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Day 22 - Say "Oh Well" to Disappointment

This was a difficult lesson to learn at first. The sabotaging thoughts were getting the best of me. But with the help of my diet coach (DW) reading my ARCs and a lot of self-talk I managed to say "Oh Well." There are a number of other things that I don't like doing, but they must be done and passing on the brownie or the extra slice of pizza is included in that list.

Edited by: 1DAY-ATA-TIME at: 3/24/2020 (08:27)
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Day 22 - Say "Oh Well" to Disappointment


Another powerful strategy from Beck. I am always impressed by the example of her young son adapting and no longer struggling about his diet restrictions and he had to endure 6 years as a young child not getting the treats "all the other kids" could have. My own DH and kids are amazing in their resolve, once they decide, they go forward with rarely a slip or slide. I guess I am more normal, because my path to success is more jagged. But I do feel good about the current direction.

When you face times of doubt and disappointment, when you feel resentful and a little rebellious, remind yourself you have freely chosen to diet (and why), accept that you don't always like restricting your eating , acceptance eliminates struggle, helps you feel better, and allows you to focus your attention elsewhere.
Say "0h well, I don't like this, but I can't eat everything I want and reach my weight goal, so I will accept it and move forward. " paraphrased from Beck Pink

TO DO LIST
- I read my ARC
menu plan
Today- Sunday
brunch- pancakes with maple syrup, eggs over easy, tea, coffee, an orange
supper - tenderloin steak, pasta with marinara, green salad - DH's choice
Tomorrow- Monday - a fasting day for me
lunch - (same as last week, but made fresh) rice with mushrooms, chicken, green salad
supper - fish, potatoes, green beans

Personal notes
Yesterday and today were good days for sticking to my plan. This social isolation, it is going okay, I am spending more time with DH. They say when this crisis is over, there will be more babies among the young couples, and also potential for all couples for more closeness or more divorces. So far, pretty sweet for us, and more things getting done at home too.




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This is a useful lesson for all types of disappointments, not just food or diet. For me, it always helps to remind myself of the positive long term goals that I am working for. My recent examples:

1. Turning down a pastry: oh well. It is more important to me to lose weight and be more healthy.
2. Canceling our May rafting trip and our trip to New Mexico: oh well. It is more important to stay safe during this pandemic. The restaurants and attractions are closed for a good reason.
3. Losing a bunch of retirement money when the stock market fell: oh well. I can’t change the world economy, and we made the best decisions that we could.




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Day 22 - Say "Oh Well" to giving-in
First bite taste best; savor it! "I don't like this, but I am going to accept it and move on...simple and extremely important concept. It takes time to change a mindset that took years to form."
One bite leads to another with trigger foods. emoticon It's easier to avoid the first bite then resist taking another. Accepting my new way of eating.
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This is one of my favorite days in the plan. I can easily get away from saying "oh well" when I am tired and under pressure. A great reminder to get rid of the disappointment with an "oh well" instead of carrying it around (quite literally in extra weight!).

Reading this reminds me of how I respond to the youth I coach when something does not go quite right, "bummer, dude". The next at-bat, the next shot, the next whatever is coming. I made a "bummer, dude" response card for myself.

I will edit my post at the end of the day to complete my checklist.

Day 22 To Do List:
emoticon I read my Advantages, NO CHOICE, It's Not OK and Get Back On Track response cards at least twice today
emoticon I read other response cards as needed
emoticon I ate slowly, sitting down and noticing every bite most of the time
emoticon I gave myself credit for engaging in helpful eating behaviors (every time / most of he time / some of the time)
- I did spontaneous exercise (every opportunity / some of the time / once or twice / not at all)
emoticon I did planned exercise
emoticon I wrote out a food plan for tomorrow
emoticon I monitored everything I ate today in writing right after I finished eating
- I said "Oh, well (I don't like this, but I'm going to accept and move on)" when I wanted something I couldn't have
- I weighed myself, recorded the results on my weight loss chart, and reported my change to my diet coach


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Day 22, Say "Oh Well" to Disappointment is about accepting that life experiences are not always satisfactory, and yes that includes food-related situations.
We can't have it both ways, for a person who wants to reach and maintain a healthy weight, and to live a healthy life, it is impossible to always eat whatever they like.

"Once you truly accept that you NEED to follow the steps in this program, your struggles will diminish and dieting will become much easier."

Saying "Oh well... this meal was not as satisfactory and fun as I expected, but this was it, there is no more" is not easy. But it is easier to say at the end of a planned meal, than saying after the first unplanned bite, because once I started eating off plan, it gets harder with every bite.
The fullness I feel will increase in the next 20-30 minutes, and the desire to eat more will diminish,so the longer I resist, the better chances I have!

What are you thinking?
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Day 22 To Do List:
emoticon I read my Advantages, NO CHOICE, It's Not OK and Get Back On Track response cards at least twice today
- I read other response cards as needed
- I ate slowly, sitting down and noticing every bite (every time / most of he time / some of the time)
- I gave myself credit for engaging in helpful eating behaviors (every time / most of he time / some of the time)
- I did spontaneous exercise (every opportunity / some of the time / once or twice / not at all)
emoticon I did planned exercise
emoticon I wrote out a food plan for tomorrow
- I monitored everything I ate today in writing right after I finished eating
- I said "Oh, well (I don't like this, but I'm going to accept and move on)" when I wanted something I couldn't have
emoticon I weighed myself, recorded the results on my weight loss chart, and reported my change to my diet coach

Personal note:
For the purpose of this challenge, you are my collective diet coach, so I report I lost half a pound - moving in the right direction!
Also shared on team's weigh-in message board, here:
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I find this concept very helpful. Indeed I can't stop sabotaging thoughts from arising, but I can respond to them, "I don't like this, but I'm going to accept it and move on".
I could choose to engage in thoughts of disappointment, resentment, unfairness, and dwell on them - or I can abandon those thoughts.
Advantage on the present: nipping the unhelpful thoughts in the bud is easier than nurturing them and then fight them when they are strong
Advantage in the future: my mind learns and generates less and less unhelpful thoughts.
Just like I don't have sabotaging thoughts about brushing my teeth, or about getting up at 5:30 to start my day with meditation. I had already decided, and I only have to do what I planned.


Edited by: KRISZTA11 at: 3/22/2020 (05:16)
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-avoid overeating, instead of satisfaction you get stronger cravings


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@AMUSICALLIFE this is a great insight, "This moment in time isn't everything. You look beyond the moment and it gives you control over the present situation. "
I find in the moment of disappointment sometimes I take it so seriously as if it was going to be my mind state forever... which is, of course, not true, disappointment will pass.
Especially the disappointment at the end of a meal, because the sensation of fullness increases in the 20 minutes after the meal.

Kathleen, congrats to the partial success you achieved.
I believe the time between getting home from a frustrating working day and sitting down to eat dinner are the most difficult part of the day.
Someone made a very precise observation about transition from one activity to another being a time of vulnerability to go off plan, one of the earlier Day's messageboards. It was very helpful, but I couldn't locate it now.
The same happened to me in the evening of Day 12... valuable learning experience for both of us.

Gail, that sounds like a very stressful day, it is great you were able to say NO to desire for unplanned food, an important achievement. I imagine feeling strong and confident made the days somewhat better.

Edited by: KRISZTA11 at: 10/23/2019 (05:22)
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-do not try to balance overeating by extreme workouts, it is not going to work
-avoid overeating, instead of satisfaction you get stronger cravings


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"Oh well"... a tiring and frustrating day, but it's over and I did not overeat.

I weighed myself this morning 165.2 lbs. and set up my weight graph.

We had to drive 50 miles across Toronto, in rush hour traffic, to pick up the car insurance cheque to replace our car which was totalled by an 18-wheeler. Pouring rain and very heavy traffic. The 50 miles took almost 2 hours. Then when we got there the cheque had been made out for the wrong amount... 45 minutes to get a replacement.

Home in time for a quick lunch and then a 90-minute meeting at church about a coffee house we are planning as part of the poverty coalition... coffee, cards, magazines and conversation, working with a local social service agency, the foodbank and the Salvation Army.

Then another drive... still raining... to pick up the new car and return the rental. Happily home at 5:45 on a day which started at 8:30.

I've learned something this week... I can tell myself NO... and it works. Not sure I ever tried it consistently before.

Oh well... one step at a time, one day at a time, we can learn new techniques and make new habits.



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I "oh welled" when I was hungry at 11:30 but lunch wasn't until 12:30. Oh well, just have to wait a bit.
I "oh welled' when I wanted to toss a mini snickers bar into my lunch box but didn't.

I did NOT "oh well" when I got home from working a 9-hour day, completely stressed out, tired from a bad night's sleep, in the dumps because of the rainy weather, and nibbled just a few tostitos - which then became two servings plus a quarter cup of chocolate chips, because, well, you have to balance out the sweet and salty, you know!

I got back to "oh welling" now after that breakdown, and will scale back my dinner a bit, and forgo my planned World Series popcorn. I'm going to get back on track right away and maybe just be a taddy-bit hungry at bedtime. Oh well. Tomorrow's another day to get it right.

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In reading today's chapter, the person definitely had to have success and satisfaction with turning away from food prior to this at some point in their life.

I think Oh Well is a good statement because it means to me that This moment in time isn't everything. You look beyond the moment and it gives you control over the present situation. It says, I can move on from this. It makes the "food situation" ( or whatever the subject might be) to an unimportant level. It makes you above the food. You are in control.

In teaching Sunday School last week, we had pictures of "earthly things" and the kindergarteners were asked to raise the amount of fingers up to tell us how important those things were to them. 1 being the littlest amount and 10 being most important.
Example , a cell phone, a clock (meaning time), the earth, and a home.

They raised their fingers when we spoke about each one. The concept is much deeper for an adult, but it makes you think about what is really important to you. If dieting is important, what are we willing to do to lose the weight?

I have to ask myself, am I willing to deny myself some pleasures to become who I have always wanted to be. We are made of flesh and we have desires. Sometimes it is easier than other times. Hopefully we will all get there and stay there sooner than later.

Stick to the plan, I am willing.


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Oh Well.

I used to say that (and still do on occasion) to my children when they were little.

It means that sucks. But get over it. I have my moments like all that I want to be the princess and say "NOT FAIR!"
Then I realize that there are things in life that isn't fair. Eating all the cheese and the peanut butter and fresh baked bread with grass fed butter isn't something that works for me.

I realize that "it is what it is" and I don't want to be a chubby wubba again.

Oh well.

I am forcing myself to remember that image of me taken last year standing next to a fellow artist and how horrible I looked and when I think about not getting to dip a spoon in the desert with my daughter, I say to myself ... "oh well".

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Day 22, Say "Oh Well" to Disappointment is about accepting that life experiences are not always satisfactory, and yes that includes food-related situations.
We can't have it both ways, for a person who wants to reach and maintain a healthy weight, and to live a healthy life, it is impossible to always eat whatever they like.

"Once you truly accept that you NEED to follow the steps in this program, your struggles will diminish and dieting will become much easier."

Saying "Oh well... this meal was not as satisfactory and fun as I expected, but this was it, there is no more" is not easy. But it is easier to say at the end of a planned meal, than saying after the first unplanned bite, because once I started eating off plan, it gets harder with every bite.
The fullness I feel will increase in the next 20-30 minutes, and the desire to eat more will diminish,so the longer I resist, the better chances I have!

What are you thinking?
Please share here!
emoticon

Personal note:
I find a large portion of disappointment comes from my unrealistic high expectations, food and non-food situations alike.
"Oh well" is still not my favorite, on my new response I wrote the longer version:
This meal was not as pleasant and satisfactory as I expected, but I'm goind to accept it and move on.+ Keep expectations realistic!


Edited by: KRISZTA11 at: 10/22/2019 (03:46)
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Maintenance Lessons Learned:
-go on with the healthy lifestyle learned in weight loss phase
-just add healthy foods gradually to stop losing
-work out every day - 30-60 minutes is enough to maintain weight and good mood
-do not try to balance overeating by extreme workouts, it is not going to work
-avoid overeating, instead of satisfaction you get stronger cravings


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I still need a more militant response than "oh well". SUZYB53, I also need as you stated to remain positive and to give myself a pat on the back and credit for all the right choices I make daily.

I continue having ST's about and then choosing to follow through with unplanned snacks. emoticon This is not helping me to accomplish my goal to lighten up before my upcoming travels.

In the past when I wrote my ST's down it really helped. I need to remind myself, "what do I want MORE, to keep working on my goal to lighten up to look and feel my best or to eat something?" I am going to focus on writing down my ST's as this has worked best for me in the past and also to read my ARC and reminder cards. emoticon



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I just read the thread here and reread the example about Dr. Beck’s son. That story is about saying “Oh well,” and also about positive reinforcement in the form of stars on a chart. So I am tweaking today’s assignment to say “oh well” when I struggle, followed by a mental pat on the back. I may also think of a memory I want to use of a time that I’ve felt good about other successful struggles. This is a more positive form of reinforcement than thinking about other unpleasant things I do everyday.

This turtle is to remind myself that slow but steady wins the race.


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"Oh Well" works fine for me. To me it's acceptance that I can't do/have/eat everything if I want to successfully lose weight and keep it off. I cannot start to eat my trigger foods, because once I start I may not stop. I cannot sample foods while I'm cooking, because I could easily add 100-200 calories/day. I cannot have a piece of candy every time I pass the dish, just because it is there.

"Oh Well" also signifies accepting the times that I eat wrong. It says, "yes, you messed up, but now you can get back on track". It doesn't mean that I will quit. I'm stronger than that.



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Day 22: Say "Oh Well" to Disappointment

I do get through a lot of things by telling myself "Oh Well". I can't give in to every craving and I can't dwell on every disappointment in life. For me because I matter I have to move on.

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It's interesting that almost everyone would like to find a different phrase from oh well. I feel that way, too, although I know that I often say oh well when something doesn't go as I planned.

My mind is drawing a blank on this one. I am thinking that oh well is probably much better than getting upset or angry that something hasn't gone as planned.

For now I am sticking with Oh, well …( now that I know better, I can do better). If I think of it like that it kind of feels like turning a page. It leads me somewhere instead of just accepting something that I can't change.

The question really is, what will come to mind naturally. I think I am totally conditioned to the oh well and in my mind I think (that happened and I accept it).






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Truly accepting what I need to do to lose weight is a very important concept and a challenging one for me to implement. Much like many of you "oh well" statement doesn't embody it for me. This weekend I'll work on digging deeper into what acceptance really means to me and creating a more personal statement to help me get thru challenging times.

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This is a hard one, I sometimes don't deal well with dealing with disappointment, feeling overwhelmed and feeling hard done by (its not fair) and I think Beck gives good strategies to deal with this. I have improved but am not where I want to be yet.

Oh well, I don't like it, it is unpleasant and difficult, but I accept it and move on, it is a necessary means to and end, and it gives me peace of mind, once I have set the direction thoughtfully, to stop deciding every situation, just do it, and achieve peace of mind.


Oh well is about accepting reality, consequences to behaviour, if we don't want the consequences, we should avoid the behaviour. In this specific case, I have chosen to eat in order to lose weight, that means I don't eat more than I burn, if I do, I will not lose weight.
Some strategies to make this easier and more habitual are supportive to losing weight, not to make me suffer and be unhappy.

I am always amazed at the story in this chapter about Beck's young son who stuck to a diet for 6 years that put foods most children find fun to be not his food, cookies, candy, ice cream.. Was he being deprived of fun? He adjusted and didn't think of it that way. There are other ways to have fun besides food, and for him it would not have been fun to damage his health. Repeat to myself, there are other ways to have fun besides food

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- Improved fitness and nutrition, energy and confidence are my rewards.
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A PH (personal high) is the main goal, a PB is the sometime icing on the cake.
Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
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Day 22: Say "Oh Well" to Disappointment
One bite leads to another with my trigger foods. It's easier to avoid the first bite then resist taking another. Say aloud emoticon "If it's to be, it's up to me." emoticon
Friends and family are being supportive and not offering food during visits. emoticon Keep adding to my Distraction Box: SP article "Finding Fun u.nu/4d-g "
"Meant to Be" u.nu/9758 "Fight Song" u.nu/h8v2
"Shake it off" u.nu/gy7o
Video of Mop Dog in snow u.nu/on2l
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5 Hard-to-Swallow Truths About Why You're Not Seeing Results u.nu/ne4x

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emoticon Oh Well ~ this helps me most when it feels too hard or I'm feeling discouraged... this helps me to release the old things/ways I used to eat ~ to say oh, well, I used to be that way, do that, whatever... but now I'm different ~ not I don't overeat, I don't eat extra because it's there ~ Instead, I turn forward and choose to do things that help me... that will nourish my body, strengthen my body, increase my motivation (like this study) and lift my spirit ~ like Sparking, here, together with you :)

I choose to keep going, to walk the talk and do these things that will help me... even when my inner2yr old child is looking backwards, yearning for more food or whatnot... and sometimes crashes... Oh well. Get up, dust off, turn forward and walk some more... It's a good thing :)

emoticon You've done it before and you can do it now. See the positive possibilities. Redirect the substantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive, effective, unstoppable determination ~ Ralph Marston

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“Oh well” works for me not only in regards to food, but in other ways. I, personally, do not find it defeatist but merely a declaration of acceptance and moving on. For example, “Oh well” works if someone snags the parking spot just when you’re about to pull in. It works for a last minute cancellation that forces you to juggle your schedule. It works when you spill your coffee on your white shirt.

It doesn’t mean you allow yourself to get bulldozed or that you don’t address the situation — find another parking spot, juggle your schedule cuz you don’t have a choice, wash your shirt and do it quickly. It means you realize some things are simply not the way we wish they were but we can acknowledge and adjust.

Food-wise I have learned that donuts sit in my stomach and make me feel ill for hours. I like donuts. They smell good. They taste good. But “Oh well” they’re not for me. I’m not defeated. I’m wise. And I choose to skip the donuts for my own good.

It re Not a doormat not that you don’t have to deal with the fallout
this is what life is at this moment how do I keep moving foreword.

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Oh, well seems defeatist, somehow. Maybe, "Oh, well, that is done, I will be better from now on."

It seemed impossible at first to always be on the plan, but I am beginning to believe that it is possible.

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"Oh well" sounds (to me) more like resignation than acceptance, so I'm mulling over a phrase to use instead.

Much as I'd sometimes like to be able to rebel against having to plan my food and limit my intake of sweets and treats and junk, eat whatever I want in whatever quantity I want, and lie around like a slug on the couch while I do it-- I have freely chosen to live a healthier lifestyle. "I can struggle with what I have to do and feel bad, or I can accept that this is the way it is".

There's a phrase that comes to mind-- Don't give up what you want most, for what you want *now*. And in order to get what I want most, there are things I need to accept and move on.

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Day 22, Say "Oh Well" to Disappointment is about accepting that life experiences are not always satisfactory, and yes that includes food-related situations.
We can't have it both ways, for a person who wants to reach and maintain a healthy weight, and to live a healthy life, it is impossible to always eat whatever they like.

"Once you truly accept that you NEED to follow the steps in this program, your struggles will diminish and dieting will become much easier."

Saying "Oh well... this meal was not as satisfactory and fun as I expected, but this was it, there is no more" is not easy. But it is easier to say at the end of a planned meal, than saying after the first unplanned bite, because once I started eating off plan, it gets harder with every bite.
The fullness I feel will increase in the next 20-30 minutes, and the desire to eat more will diminish,so the longer I resist, the better chances I have!

What are you thinking?
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I love this concept but I don't seem to use "Oh Well" properly.
Actually I do say "Oh Well" a lot, but instead of this context, I say it after getting off track - it helps me accept it as a minor slip up and get back on track immediately.
To address my disappointment in food, I prefer "I don't wanna but I hafta" by @WATERMELLEN or "all meals don't have to be a thrill of a lifetime" (by Unknown Sparker)
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I said "oh well" to my children when they were disappointed in something ... sorry kids, we aren't going to see the movie today, instead, lets do ...
I say it to myself when things aren't perfect. ugh. I just made a lot of money at this show, now I have to pay this bill. oh well.
it makes sense to practice this when choosing better food options or no food.
I mean, it's not that I'm saying "oh well" over a huge thing. it's small in the grand scheme of life.
like making healthier food choices.
I can't eat that huge plate of pasta. oh well. I can eat something else yummy.
it's not Sophie's choice here! ( this is me talking to me) LOL

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So being a control freak "oh well" can be hard concept for me. However, what I like about this program is all of the structure it helps you build into your everyday life to help with weight management. However, life is life, so there are days where there will be "oh wells", so this chapter was a great reminder of that.

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I struggle struggle and struggle with the "oh well".

"Oh well" denies my yearnings for self pity and the downward slope that comes with that, including my food choices. "Oh well" means, "it's not a big deal" and "nothing you can do about it, shrug" and this is what I desperately need to incorporate into my life.

When I am disappointed I narcissistically expect the world to end, LOL. When I am disappointed it feels like an enormous emotion, fueled by powerlessness.

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Sayin “oh well” to disappointment then moving on really resonated with me this time reading of the book. I was also inspired by the story of her son who had to stick to a strict diet for his heath condition.

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Hi all. All good points here. I guess what ever simple sentence that is meaningful to use can work if we repeat it at the moment of a craving. Even if I am half hearted about the sentiment behind the words, just repeating the same easy words distracts me. And the words are loaded with the meaning that I put into them.

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It's interesting how everyone has their own version of Oh Well. Mine is "It is what it is." I want to eat this but I can't if I want to be thinner and healthier. It is what it is." Which is not to say it's easy.... first, I have to catch myself between the thought and the action, as Rachel (SERIOUSLIM) has pointed out. If I can do that, I can usually get myself to accept this reality. Oh and I really had to use it today because the scale had not budged. "It is what it is. I'll keep doing the things that I know will work and I will get there."

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I say this so much when it comes to other things in life, but struggle a little when it comes to food.
I have managed to track my food for 7 consecutive days now and the scale has not budged. I am disappointed about this, so reading today's task is very helpful. I think I know why the scale isn't changing, so I just need to trust that soon it will reflect a drop.

"Oh well", the scale will reflect a change soon enough; what matters is that I have been consistent for 7 days.

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I have used "oh well", but I think I will now use "if it is to be, it is up to me".

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"Oh, well" is one of the main things that has stuck with me since my first read-through of the book. Some people think it's defeatist, but to me, it means I accept life as it is, and I accept that my choices won't always be what I want in the moment, even though they're pushing me in the right direction overall.

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Maria, Love it! What do we want more? Easy to answer.

"Oh, well" works well for me often. Especially with something I want to eat. "Oh, well, I can put it on my plan for tomorrow and have some." "Oh, well, I can handle a little hunger. I'm to eat again in another hour." "Oh, well, that store sample looks good, but I'd rather stick to my plan and be thinner."


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Maribeth, You're so right...one bite leads to another! I like your mantra too. emoticon
I have used "Oh well" and other phrases in the past and they all helped but I seem to need a more militant response right now.

I found myself having ST's about wanting an unplanned snack last night and I had promised myself that I would write these ST's down if they became overpowering. Not wanting to get up to do this I asked myself in a very firm voice, "what do I want more, to keep working on my goal to look and feel my best or to eat something?" It worked. I have written What Do I Want MORE? on my ARC and reminder cards.

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One bite leads to another with my trigger foods. It's easier to avoid the first bite then resist taking another. Say ~ emoticon "If it's to be, it's up to me." emoticon

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Day 22, Say "Oh Well" to Disappointment is about accepting that life experiences are not always satisfactory, and yes that includes food-related situations.
We can't have it both ways, for a person who wants to reach and maintain a healthy weight, and to live a healthy life, it is impossible to always eat whatever they like.

"Once you truly accept that you NEED to follow the steps in this program, your struggles will diminish and dieting will become much easier."

Saying "Oh well... this meal was not as satisfactory and fun as I expected, but this was it, there is no more" is not easy. But it is easier to say at the end of a planned meal, than saying after the first unplanned bite, because once I started eating off plan, it gets harder with every bite.
The fullness I feel will increase in the next 20-30 minutes, and the desire to eat more will diminish,so the longer I resist, the better chances I have!

What are you thinking?
Please share here!

I love this concept but I don't like the phrase Oh Well very much.
I prefer "I don't wanna but I hafta" by @WATERMELLEN
Or just say That's Life!
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Good for you, Idgie!
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I too find people got used to the fact I don't eat unplanned food.
I love when someone offers me a goodie, and people who know me say "Oh, she will not eat it. She never eats between meals"
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It's funny how many of these lessons are things I've started doing already as a result of deciding to take my food plan seriously and make myself comply even when I don't want to. This one is basically what I do every day. Partner is eating something fried that smells great? Oh, well. Boss made cake for the office? Oh, well. I'm getting good at this, and people have stopped making a big deal about it because I don't treat it like a big deal unless I have to. (If someone pushes food one time too many, I say "Sorry, my cardiologist said not to eat that," and they shut up quick.)

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emoticon the overall trend is what matters,
I'm sure your weight graph shows a marked downward trend.

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Day 22: Say, Oh, Well, to Disappointment

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Weigh in for the week
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7/8 Sunday 313.7
7/11 Wednesday 315.5
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7/13 Friday 313.7

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Week overall down -3.3

I do have fluctuation day to day and the scales don't always reflect how compliant I am being or how compliant I am not being.

I do have to look at a bigger perspective then my day to day weight and the number on the scale. I was down for the week, but up from yesterday "Oh Well". My overall trend is down and that is what I need to focus on.


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Day 22 "Oh Well" to Disappointment --

I have had a few really big disappointments in my life and what I have learned over the years is you might as well accept what is -- and move on -- because it is easy to get stuck spinning your wheels if you don't.

So "Oh Well" may sound a little like giving up, or giving in -- but I have also come to know it as -- Oh Well - Just Do It--. When I am able to start positive momentum from a place that feels stuck, I know I am able to keep the positive momentum going. I have a chance everyday to practice this by passing by food in the store that looks delicious, by getting up off my butt and doing my exercises, by cleaning the house, by paying the bills, by doing anything that I might be procrastinating on.

This year I had a difficult time doing my income taxes. I put it off for the 1st of April. The main reason that I put it off was that I didn't want to have to hunt for all the paperwork required to do the taxes. Funny thing is, I had forgotten that last year I had decided that in order to not have that happen, I had actually made up a folder for all relevant papers and had been filing them away most of the year in this folder. It was only the final 3 months of last year and the beginning of this year that I had all the paper unfiled. -- So once I said, Oh Well, and started gathering up the information I had a huge surprise. I was already 3/4 of the way finished with my job. -- I had to laugh at myself because I then remembered that I had had this feeling last year and had declared, I am never going to be in that position again.
So once I finished my taxes, I started celebrating how clever I was and already filed away papers for next year.

Oops a little off topic, but it is a way that I can see how disappointment doesn't always really mean that you have steered off course. It might just mean, Oh Well, what opportunity is awaiting me around this corner?

If you really want to get philosophical, if life didn't present us with OH WELL moments, we would never know how awesome the rest of our life is.

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BECK Day 22 - 2nd weigh-in and lost 0.7 lbs. Really hoped for more. I can say “oh well”, but actually feeling it is harder. BUT... I didn’t exercise as regularly as I should have, and with the 2 Easter celebrations in 8 days, an 0.7 lb. loss is realistic... I can feel myself getting more positive already.

So... I planned to drop my husband off at the arena this morning, and run errands with our granddaughter, then go for a walk this afternoon. I checked the weather forecast and rain is predicted this afternoon, so instead I will get him to drop me off, with the stroller downtown, run the errands with Aria and then walk home.

To reach my goal weight, I need to follow the plan every day... there is NO CHOICE. I CAN do it, and I WILL do,it!

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Hey Team, Day 22,

I control my emotions and keep things in perspective. /this is definitely where I am today. I can only control myself.

I love "C'est la vie". It's simple but powerful.

and...Every meal doesn't have to be a feast...it can be a piece of Sargento Sharp Cheddar cheese.

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Today's lesson always gets me.

The first time I went through the Beck-niques Day 22 lesson, this jumped off the pages at me:

"Once you truly accept that you NEED to follow the steps in this program, your struggles will diminish and dieting will become much easier!!!"

During this lesson Beck talks of her youngest son. Beck's son is MY hero ... for six(6) years he followed the ketogenic diet due to his epilepsy!! Six years … every day … and as a child!!! Beck and her son coined the phrase ... Oh, well ... when her son was faced with foods he could not eat.

Yesterday ... well, we aren't gonna talk about it. Today ... it's a NOT MY FOOD day.

Oh, well ... kiddo.

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Every time I go to the grocery store, I get a chance to practice "Oh well, to disappointment." I live in a large metro area. The local grocer has a bakery with fresh pastries just as you walk into the store. Next is the sushi bar with free samples. And if that's not enough there’s a chef preparing something that smells delicious a few yards from the sushi. On weekends one could have a whole meal just by eating the store samples. But I don't. I want to but I don't. If I want to maintain a healthy weight, i have to do some things I don't want to do. As tempting as it may be to try some of the cheese samples, I resist, and you know, I feel so good about it once I get home!

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oh well...
Tutunan described my struggles when she wrote about expectations that my meal should be the thrill of a life time.
And it reminded me that I have to eat in order to live rather to live in order to eat....
There are a lot of o wells attached to this.

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Read about this attitude of "Oh Well" on SP long ago not realizing where it came from.

I love it and I need to use it !!

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LOL, Susan, I like what you wrote!

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I am struggling with this today.... it does not feel like an "oh well" eating experience, LOL.
I am an empty cavern of "want" today.

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Love "oh well", it really says it all for me

Every day I am on the verge of making slight changes that would make all the difference in my life.

One day I won't be able to do this, but today is not that day

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I am learning this. Have to accept disappointment. Sometimes we’re unhappy with things. Oh well.

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My response: "Oh well!"

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Today's (Day 22) chapter is about accepting that life experiences are not always satisfactory, and yes that includes food-related situations.
We can't have it both ways, for a person who wants to reach and maintain a healthy weight, and to live a healthy life, it is impossible to always eat whatever they like.

"Once you truly accept that you NEED to follow the steps in this program, your struggles will diminish and dieting will become much easier."

Saying "Oh well... this meal was not as satisfactory and fun as I expected, but this was it, there is no more" is not easy. But it is easier to say at the end of a planned meal, than saying after the first unplanned bite, because once I started eating off plan, it gets harder with every bite.
The fullness I feel will increase in the next 20-30 minutes, and the desire to eat more will diminish,so the longer I resist, the better chances I have!

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-do not try to balance overeating by extreme workouts, it is not going to work
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C'est la vie could work well. I've also been thinking of "all will be well".

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Hey Sunshine! What about a phrase like "That's life," "Such is life," or, to be really fancy, "C'est la vie?" It doesn't sound so give-up-ish, but is short and easier to say than the fleshed-out version "I don't like this but I'm going to accept it and move on." Kind of like short hand.

I've done something similar with my ARCs. For example, the short-hand version of one of my ARCs is "I'll feel more in control." The fleshed-out version goes like this: "I don't feel compelled to snack when I get home from work. I resist cravings for chips and candy. I control my emotions and keep things in perspective."

You've got this!!!


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"Oh well" feels a bit like giving up. But "I don't like this but I'm going to accept it and move on" really works for me. I'm going to need to work on connecting "Oh well", with "I don't like this but I'm going to accept it and move on". Because I really like this premise and I think it can be adapted to so many other situations in life.

I'm down 2kg and feeling confident. I was a bit wobbly a few days ago, but feel I've got this, now. 2kg to go.

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-do not try to balance overeating by extreme workouts, it is not going to work
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Thanks Kathleen. I just hit 125 today, now I have to find a day for the all-day hike. Maybe next Wednesday. The last few days today, yesterday, the day before ... 125 - 126 - 127.5 - 126.5 - 127.5 - 127. I'm feeling really good about that :) :) :) Now to balance out and maintain and then continue toward goal weight.

Cat, you are the only other person in my experience with the Beck diet solution who has mentioned and felt inspired by Beck's story of her youngest son and how he maintained a very difficult diet for 6 years while he was a child. This story is one of the things I keep present when I feel a going-off-plan rebellion brewing.

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Where you end up is more important than how fast or where you start out.
- Improved fitness and nutrition, energy and confidence are my rewards.
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
A PH (personal high) is the main goal, a PB is the sometime icing on the cake.
Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
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June - an all day hike sounds like a wonderful and motivating reward. Go get it!

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I like my diet coach's "Oh Well" summary - "oh, well... I don't have to like it but if I want those advantages on the card, I need to do it."

In Beck Pink, Beck talks about her child who was put on a very restrictive diet and his life was in peril if he ate "fun foods" that most kids can eat and they don't get fat because they are active (and probably because they eat less at regular meals) foods like candy, cookies, ice cream, or any other food that contained sugar. Surely if a child can adjust to such a difficult diet, I can at my leisure follow a slightly negative energy balance diet that allows me to lose weight slowly and steadily. When I want to eat off the plan and indulge for pleasure, I can think how silly and self-sabotaging that I don't have the strength to do this and a child does and did.

My weight today is 9 days after Day 15 because I didn't do a Beck trek every day. Speaking of eating off plan, my Day 15 weight is a high of 131.5 due to a few days of binging, my weight was averaging 129. Then I made some changes in my diet which are being very effective. I was eating generous protein, low carbs, healthy fats, but not watching how much fat. Now I am watching fat closer and I am eating more carbs (although no sugar or flour) and because my fat intake is lower, I was able to add more food and still have a lower daily calorie cap than before - about 2000 calories then, about 1700 calories now. My weight today is 127.5 and my weights for the previous 5 days are 126.6, 127.5, 127, 129, 128.5. I am happy with the current trend - goal weight is 122, my reward for touching 125 is and all-day hike and my reward for averaging 125 for a week is another all day hike. I really hope to average 125 by the end of the 5% Challenge I am participating in, which ends December 2.

So this Beck day is about dealing with disappointment, and I know I will need these responses, but right now, everything is going tickety boo.

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Where you end up is more important than how fast or where you start out.
- Improved fitness and nutrition, energy and confidence are my rewards.
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
A PH (personal high) is the main goal, a PB is the sometime icing on the cake.
Never underestimate the inevitability of gradualness.
Sopra le nebbie delle valle e le vicende della vita sorge una promessa di luce e serenita.


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Weighed in and recorded, no change, so this get to use the simple but important concept from this chapter, saying "Oh Well" and moving on.

For today
-Read ARC twice
-Ate sitting and mindfully most of the time, and gave myself credit. Monitored fullness after each meal and if I could take a walk.
-Did Sun Salutations this morning and gave myself credit.
--No cravings
--Stayed on plan, No Choice
-Took an unplanned walk today
-Have planned my meals and snacks for tomorrow in Spark Nutritional Tracker and gave
myself credit.
-Read my “It’s Not Okay” and “Get Back on Track” response cards twice
- Weighed myself, recorded my weight on my weight loss graph, no change, so got to use my “Oh Well” and move on.


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I've been busy taking DH to hospital every day for IV antibiotic treatments and my body is getting tired as is my constitution!! Instead of complaining about it I think OH WELL, there isn't much I can do about it at the moment, and this too shall pass. So Oh Well is a suitable term to use in instances other than food or "not my food!!" Have a great day everyone.

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In other words, Cat, this means I have to grow up!!?? It is about time! emoticon
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The first time I went through the Beck-niques Day 22 lesson, this jumped off the pages at me:

"Once you truly accept that you NEED to follow the steps in this program, your struggles will diminish and dieting will become much easier!!!"

During this lesson Beck talks of her youngest son. Beck's son is MY hero ... for six(6) years he followed the ketogenic diet due to his epilepsy!! Six years … every day … and as a child!!! Beck and her son coined the phrase ... Oh, well ... when her son was faced with foods he could not eat.

YOU Mtn Kitten are not a child. YOU chose to address YOUR behaviors that led to and keep YOU overweight and unhealthy. This is ... uncomfortable!!!!! OH, well ... kiddo.

Any body with me???

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Oh well is very timely. And not easy. I guess if it was, I would not be overweight.I am saying timely because I could feel a certain rebellion brewing after a few "good" weeks.
True too, that eating the best quality food we can afford makes dieting easier, and not like a punishment.

I weighed 1 Kg less this morning than last week, despite my extra food of last night.

However, I am becoming more aware, when I read your posts, how "just" going over by 150 cal daily can add up very quickly and show as a weight gain.

I am learning so much with this trek. And this is not my first reading; my first reading was about 10 years ago. Since then I slowly lost some weight, but this time around I want to get to my goal weight of 140lb.

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I'm down 2 lbs from last week's weigh-in. That's a normal fluctuation for me, but it also tells me that what I'm doing is working. I'm back in the Green Zone (see my Day 21 blog if you want to know what this means).

I'm staying away from sugary snacks for the most part. Because this Beck reboot has increased my awareness, I've dropped my average daily calorie intake by about 150 calories compared to last month.

As far as "Oh Well" goes, I have this to contribute. I like ice cream, but I do not eat it. It hurts my teeth too much to endure the yummy taste. Oh well. When someone at work brings in DQ Dilly Bars for the crew, I say, "Thanks, but no thanks." Oh well. Other goodies "hurt" my waistline, so I can just as easily say Oh well to those.

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I agree with you, Rhonda, that "having sugar out of my system makes saying "Oh Well" a heck of a lot easier."


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Day 22 - Say "Oh Well" to Disappointment

This is another good mantra to have at the ready. There are so many situations where you can't have what you want and need to make different choices than your friends or family. Saying "Oh Well" and then giving yourself credit is a good strategy. Today we had lunch out with friends and I ordered what I wanted.... but I didn't finish it all and left some on my plate. It was good quality and very tasty and the DH got to enjoy some of my leftovers. He agreed it was delish and that he would have ordered it given another opportunity. Last night I passed on dessert when everyone else was having homemade camp pies. Having sugar out of my system makes saying "Oh Well" a heck of a lot easier. I just need to remember to tell myself "Not my Food!"

Update: I need to remember when I buy food that I am wort h it to eat to get top quality. Buying good tasty fruit, veggies and condiments makes eating healthy much more enjoyable and less diet like.

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My weight is the same today as it was last week.

(Here comes the excuse. Listen for it.) I am not exactly disappointed because we dined out last night and I think I am seeing salt weight. However it is time to be accountable. And accountable I am. Unlike a lot of Sparkers I need more accountability, not less. Oh. Well.

Kriszta your affirmation that after 20 minutes I will feel more full is so very true!

Here is my day 22 blog.

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Saying "Oh well... this meal was not as satisfactory and fun as I expected, but this was it, there is no more" is not easy. But it is easier to say at the end of a planned meal, than saying after the first unplanned bite, because once I started eating off plan, it gets harder with every bite.
The fullness I feel will increase in the next 20-30 minutes, and the desire to eat more will diminish,so the longer I resist, the better chances I have!

Weight is one pond less than last week - may be "real" loss or just fluctuation, but it is nice to see a number very close to my target.

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Goal weight:
59 +- 1 kg /// 130 +-2 pounds
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Maintenance Lessons Learned:
-go on with the healthy lifestyle learned in weight loss phase
-just add healthy foods gradually to stop losing
-work out every day - 30-60 minutes is enough to maintain weight and good mood
-do not try to balance overeating by extreme workouts, it is not going to work
-avoid overeating, instead of satisfaction you get stronger cravings


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Maintenance Lessons Learned:
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-just add healthy foods gradually to stop losing
-work out every day - 30-60 minutes is enough to maintain weight and good mood
-do not try to balance overeating by extreme workouts, it is not going to work
-avoid overeating, instead of satisfaction you get stronger cravings


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I actually used this today. NO CHOICE and Oh Well.

Then I just walked away and forgot about it.

Good Day!

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Day 22 - "Oh Well" to one bite of unplanned food. "No choice" I will not overeat and start over tomorrow. Desire to reach health goals is stronger than desire for food. Since Oct. 2017LCHF plan reduces cravings and hunger. First heard of ketogenic diet at college in 1999. Watched several films:
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Like WalkMama, I use the "oh well" in other situation as well. It's helps me--kind like an acknowledgement or acceptance of what I need to do to reach my health and wellness goals "Oh well," no choice" and getting back on track" are all part of my daily mantras. At this stage my biggest struggles remain eating slowly/mindfully and tolerating hunger.

As for the weigh-in I'm at 199 lbs./90.3 kg. No weight loss from last week but -3 lbs./1.4 kg from three week ago



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I use "oh well" for other disappointments, too, not just for things directly related to sticking to the plan. Agree with GOING-STRONG that this is a handy mantra to have.

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Day 22 - Say "Oh Well" to Disappointment

This is another good mantra to have at the ready. There are so many situation where you can't any what you want and need to make different choices than your friends or family. Saying "Oh Well" and then giving yourself credit is a good strategy. Today we had lunch out with friends and I ordered what I wanted.... but I didn't finish it all and left some on my plate. It was good quality and very tasty and the DH got to enjoy some of my leftovers. He agreed it was delish and that he would have ordered it given another opportunity. Last night I passed on dessert when everyone else was having homemade camp pies. Having sugar out of my system makes saying "Oh Well" a heck of a lot easier.


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emoticon to your persistence, Carolyn, and to the weight lost,
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Maintenance Lessons Learned:
-go on with the healthy lifestyle learned in weight loss phase
-just add healthy foods gradually to stop losing
-work out every day - 30-60 minutes is enough to maintain weight and good mood
-do not try to balance overeating by extreme workouts, it is not going to work
-avoid overeating, instead of satisfaction you get stronger cravings


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I like the phrase, "Oh, well" it just works for me. Maybe because I don't see it is as disappointment. Can't have this or that in huge quantities like I did in the past, oh well, at least I don't weigh what I did in the past. I overate, oh well, I can get back on the diet next snack or meal...it just works.

I have broken through the plateau by being patient. I "only" lost .6 of a pound but it was a loss! I am feeling motivated!

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This chapter ... had a life changing effect on me. To read of Judith's young son following a strict diet due to his epilepsy ... just lite me up.

I am following an elimination diet for 4ish months that my doc recommended due to my hypothyroidism, insulin resistance and pernicious anemia ... which are all intertwined. I am 6ish weeks into it.

My attitude is ... just do it. No questions. No excuses. Just do IT.

Oh, well kiddo.
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