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1/25/14 5:04 P

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Yes - I have also fallen in love to easy.
Now I feel that I am better off alone.
At the same time I miss having a man to care about me and where we could help eachother having a nice life.
But I also feel men as a threat to the life I have build up.


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1/24/14 11:38 A

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That's just soo funny. If you paint the fence I will let your shovel the walk as well. He should be paying his daughter for help. I pay my housekeeper who does things I cannot and a few that I could but I pay her so it's okay.

As bi-polar people we tend to fall in love SUPER quick. I read it in a book about us and instantly identified. My tendency to fall quick is not so good lately. I think it's because I believe that you've gotta earn it. Maybe I just grew up. I'm working through menopause and that helps with the swings for sure.

Men ask for sex but if they like you they want you to say no, There's a guy who wrote "He's just not that into you" and I think he covers it in there. Men don't mean to be sleazy, but it is okay in society if they are. If a woman is, it's considered terrible. My best sex is always alone so he's got to show me that he cares for me as a human, he's gotta know about my faith, my family, my friends and my diagnosis and still want me for me to even consider having sex with someone.




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1/2/14 7:41 A

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I talked with an old friend of mine
She suggested I could ask him whether he would do anything for me if I vacuum cleaned for him, washed his cloths and ironed them in stead of his 30 year old daughter who has 2 children and maybe a job to care for.
Yeahh - Of course I could need some help.. I have a house and a garden and food to make and teach ceramics and sell and excibit ceramics.
His answer was that he would like to have me in bed and caress me and thank me in this way for my job."I want you - I want you"
I said I do not have time to use 2 hours back and forth to help you with your home.
That was that. I actually have had a job as a home helper for old people and handicapped people. This was a paid job for people who could not go to café every day. The idea of working free for a man who is just looking at TV and going to cafés is far from me.


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12/28/13 4:15 P

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Yes it Works when this is the dream for them of life.
Stiff roles are not a problem for those who love those roles.
I find that both men and women shall have equal possibilities in life.



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12/28/13 6:09 A

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It seems to work for them. emoticon

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12/27/13 3:36 P

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The other day I went to the National Museum with a man..
He told me his 30 year old daughter once and a while comes to his home and vacuum cleans for him and irons his cloths.
He is 53 and healthy. He explained vacuum cleaning and ironing is not a man´s job. His daughter uses about 45 minutes to come and has a husband and 2 children. I don´t know whether she has a job.
He is not Danish.
I wonder how roles can be so stiff. So that it is determined what a man or woman shall do rather than what shall be done and dividing it after time and ability.


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12/16/13 12:40 P

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I guess it is difficult to explain


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what???

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I talked with my ex about it..
He answered that sex is very important to men(isn´t it to women)
But if there is nothing else in the relationship then it is dull
And if the woman is too fast in saying yes to sex he becomes suspicious - Will she make love to anyone?
I said if she is fast - He is also part of a fast act.
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Well The man is mostly interested in sex and the woman shall say no - In order to get more profound interest -
I really wonder whether a man would have sex with anyone - And the woman´s goal is in some or another way not to be - anyone -
How do you know - you are not anyone -


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12/15/13 7:40 A

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Men will do anything for sex. Women want love so that means a commitment first. I only had sex with one man. My husband of 46 years. When I get bad, he takes care of me. Sure there were some bad years but all's good in our 60's.

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12/14/13 4:20 A

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I dated a man
He seems nice -
Has a smile in his eyes
Is relaxed - Does not worry about things (Hmm - Maybe this can be dull?)

BUT it seems to me the difference between men and women is that

A man wants sex fast in order to know whether he would like further relationship -

A woman wants further relationship first in order to feel affection as part of sex

So this makes no path further for me. I find it the wrong order and something that has nothing to do with happiness and love with affection. I prefer being a single.. Maybe this dilemma is the dilemma that makes prostitution a necessity?

Is sex first and maybe tenderness after the general way for men?
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