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8/18/08 10:41 A

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Tiffany, I agree with both Irishnavylady and quilter-dieter. But I would start with Irishnavylady's post first. Joining yourself could give him encouragement to want to get out and walk with you plus there are tons of really good recipes. My husband and I both joined and work together, though neither of us could do this solo, we don't have the willpower, but together we seem to want to work at helping the other out. As much as I really do enjoy the support I get through SP, it is easier to continue doing things when you have the support of someone you see every day.

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8/17/08 1:22 P

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Just an idea. Look at his perscriptions and get the name and phone number of his physican. Call the physicans office and speak privately to a nurse. Tell her your husband might be depressed, and his lack of desire to lose weight or control his diet to get healthy, and that you are greatly concerned. Ask her to relay this to his doctor, and tell her you will attend with him on his next medication check up. And then, gently and lovingly go with your husband on his next visit. If the doctor does not bring this up during your visit...then at the end of the visit...ask the doctor, (yourself), if you both could possibly get referred to a nutrition program for diabetics and high blood pressure. Many insurance companies will pay for this. Many hospital offer educational programs for free, monthly as well.
Get as much diabetic information on nutrition as you can...if you are the one preparing the meals. Then lovingly suggest that you and he walk to the neighbors mailbox and back...eachday. Even a little movement will help. Be proactive for him, while he is not motivated to do so for himself. Do not nag, push or intimidate him...but lovingly and prayfully, there are ways to intervene. Good luck, Jan

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8/15/08 6:10 P

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Sometimes it is just hard to change. 41 years of doing things one way is hard to change. Also I would join the site yourself and then you can also have access to the recipies. Just start doing something yourself by cooking better or what not. Amazing things can happen if you try. You can't push him to loose the weight even if he needs too. But you can do some subtle things for your family that could help him in the long run.


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8/15/08 3:42 P

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Hi, I am not Calvin, but I am his wife, Tiffany, that got him started on this program due to his health. He looked at it the first time and has not came back to it. I am really concerned due to the fact that he is 41 years old, 5'8" and weighing in at 400-450 lbs. He has had HBP for at least the past 12 years and has recently been diagnosed with diabetes. I am 28 and I love my husband very much and I want him to be around for a very long time. When we married almost 6 years ago, he was only 300 lbs. If something was to happen to him, I could deal with it over time, but we have 3 boys, ages 6, 4 and 2, and I don't think that they would deal very well. Can anyone help me understand why he doesn't want to be healthier or what it could be that might make him stay stuck in this rut? emoticon

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