizza or save the other half of a personal pizza for the next day, add vegetable toppings, stick with lean meat toppings (ham, steak, chicken, anchovies, Canadian bacon, etc.) instead of pepperoni, sausage, ground beef, or regular bacon if you must have meat on your pizza, drink only water, eat a side salad (no croutons, with dressing on the side or lite dressing) for your side dish, skip the appetizer orders (if an appetizer is a must, eat only 1 breadstick or 1 wing with 1 tbsp. of sauce), and skip the desserts or share a dessert.
-At an Italian restaurant (such as Olive Garden, Romano's Macaroni Grill, or Old Spaghetti Factory), I would order pasta and a dessert to eat and an Italian soda to drink, but I would ask for my pasta to be topped with tomato sauce or pesto sauce and a sprinkle of Parmesan cheese instead of a cream based sauce, have my pasta meatless or topped with grilled chicken, order a side house salad (no croutons) with house Italian dressing or creamy Italian dressing as my side dish, skip the appetizers (if you must have an appetizer, share the appetizer with another person), avoid getting refills on my soda, skip the bread or have only one piece of bread, package up half of my pasta for another meal, and I would order one scoop of gelato or sorbet for dessert, share a dessert, or order a miniature dessert.
-At a coffee and bakery café (such as Starbucks, Einstein's Bagels, or Dunkin Donuts), I would order a specialty drink (such as a flavored latte or mocha, frappe, tea drink, or hot cocoa) but I would order a kids size or small size drink and I would skip the pastries, muffins, and donuts (if pastry, muffins, or donuts is a must, then share your order of one pastry, donut, or muffin with another person or browse the menu to find out if you can order a miniature sized pastry or donut).
-At a diner type restaurant (such as Denny's, Village Inn, Corner Bakery, Panera Bread, Hard Rock Café, TGI Friday's, Chili's, Applebee's, Ruby Tuesday, or IHOP), I would get water or tea to drink (if you must drink milk, fruit juice, shake, soda, or specialty drink, then get the smallest size available and don't get refills), share an entrée, order a half sized entrée, order an entrée from the lighter choices section of the menu, or make a meal from three of the a la carte side dishes or from a cup of soup and a salad or from a cup of soup and a half sandwich or from the salad bar, eat only one piece of bread, skip the appetizers or share an appetizer or get a cup of soup, salad bar plate, or a side salad for your appetizer, and skip the desserts, share a dessert, get fresh fruit for a dessert, or order a miniature dessert.
-At a Japanese restaurant, I would order sashimi (aka slices of raw fish) (feel free to order California sushi rolls, a teriyaki grilled chicken bowl, or vegetarian cucumber sushi rolls), but I would ask for brown rice instead of white rice for my side dish, dip my sashimi or sushi in soy sauce, chili sauce, and/or plum sauce (which are fat free and low calorie sauces-hot mustard is another option), ask for steamed edamame or chicken yakitori for my appetizer (seaweed salad is another good option for an appetizer), get water and green tea to drink, and skip the desserts, have fresh fruit for dessert, have one scoop of green tea ice cream for dessert, have a mochi (aka sweet rice cake) for dessert, or share a slice of Japanese cheesecake.
-At a fondue restaurant (such as The Melting Pot), I would order lean meat skewers (chicken, filet mignon, lobster, crab, shrimp, etc.) dipped in broth for my entrée, steamed vegetables dipped in cheese fondue for my appetizer, side salad (no croutons, dressing on the side) for my side dish, and fresh fruit dipped in chocolate fondue for my dessert and I would drink only water.

Have fun! Best of luck to you and your husband!




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Martha makes a good point. It can't be the atmosphere at Micky Dees, so it must be the food. Bring his food home and you can have whatever you want to eat at home?

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That's a tough one and I've been lucky in that my partner and I are on the same page. It seems that NIRERIN gave you really good advice. I know it's fun to go out together, but what about you opting to eat at home without him once in awhile. Make your good healthy dinner and when he asks, looks sad but say you made dinner and hate it to go to waste as it'll taste so much better if you eat it that night.

My guess is that you'll have to start small with little changes and over time hopefully you'll get him to want to eat at home more and you'll have more ideas of what to choose when you go out.

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Maybe not right up to date, but this has some ideas to work with:

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Sit down, not in the moment and hash out a plan that is going to work for both of you. State that you would like to cook at least 1-2 meals at home each week and ask if that works for him. Ask him why he wants to eat out all the time. He might like the ease and taste. He might think that you work hard enough and this is a way to make your life easier. He might not like what you cook. If you need to, do ask point blank about your cooking skills/menu choices. Some of us have a tendency to go a little too healthy (think steamed tofu and sprouts) when the rest of the family is on a Big Mac diet. So ask to bring the family together to figure out what meals you want to cook and teach the daughter basic life skills that she needs. Work to evaluate the recipes as a family to see what you liked, what you didn't and what could be changed in the future. Once you get a toehold then you can increase the meals and days, but give everyone a chance to ease into the new routine.

Remember that you are the one that is changing and rocking the boat on what used to be your agreement.

So ask for a small change together. Keep asking for and utilizing feedback to work out a plan together that works for all of you. Perhaps you should reserve one night for eating out. As others have noted there are better options that you can learn to choose while out. Again, discuss this with your significant other knowing that you are the one who has changed and wants to try something different. So open it up as a topic. I'd like to cook more at home, can we make this work for us? I'd like to start with one or two nights per week. What kinds of meals would you like to have at home? It will be really great for Daughter to learn her way around the kitchen.

You may or may not want to bring up sweeping health changes during this discussion. They really become background noise when they come up too frequently with no changes. Asking him to police or limit your choices is you being unfair to him. It's his fault if he offers, it's his fault if he doesn't, it's his fault if you have it and his fault for just about anything else related to it. Asking him to do that puts him in a no win situation, so he will likely do whatever he likes best since you cannot be made happy by any choice. You have to learn to set up and follow your own boundaries. It's one thing to ask for a night a week (planned in advance) and perhaps stress that you would really appreciate it if he only asked once instead of five times. And when he does ask just once (or cuts himself off mid second ask), praise him and thank him and tell him how much you appreciate it. But start with small changes that he can easily get his head around instead of everything is suddenly going to be different.

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In addition to what Dave and Kris suggested, have you actually had a heart to heart with your SO? Does he/she understand your new goal of getting healthy?

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Good suggestions. Eat before you go. Most fast food joints offer something you can have if you're trapped there. Suggest places a step up from fast food who do have the more health-conscious fare. Eat half and take some home. Save him some money if you can find the coupons and get fed way better by choosing healthy delivery like Freshly, Hello fresh, and Blue Apron.... or just offer to cook from scratch. There are lots of alternatives. Good luck!

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I never had the problem you have, but that aside, there are many steps that you can make to help you:

Order smaller meals, and search their internet menu re nutritional info ahead of time so that you are better prepared to make make healthier choices.

Eat plenty of fruit/veges at home, so you won't be so hungry. It used to be at least 5 servings (80g /serve) was recommended, but now it is more like 7 or more fruit/veges.

Don't use dressings at home unless they are healthier versions.

Have some healthy, tasty, home-prepared meals ready in the freezer so that you could suggest staying in and watching movies and eating your ready-made meals. Even putting a blanket on the floor and having a 'picnic' there could make for a nice change and some form of entertainment.

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Let me preface this question by stating that I am not at all wanting my SO to eat exactly like me. He can do what he wants BUT unfortunately he always wants to eat fast food or go out to dinner and it's killing my weight loss goals right now. I'm just not mentally strong enough right now to say "no" especially when he offers and offers it. Have any of you had to have the conversation with your SO about not asking us to go out to eat or get fast food, etc? If so how did you have the conversation and did they respond well? I've tried telling him not to bring it up because then I want it. Addictive tendencies run high in my family and I myself use to be a binge eater and still struggle with being addicted to fast food. I just want him to understand that I love the gesture of him wanting to take us out but I don't want to set us up or his daughter up for a lifetime of living on fast food or dining out! If you have any advice I'd love it because in the new year I really want to cut back on my fast food intake and overall spending and eating of junk foods!!!

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