How do I quit sabotaging my efforts?

I think it's totally awesome that your doctor recommended this site! YAY FOR HIM (or her)!

You can do it!! YOU CAN!!

one day at a time and keeping motivated is what I find works best for me...

Thank you to everyone. For your advice and encouragement. I wasn't so sure about signing up for this sight (recommendation by my doctor)and I was very hesitant to post a "Plea for help" but I'm glad I did and will continue to until I can get this mindset of mine on the right track.

Just take it one day at a time. You are to remember that you are worthy of the time & effort it takes! No one deserves it more. Good luck!

The comfort that food brings us is so easy to embrace. food doesn't nag, provide negative comments, comes in all forms, is easily available and wont turn its back on you......Now is the time to STOP and say, why am I eating constantly and this much? and, What am I trying to avoid?

So....Plan #1 get yourself a bunch of veggies. Cut them up, place them in multiple baggies, so that you have 6 bags for each day of the week. This is what you will snack on when you get the urge for an oral fixation.
#2 Every time you want to eat something, tell yourself that you will EAT, but first you HAVE to drink 20 oz of water FIRST, and then 20 oz throughout the munch. This will force you to be full, and the effort of having to drink that much water makes you reconsider consuming that snack...on the other hand, it DOES FORCE you to get your liquid intake for the day in real sneaky-like
#3 So now you have your snacks and water all lined up...You need to go walk up the block and back, then do your water and snack routine. The walk will FORCE you to exercise, take your mind off of tearing through the kitchen looking for something to gobble down, and it now begins a NEW routine with calorie consumption.
----It's all about coming to terms with your own diet, health, exercise, and mind set----
We are our own enemies, and it is in our POWER to STOP and make lifestyle CHANGES...this is your NEW life; embrace it, and feel the power and control that you now will allow yourself to feel!

Good luck sweetie...I do know exactly what you are going through...been there, done that, still try to NOT do it again!!!

I'm with KHALLEXY. Something else is going on. Could you be afraid of the attention? Embarrassed? It's not about the food. You need food to live, but if you're 'medicating' yourself with food, you need to investigate what's making you feel this way.

Good luck! YOU CAN DO IT! YOU DESERVE TO BE HEALTHY AND HAPPY!

I think you have to ask yourself what is really going on? Are you simply afraid of succeeding? It is not unrealistic. Some feel it is easier to fail than succeeding but what could be the worse being fit and healthier? You are in control not the food. Once you get to the crux of the situation you will be just fine!!!!

Hi Missey,
Its all in the will power to change. HOW BAD DO YOU REALLY WANT THIS??? That is something you gotta ask yourself love. Another thing you can do to help yourself thru these difficult times is get rid of the food that is causing you to over eat and/or make only enough food for your plate and if you have family to care for ...do the same for them. Make an effort to stop making extra for second helpings.
Last but not least...set yourself up some mini goals and strive to achieve them and when you do, reward yourself with a day at the pool, or do some reading time..etc. Don't involve food. I hope this helps you. Good luck sweetie...YOU CAN DO THIS..YOU JUST GOTTA MAKE UP YOUR MIND TO NOT ABUSE YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS. XOXO

Edited by: JANETLEE40 at: 8/5/2009 (01:00)

TRUST ME I KNOW WHAT U R GO THRU.. U REALLY JUST HAVE TO SAY NOOOOOOOO.. IF U DO GIVE IN WHICH I HAVE DONE .. THEN GO FOR A 2-3 MILE WALK .. EVEN IF IT IS VERY LATE ... I STILL DO THE WALK .. MAKES ME MENTALLY FEEL BETTER TO DO THAT ALSO

Have you ever stopped "mid-bite" and asked yourself why you are eating and if you are really hungry? Next time try drinking a glass of water and walking around the block before eating.

You are so right, one day at a time. But honestly while you are taking baby steps you must demand control. You have to really say okay, not today, I'm going to do better. I would recommend one meal at a time, plan ahead, and be accountable. I know it's really hard, but a lot of it is mental. You might want to try drinking plenty of water. When you feel like eating, drink, drink then drink some more...water that is. You can do it, it takes a great deal of will power, but if you want it you can do it. I'm cheering for you, start fresh in the morning and stay in control.

I did it again Saturday, Sunday and Monday... I eat, eat and eat defeating the whole purpose of getting up at an ungodly hour and walking 3 to 4.5 miles practically every weekday. It's taken me 2 months to work up the effort of a daily workout time and distance but when am I going to quit sabatoging my efforts once I have to face food? I have to try better tomorrow. One day at a time right?