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7/13/08 11:32 P

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I'm really glad this weekend went as well as it did. I know sometimes it's hard to really be a caregiver and be a comfort to someone that isn't your own spouse, but sounds like things are going pretty well so far! I hope it continues on in this way, and glad that his son was able to come and take him to church. I know that a lot of people with disabilities get a lot of comfort from going to church, and it's important if they do that they are able to attend regularly. Keep up the good work!

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7/13/08 10:50 P

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The weekend went really well!. I cooked quite a few meals. Felt good to get back into that mode. Dennis was really happy with what I chose to make. I was worried about him on Thursday night (Clovia, his wife, left Thursday afternoon)because he didn't get much sleep, just kind of wandered around the house most of the night. But he did much better the rest of the nights, which was a relief.
Their son came this morning and took him to church, which was good. I was feeling bad that he wasn't going to be able to go since Clovia was away, but Bobby stepped up to the plate.
Clovia will be back on Tuesday evening, and I am feeling really good about the way things are going. I would definitely feel comfortable about doing this again when she needs me.

"I am only one, but still, I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And, because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do what I can."-Edward Everett Hale
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7/11/08 10:06 P

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Just checking in to update everyone. First of all thanks for the support. Beth, I am glad that you reminded me to do some care giving for myself. I can very easily forget that if I'm not watchful.
My friend left yesterday for her family reunion, so it's just Dennis (her husband) and me until Tuesday evening. So far, so good, but I wonder how he'll do over the weekend, without the adult care center to go to.
Not that he is a problem in any way. We are close, so we are getting along just fine. But we are two little wounded birds right now, each of us missing our mates. My fiance is in the hospital, and I am feeling a bit lost without him, just as Dennis is a bit lost without his wife.
It's actually kind of good to have someone else to focus on; makes the waiting easier for me.
Have done some footwork to begin working on getting my own place, for when my loved one is well and able to come home. I know that each couple needs their own space, and we will be close by one another to continue to be supportive without being intrusive. Besides, I'll be a newlywed, and you know how that goes!
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"I am only one, but still, I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And, because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do what I can."-Edward Everett Hale
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7/9/08 12:54 A

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Welcome to the group. Being a caregiver can be very hard, especially for a spouse, so I'm glad your friend has you there to help her out. It can be kind of hard to live with a couple and still feel like you have your own space and time, so when you have a chance make sure you have a chance to carve out time for yourself, even if it's just taking a walk around the block a few times on your own. Feel free to contact me anytime you need to... emoticon

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7/8/08 10:20 A

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WOW! All I can say is what a blessing a friend like you would be! WOW!

Welcome to this group and to Sparks. I have been lagging in getting online-but still keeping track offline... it helps a lot.

Again, Welcome!


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7/8/08 2:55 A

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Good morning to everyone,
I just found this group after looking in all the wrong places earlier. My dearest friend is the primary caregiver for her husband, who is a TBI survivor. He started off with a seizure which led to the discovery of a meningioma. Following surgery, he suffered a stroke. It has been a few years now, but we were out of touch for most of that time, so I am just now finding out about it, and I am also now living with them and assisting her in caring for him.
He is doing pretty well, but I can remember him as he was when we all first met, over 40 years ago. I am grateful for the opportunity to be able to give back to them after all that they did for me throughout the years. I decided to join this group because it sounds as though many of you will be able to provide guidance on how best to assist, and how to be balanced. I would like to be a part of the solution, rather than exacerbating the problem.

"I am only one, but still, I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And, because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do what I can."-Edward Everett Hale
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